Very well said. You’re right we are born and grow up with our guard up to protect ourselves. It is human nature. When we feel safe enough to trust someone we slowly lower it. Trust isn’t given it has to be earned. Thanks for the reply i appreciate it
It’s a good question. 🍻
Thanks hun. I appreciate you sharing your thoughtful opinion
What happened that changed your mind and made you a believer? Is something you have experienced in your personal life. Thanks for adding on to what i described
I'm an introvert. I never had any friends.During college I met an ambivert guy & there was an instant connection. It felt like I've known him my whole life. We became best friends within a year & started to hang out every day after college. Talking to him is like I'm talking to myself, but much better. We just click with eachother. We have very similar interests. He understands me better than my own family. He's kind, caring & down to earth kinda person. Everybody likes him. We're very similar, but sometimes we have different opinions & it helps to understand situation from a different perspective.The difference between us is - He's religious & I'm not. He have strong convincing power & I'm very stubborn. 😅
We didn't know we are in love until this pandemic seperated us. Now it's been 5 months we're in a commited relationship & next year we're getting married. 😊
Well i guess congratulations is in order. Sounds like he is a very nice guy and you are lucky to have him in your life. I hope he realizes how lucky he is to have you as well. While my house has always been an open forum to discuss anything there were 2 topics off limits. Politics and Religion. Opinionated people can be swayed to change there minds with an educated differ of opinion but when it comes to Religion and Politics it might as well be WWIII
Thank you! 😊I think it's better to avoid the topics which ends up with arguments. A couple of times we argued about religion when we became friends. The last time this topic came up, he said that he or his family will not force me to follow the religion. But I think it's ok if believing in something brings hope in their lives or motivates them to become a better person. So I don't bother him being religious.
Ex wife was raised strict Catholic i wasn’t. We argued when we were married about how to raise our kids. I believe you can find god anywhere not just in a building with a cross on the roof. Well she got her wishes but has since stopped practicing. Religion to me is what controls your moral compass and makes u a better person
Ohh, it's hard to figure out how to raise kids. What you teach them in childhood plays important role in their life. I got the same situation in my house. My mom believes in God & my dad believes in science. I know mythology & science, my parents never forced me & I guess I turned out fine. 😅In case of right & wrong - I think anything that is done intentionally to harm someone or create problems in someone's life is a wrong thing. But every religion has its own rules. If anything you do violates those rules is considered "wrong". It becomes a problem when people believe that God can save their lives if they continue to follow some rules.I've seen some of my relatives dying because of those rules.
I have seen the same. The Catholic church is too hypocritical for me. I raised my kids to be gentleman and couldnt be prouder. by the way they say live is grand? Apparently divorce is $425 grand ouch
That's nice! It's really hard to find gentlemen nowadays. Who knows how the next generation will be? Every generation is different than previous one. People easily get bad influence. I hope I'll raise good kids.
Being a parent is by far the toughest yet most satisfying job in the world. I’m sure you will be a great Mother. You teach them right from wrong and then pray. Lol I have been asked a million times for advice and best thing i can think of is keep an open line of communication with them. Let them know its ok to make mistakes as long as they learn from them. Its when they start repeating those mistakes it becomes a problem
I remember when I was a kid, my mom used to ask me every day how was my day at the school. It was like a daily routine, so I started to tell her about my day & she'd tell me about her day at office. My dad is an excellent lie detector. Whenever I lied to him; he'd say - "You can lie to the world, but you can't lie to yourself."My parents are more like friends to me.
Sounds like your parents set a good example for you. Your mother asking you about your day is exactly what i meant by keeping an open line of communication. That is a good way to knowing when you needed a pat on the back from a friend or a swift kick in the ass from a parent. It is a thin line and sounds like your parents managed it well.
Somewhere I read that strict parents raise best liars. But I think being too friendly can spoil your kids. The funny thing is my parents never ever yelled at me & it didn't spoil me. It must be hard to maintain the balance. 😅
I can honestly say i never laid a hand on my kids and the only time i raised my voice was when they talked disrespectfully to their mother. That was my biggest thing raising them. I see it way too much. I believe women are gods greatest creation and my motto to my kids has always been treat and talk to every woman the way you want people to treat your mother.
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You are definitely in the majority with your opinion. I wonder if its always been this way or changed over time? I was with my ex from 14, married at 22, divorced at 46. Problem was it felt like i was living with my best friend at the end so i guess u never know. Thanks for sharing
Romanticism seems to have declined precipitously.Though I never believed in the term. I saw a lot of 'reality' around me growing up. Could be part of it, also.This may interest you (or maybe you already know) - the more dangerous, precarious, life-threatening something is, the more uncertainty one has, economic or otherwise instability, the more individuals, and societies, will fall back on, or begin a trend of, mystical thinking. It's happening now, again. But apparently not in the dating world. (There optimism has fallen to shit.) Millennials are highly superstitious, into astrology, things like magic thinking.But otoh, religions have always accompanied superstitousness. They go hand in hand.It's also why there are so many 'rules' at sea. A very dangerous profession, collecting fish, etc.
Oh i know. Thats why i laugh at the saying “plenty of fish in the sea”. Hahaha not sure how i feel about my divorce. Together 32 years married 24 and just fell out of love. wouldn't really change a thing. Happier than i have been in a long time. Its weird
Glad you're happy and that's a good attitude to have about it all.I no longer see all divorces as 'failures.' That's way too limited a view. 32 years is very, very, good.Time for a new chapter for you (and her.)
The dating scene is just so different then i expected. Not seeking a partner but not opposed either. I am content hanging with the dogs at the beach lol
Not only do i understand what you are saying i have to say i agree with you 100%. I asked the question because i thought i was the only one who didn't believe in soulmates but wow was i wrong. Thanks for your opinion i appreciate it
wel-com...LOLu prove I am not weird...thanks for proving...
Well tbh i think we’re all a little weird. But i respect the ones who embrace their weirdness and are not afraid to speak their opinions.
Sure.. we're cool weirdos...Join the club of weirdos @Michael49
@15_Debo I humbly accept the invitation to join the club of weirdos. Is their any hazing rituals i have to do before being accepted? Lol
Duh i should have known. Its normal for clubs to have hazing. Nothing is normal with the weird club
Yeah That's what I'm talkin bout...
I like being surrounded by like minded people that think like I do. Thanks
sure.. anytimesince we're in the same club, isn't it?
You are wise beyond your years. I appreciate you so much
Very well said and every thing you added on is also important. I was married for 24 years and everything we mentioned rang true in our marriage until you got to the affections part. So i guess one thing can be the difference. Funny how we are almost describing a fairy tale and you have pic of Cinderella’s Castle in your profile. Hahaha thanks for sharing ur opinion
So you are saying you don’t believe in soulmates?
How can a soulmate exist when a soul doesn’t?
You are entitled to your opinion and i respect every ones opinion. The reason i asked the question was i’m not sure if i believe either.
Like anything else, think about it logically. There are nearly 8 billion people in the world. If you are “meant” to only be with one person, the chances of finding that one is essentially one in 8 billion. Let’s even cut that in half by saying your “soulmate” has to be the opposite gender. That’s one in 4 billion. Fuck it, let’s cut that down to quarters and say they have to be in your age range and say its only one in one billion. You have a better chance of winning the lottery… multiple times… in a row. If that were how things actually worked our population would have never gotten this high.
Lmao you have the math that proves it. Looking at it that way i’m pretty sure you have put my question to bed. Thanks for the reply. I will never waste another second of my life pondering the answer to that question. I appreciate you for doing so.
But is that what you consider “soulmates” or just an example of people who are made for each other? Thanks for your opinion
by the way what is ur secret you look great for being 91 years old? Lmao
First, why does everyone think I’m 91🤔2nd, I am under the belief that soulmate is a category term for the only set of souls that are mated to be together at a given point in life. It can’t be one person because people are always changing too. I am definitely not the same person I was 3 years ago so it makes sense that my soulmate is another person within this same category.
Thats what your profile says. Thats a really good point about always changing or evolving. That was a big reason why after 24 years married i got a divorce. We had different views of life after the kids left for college.
Lol I’m kidding. I know it does. I have an old soul and you sir are a handsome young man
Haha awww thank you that is very kind of you. You are gorgeous and very sweet. by the way flattery will get you everywhere.
Flattery? I was flirting w you lol
Lmao love your silly, playful banter. Such a change of pace from all the serious people in here. I am flattered by your flirting.
Wow that is very well said. We live in a world that human nature automatically keeps our guard up and protects us from being hurt. So being able to let that guard down and be yourself is a freeing experience. Thanks for the thoughtful reply
Add in no awkward moments of silence and thats when you know
Thank you for your question!
Awww very sweet of you to say. It was my pleasure
I asked the question cuz i hear people talking about it all the time and i thought i was the only one who didn’t believe it existed. By the replies i received here i found out there are way more people like you and i that dont believe. Thanks for your opinion i appreciate it
You’re a fan of lovebird’s?
No but I posted a question about them recently
So of course i had to see your question. That is BS. Do u know the outcome?
I never found out. What do you think?
I hate to say it but its the world we live in but i hope your friend didn’t get involved? There are so many illegal breeders out there and they couldnt give a shit about the animal or birds even worse is fish
She didn’t get involved
It must be past my bed time. Obviously you would have known the outcome id she did. Its just a crazy story. I’d think he wouldn’t have reached out for help if he was a breeder? Hmmm
Thanks for answering
External variables external pressures are what causes it to "last forever" unfortunately. Unfortunately.
I've been thinking it and gut thinking it even and I conclude there's more going on than just chemical releases in the brain and confusions for lust. Nuh-uh. There's something more there I feel... and it's deliberately vague... it's what keeps the magnet pull keep pulling... that's legit soulmates... you feel it... really feel it...
Even if they're already hitched or you're unavailable. It's more a showing of what could've been. Thanks universe. Ha :)
What does the Bible say if you get divorced and become two again?
Seems to be the popular opinion thanks for replying
So do you think there is no such thing as soulmates or soulmates has a different meaning to everyone?
Yes. We just use that term and give it meanings to make ourselves feel better