During marriage when do spouses get tired especially from having sex with the same person? Do things change after kids? How long does the honey moon Stage last
When do guys and girls get tired of the honey moon Stage?
This is why (scientifically-speaking) romantic-relations should be based on far more than just the emotions felt/induced, or the duration of the high will be the duration of the relationship.
it should last forever, but since old age, infidelity, and other problems came into the world everything changed. when people are beautiful and young, when they love each other, when they are faithful, it should last forever. when they do all they can to make each other happy, the romance remains. I mean, if there's love, passion, when the sex is good, it should not change. if people must age, then they should work on other things like keep up with their shape the best way they can, and work on being lovely to be around and faithful. all people have to do is focus.
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I’m 2 years in with a guy and we just started the honeymoon phase a couple of months ago. We never really had it in the beginning as we were busy and Covid happened so we went backwards. Never had it like this before so hoping things last a little longer. Usually it’s a year for me. Kids change things but now mine are older they only change things when they’re around and you can’t have sex on the dining table or he all lived up without one of them giving you the side eye 🤣
Usually happens after having kids. When either party feels too secure in the marriage and stops taking time to do thoughtful things for the other. When one of the two becomes out of the loop in communication and honesty. When they are not willing to sort through their arguments and make things work. The negative words are remembered for a long time and it takes a minimum of 5 positive words to counterbalance the negative. If either is not willing to apologize or admit they were wrong.
In a relationship one of the best parts about it is holding onto that honeymoon status there are times where I've gotten two and three years and it's just been beautiful for me it would last forever it all changes when something in the relationship changes the first time somebody did something stupid the first time somebody lies to you is what it all changes and it starts going downhill from there it might take a while but it gets to the bottom of the hill
A friend of mine got married when he was 36, and his was was around 42 at the time. It isn't like my friend gives lots of details, but I picked up from him that she only liked sex for a couple of years, and then lost all interest in it. He hasn't mentioned it in years so I don't know if she ever got it back or not. They are happily married though.
If it's toxic, that happens a lot quicker, within the first few months. Then the fighting begins and doesn't stop. We lie and tell ourselves it'll get better but it won't. You need that year to develop a deeper bond.
After kids are born, definitely. I love my kids but I wish we would have waited longer. Because it's all yelling and screaming after that. And sex? I think it's ironic sex makes kids yet kids make it impossible to enjoy sex. Forget about the all day marathons. Sex after having kids is usually sneaking in a quickie before the kids come screaming for mom or dad. Trust me- nothing makes you lose your boner faster than a screaming baby.
A wise man once said the first tear of marriage us anywhere sex. Sex happens anywhere at any time. Years 2 through 4 are strictly bedroom sex. And at year 5 you just gave hallway sex, that's where you pass eachother in the hall and say fuuuuck you
Once you know how the mind works you can resist the "natural" rut and MAKE it better. I'm not saying it's not work but a trend in science is to say "that's just the way you are" and personal responsibility is thrown out the window.
All I'm saying is... it can be better and you don't have to be a passenger in your own life. You have a choice every minute of every day about what time you're going to do.
Your mind wants "easy". If you just follow the programming that's where your own mind will take you. Go to a psych ward. Your mind is not always your friend. Own it. Control it to the best of your ability.
