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Any advice to someone who is now in an unbearable pain from heartbreak? (Page 2)
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Breakups are part of Life and Admitting how you Really Feel is the first step toward Healing. It is okay to Feel the way you feel. The next step is doing some Reflection. Is there something you need to apologize for or something you should have done differently. Once you have answered or acted on those questions you must Force yourself to move on with your life Learning from the Experience!
Well, it isn't a break-up, but it hurts like one. It's unrequited love. It hurts so much she was my "friend." She's probably going to marry someone else and that idea of her marrying or being with someone else scares me so much it hurts! :(
I know you are asking the question, but does she know how you feel?
Yeah, she does. I told her about them long ago. She wanted us to remain "friends." But in truth, she didn't even consider us friends. But when I started to see her almost everyday because of work that's when it became really painful and hard to let go of her. She doesn't want us being friends because probably she suspects I still have feelings for her or they might be back. So yes, when she speaks of other guys it still hurts, but I'm avoiding interactions with her.
Or at least trying to.
I'm very sorry for the hurt your dealing with but I will be honest we all have been heartbroken at one time. For me there wasn't anything that made it easier except time. Time heals it can be weeks or months but it will get better.
I hope so! I just want to find that girl that I love and she loves me!
You will I promise
Still, not even a small sign.
Allow yourself to feel it and then everyday try to do little things that were easy for you before. Like get up and make your bed, eat breakfast, catch up with friends, love yourself a little better everyday. After awhile it gets tolerable until you dont feel it anymore. It takes a long time but you have to remember to love yourself. Always.
I'm trying to read. It can keep my mind away from things. But during the initial shock, it's really difficult to do anything...
Cry and let out the emotions it's a Healing and you'll feel so much better. If you don't release the emotion it will manifest in your body and something you don't want. Trust me.
I tried but it either wouldn't come out, or very little would... :(
It's hard. It takes time - don't rush yourself - I hanged out with my friends and tried new hobbies to help
I'm tryin' but sometimes some thoughts just bring me back to her and I just feel like doing nothing :(
I never had relationship issues because I've never been in a relationship. But as for pain and suffering, I have been through a lot of that. My advice is do not resort to bad habits. My second piece of advice is focus on healing.
I've never been in one either, which makes me feel unloved. This is just a case of one-sided love. :(
It hurts a lot though
How long were you together before the break up? How long has it been since the break up?
It wasn't a break up. It is unrequited love. She rejected me long ago but now she wants to marry someone else and I'm in so much pain over it. :(
You have way too much free time to let your mind run wild daydreaming about her. Get a hobby. Get a job. Focus on learning things that improve yourself and have nothing to do with her or other women. Maybe right now you think about her for 20-30 minutes at a time? Force yourself to lessen it to say half that. Once you master that reduce it by half again and so on. Check out some of my mytakes.
Honestly, I feel like I have what I need. I just need a girl and she was the only one in my sight. The one that checked most of the boxes you know?
I already exercise, I try to do my hobbies, but recently, it's been so painful honestly that I don't feel like doing anything. Like the idea of her being with someone else scares me so much! I just don't understand it's so unfair. :(
You need to fall in love with doing something that builds yourself up & has nothing to do with women. After you do that you'll feel much better and eventually, if you want, you will find it way easier to get women too.
You're right man... :(
Mine was one sided. But it sucked when he gave me mixed signals.
My ego is hurt as well. People don't recognize good valuable sweethearts.
I later found out he's married. I envy him and his wife. I just hate that he gave me false hope.
Mine's one-sided too. What hurts is that I found out she likes someone else and is probably gonna marry him. It made my heart drop! It hurts so much!! :(
Yeah ik the feeling
Pain is the down-side of Love/Joy no matter what ends the "Love" there will be pain, If she died, if she moved away, if she cheated... no matter what the reason... Pain, it is the opposite of Love/Joy... sorry... God can be cruel sometimes
"No matter what ends the "Love" there will be pain" yeah man, mine was one-sided and the reason I'm getting hurt right now is that she's now thinking of marrying someone else. :(
You have to be strong
I was ruined by a guy and I did believe there’s no way I could trust a man ever again
I wondered why he was so cold-hearted and cruel to someone who was completely devoted to him
Why he turned me down
Just think about plenty of women who are suffering from heart-break and some of them convince themselves that they will never find a love and the love doesn’t exist and so on.
I believe it makes you feel better
You are not alone.
That's kind of toxic tell a man he has to be strong.
I just want to find another girl!
What’s wrong with being strong?
No matter who you are man
or woman
They have to be strong
Yeah, "you're not alone" helps because whenever I get into a problem in life, I happen to think that I'm alone with it, that I'm behind in life you know?
Suck it up.. buttercup. Life is suffering. Some children were born in starvation. You have to deal with break ups. be greatful.
the only way i get over a woman is with many nights of stiff drinks, 1-2 good cries, a hug from my dad, and a few weekends partying with the boys and getting shit faced.
That's a bad idea man... it would only make it worse...
nah it helps me every time.
I would consume copious amounts of alcohol. After a few days of that I would get tired of it and start to live my life again.
Come now. If you think that's worst then you should see the suffering of people facing injustice and persecution
It's all relative mate.
Yes, been there before and can guarantee you: No matter how unbearable it feels to you now, it IS bearable. You will get past it.
I hope so. I want to find that girl that loves me! :(
One thing you'll have to learn is that (romantic) love isn't forever. No matter how in love you are with someone, there's never a guarantee that it won't fade away eventually. You're not immune to that, no one is. That doesn't make love worth less. In fact, it means we need to value it even more while it lasts.
It's a painful reality that things like that don't last forever. We love we get attached and after that all that emotional investment goes to waste. Like nothing happened... It's just even more painful when the one person you love makes you feel unloved and unappreciated. :(
It doesn't have to go to waste though when it ends.
Well for me it seems like it did. There wasn't anything to learn. She was a friend who didn't love me. I don't know why she doesn't want us to remain friends anymore nor why she rejected me. It's just pure pain especially when she talks about other guys.
You will learn something from it and grow from it.
It is not cancer and you can survive. I never wanted to be around anyone that did not want to be around me.
It sucks man. Emotional pain is like physical pain.
It is true but cancer eventually kills. I just had my heart ripped in half so I know what it is like.
Sorry to hear that man...
Don't look for help here. You won't really find any.
Get a paid consultation session with a professional psychotherapist, who will prescribe you antidepressants and get on them. At least then living isn't so bad.
Is this your first heartbreak? Why does it hurt you so bad?
It is my first heart break. It hurts so bad as it makes me I feel unwanted and unloved...
Many of us have been there. The only thing you can do is give it a lot of time and focus on yourself in the meantime. It took me a complete 8 months to get over my first heartbreak and it may take you a shorter or longer time.
Truth be told, break ups are not pretty and don't use them to beat yourself up about someone who doesn't see the value in you. Take the time to heal and slowly accept the reality of the situation and whatever you do, don't let them come back in your life.
It's not a break up though. It's one-sided love. She rejected me. I've known her and became too attached to her for a long time. I thought I was over her. Until I recently found out that she likes someone else and is planning to marry him. When I heard that, my heart DROPPED! My heart shattered. Still, I have to see her almost everyday and be reminded of it. The thought of her being with someone else is UNREAL to me. I know it's stupid to be so attached to someone who doesn't love me, but the reason is that my ego took a major hit. She totally chose someone else and I'm still processing my emotions... I want to cry but barely anything comes out.
Ignore her, don't look at her social media, occupy yourself with hobbies. Once you find another girl you won't even be thinking of her anymore.
That's what I'm currently trying to do. I just want to find that girl man ðŸ˜ðŸ˜
It's hard out there ik
The problem is that I'm getting the impression that no girl likes me let alone ones that I'm attracted to... :(
Try this
False imprisonment: 5 years.
Sexual assault for simulated sex act: 2-20 years. $10k fine.
Aggravated assault: 5 years. $5k fine.
But you forgot totally awesome power bomb bruh. Some things are worth a prison sentence