My girl and guy bestfriend slept together and hid it from me. Should I be mad?

[Anonymous]

So I’ve had this guy bestfriend for almost 2 years now. We’ve always been very close and we did end up having sex pretty recently in the last 3 months or so. I felt guilty cause I didn’t wanna jeopardize our friendship. We have still been sleeping together since about a few days ago. I introduced him to a good girl friend of mine about 2 months ago and we would all chill together and go out. She started acting a little weird about a few weeks ago. She would just make comments while we were all together saying oh you guys love eachother he loves you but she would say it in a very mean jealous way. It just sounded like she envied his and my dynamic. The other night I slept over his house and and he was drunk and asked me to do something for him on his phone. I saw her name in his phone and it was probably wrong of me but I looked at their messages and just felt sick. There were photos of her bra just sitting on his bedroom floor. There were texts talking about her going to his office at late hours of the night. Convos about how much they miss eachother and how she wants him to fall in love with her. They talked about taking day trips together. I confronted him he tried acting like it wasn’t a big deal and she said she played it off like I didn’t know the whole story. He’s flirted and acted like he’s liked me and that’s why I’m so hurt. She knew beforehand me and him have her sex and she still messed with him. She said she wanted to tell me but he “talked her out of it”. I just feel so betrayed and stupid they went behind my back and she says she’s done with him and cares more about me and her friendship than him but at this point I can’t trust them both. I feel like I lost 2 friends in one. I feel dumb. He wants to just all be friends again and stop arguing but I feel like the idiot. I don't know what to do. Should I just distance myself or do you guys think I’m overreacting since he isn’t my boyfriend? I need advice cause I’m so hurt right now.

[koran_harinas]

Peeps with no morality are like this only.
I am really sorry for you fellow human! But both of your so called friends were no way deserve you!

1. Guy who was best friend but kinda something started developing In your relationship - he sidelined that ignored that ! Correct?

2. Your girl friend who knew about him and yours dynamic acted she doesn't care about how you will think of this! Correct?

Basically they both fucked up this friendship dynamic between you three for sure !
Now move on - forgive them but learn the lesson aka never forget!

May the force be with you fellow human always 🌻

[Anonymous]

apart from them keeping it from you You don't have the right to be mad at either of them why because you and this guy aren't in a relationship you aren't his girlfriend or his wife yes he might have been sleeping with you but he has no obligations to you or to only sleep with you so he has free will to sleep with whoever he wants to sleep with whenever he wants to here's some advice casually sleeping with someone very rarely ever leads to you having a relationship with that guy he already got the cake and ate it so he doesn't need to commit to her cause you already gave up the goods

I'm not saying this to hurt you I apologise if that is how what I am saying is coming across

[kyleelyn199723]

No you shouldn’t. You are acting possessive. You are keeping this guy in the friend zone but then also sleeping with him, but you aren’t willing to give him more. You already jeopardized your friendship with him the moment you slept with him. He went off to your friend that is a girl and not only did they sleep together but they also click. You are going to lose both of them and they are going to go off and enjoy each other and that is your fault for being possessive.

[Neosporin]

Lol wow well since he's not a boyfriend I guess it wasn't set in stone anyway. But still he was being a dirt bag by playing with both you and your friend and then thinking you can all just be casual friends again. Like is he just mentally retarded? Well that sucks. I guess the lesson here is that it was always shallow to begin with. I mean did you see yourself ending up with this guy anyway? Maybe the friendship was just always a shallow thing. Him and this other girl. So in the end you just revealed how shallow it all was.

[kyleelyn199723]

So acting possessive over a guy you wouldn’t ever date is okay?

[Neosporin]

@kyleelyn199723 well she didn't say she would never date him... unless she did then you're right

[kyleelyn199723]

@Neosporin “I want to keep him as a friend” possessive behavior.

[Asker]

@kyleelyn199723 I can’t explain his and i’s friendship in the little amount of words I’m able to type on here but I’m not being possessive. He gets jealous if I talk to guys: he tells me he wants to be with me. Then he does this. He’s led me on and now messing with my bestfriend. If you think that’s “possessive” then maybe it is but he isn’t innocent in all this either.

[kyleelyn199723]

@asker you should’ve explained that in your description. Anyways sorry for misunderstanding. I think you do need to go your separate ways from this guy as it just seems like everything is tainted now and there’s no friendship to be built left

[Asker]

@kyleelyn199723 when did I say I wanted to keep him as a friend? I said I felt guilt for having sex with him at first because I didn’t want it to jeopardize our bond or anything. Then we continued having sex after that and that guilt feeling went away. I never said I wanted to just be friends with him lol

[kyleelyn199723]

@asker like I said, I misunderstood but I don’t think there’s any slight chance of being anything with him. You both waited too long to meet out of the friend zone and it looks like he lost interest.

[Asker]

@kyleelyn199723 that’s why I was worried about him messing with her and I can’t really expose the screenshots on here but the screenshots looked very malicious to me like they enjoyed the sneaking around. She knew we have slept together and still do and they both didn’t care about me enough to not do that. It just seems messed up cause I would never do that to her or him but maybe I am overreacting maybe you’re right.

[kyleelyn199723]

@asker well now that I have the other half, I don’t think you are overreacting but I personally think you should remove yourself from the equation and just let them enjoy each other.

[tatianamay]

Well, you aren't in a relationship with him. He is NOT your boyfriend. I dont really want to say tgat you are overreacting, i can understand how you woukd feel. But you cannot stop them from seeing each other. Move on

[spartan55]

Case #6788 for why opposite sex 'friends' are the biggest joke out there

[Hangry06]

Overreacting cause he ain't your boyfriend.

But damn he scored 2 chicks

[Neosporin]

I want to score 2 chicks 🥺😝

[Bdsmaster]

No I don't think you should luv, unless you have feelings towards any one or both of them.

[Anonymous]

Is that really any of your business?