How do you define a strong boyfriend/ girlfriend?

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

We hear all the time “I want a strong man” or “ I want a strong woman”. However, it seems like we all have different perspectives on how we define the concept of a strong man/ woman as a significant other.

Is it about a physical? Mental? Financially? All of the above? Let me see things through your eyes on this 😇

[NathanDavis]

someone that has overcome challenging situations and has become a better self because of it... lessons learned can make people stronger

someone aware of their weaknesses, their flaws and shortcomings and that keeps them on check... someone in control of themselves is someone strong

someone that has a strong personality and is also strong in character, better if this is based and coming from a well-place confidence and a healthier sense of self-worth... these are usually stronger people when it comes to facing difficulties

someone that strives for balance and also for a partner... the most reliable people are usually the ones that allow themselves to rely on others as well... because sometimes thinking that you're better on your own and that going at things alone will make you stronger will result on bringing yourself to a breaking point

[NamerOfStars]

A lot of people want someone who can be a source of mental- psychological, really- backup; a knight to come riding in on a white horse and slay their dragons. That's understandable, but it's best not to forget that sometimes, you have to ride to THEIR rescue. And it's better to seek someone to buoy you up, rather than to drag the opposition down, lest you become overly dependent on them in a one-sided way. Knowing how to strike that balance is an incredibly tricky thing, though, being open enough to be that vulnerable without being unable to handle your own problems.

But most people don't think things through that far; at least not the stuff they casually post on social media. I think most of them just want someone who's strong when and how they're weak.

[Siren777]

Emotional intelligence is imperative. When you have emotional intelligence you are a pretty balanced individual. Open minded, willing to learn new things. Character.
Healthy body & mind (we are what we attract). Emotionally available - I won't waste my love on someone who doesn't connect with me, so why give him my body? I think we waste our time and our lives with the wrong people and then decide to blame them when it's our choice, actions and decisions. When you live a balanced life, you have balance and stability in all aspects. I love strong men but that doesn't mean he always has to be strong for me, I'm not needy but I would appreciate his strength.

[Siren777]

Thanks for the mho ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

[DizzyDesii]

Lol i love that meme haha. I dont think i ever said i want a strong man outside of one who has great balance and lift strength in the bedroom haha. I mean i want him to be mentally strong too. Like i dont care if he cries but i dont want a guy who cries to some Nicholas Sparks movie. I’d probably laugh in his face. I also dont want a guy who can't think for himself and constantly goes to his friends or mom and lets them make his decisions. I need a strong dude who can standup for me against our enemies and i want us to protect eachother when called for

[jennifer_bloom]

My boyfriend does not have to be strong, if he is helpful and loyal and supportive, then he is good enough. But my definition of a strong guy is a guy who is able to be objective and put his mission and his morals above his friendships and does the right thing without worrying about how it affects his reputation, and is able to discern things others do not.

[MCheetah]

A "strong man" would be a man who doesn't quit when life gets too tough and keeps going, through thick and thin. But MANY women may use it as "tall, physically good looking, muscular, and aggressive," which they like.

I don't want a "strong woman," but they would be one who is assertive and always speaking her mind" in a crass ad blunt kind of way. It's too masculine of a trait, for my liking. I want a woman who has a backbone and is honest and can stand for what she believes in, but I don't want a "strong woman."

And that lady sounds like "soulmate" is probably doing 45 to life in the federal penitentiary.

[FinalFantasyBro]

For my idea girlfriend I would honestly want her to have a sense of self worth. She needs to be strong in character I don't want her to be physically strong because I don't find muscles on women sexy. But she needs to have her own goals and her own set of hobbies, of course I definitely wouldn't sharing some hobbies but I still would want her to have her own hobbies or interest plus I want a girl who can at least not judge others especially me. So basically what I considered as strength is a good personality not actually physical strength don't like muscle bound women.

[FinalFantasyBro]

Wouldn't mind sharing hobbies

[dustybiker]

Someone comfortable in their own skin. Doesn’t knee-jerk react to life’s shovelfuls, but clear and thoughtful head. (Mind you everyone has an off day) Has your back and already knows you have theirs. Can’t wait to tell you what happened to them that day, which is a biggie, as it shows open communication.
Strength, looks.. money. Not applicable without the mind first for me.

[Agape93]

Strength of character

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

Explain? ☺️

[Agape93]

A moral backbone and a strong enough will not to buckle under pressure.

If you're against, say, sexual assault, I expect you to at minimum not do it if given an opportunity, or even protect that person in danger. I expect that if someone pressures you to do it or threatens you to do it, that you'd tell them to go fuck themselves.

[Dude_777]

When an SO has a lot of available options, but she still choose to be with you, leaving all other available options behind.

[Anonymous]

- body can give birth to a lot of babies
- doesn't blame other people for what they're causing
- doesn't try to seem good when they know they're assholes... and then get mad when you dont believe them