Should couples talk about how many partners they have had?

[Koalamate]

Whenever anyone asks howmany partners they have had there are always issues.
Should it be discussed or left unspoken or is that unhealthy.

Yes

No

Maybe

[Miristheiss]

There is no "should" but there is no "should not" either.
If it is something either party is concerned with or wants to know for character reasons and decision making reasons and they want to know before committing to going any deeper with them in the relationship or deciding that they are not compatible regarding their attitudes on sex that they may want to know.
It just depends on the 2 individuals involved. With 1 couple neither may care either way.
With another couple it may matter and they'll want to know before moving forwards.

"Oh, you used to be an escort? I don't care, that was before me... makes zero difference".
That couple probably wouldn't discuss it.

"Oh you used to be an escort? Oh, this is not going to work out, we don't view sex the same, let's go our separate ways." This type of couple may want to discuss things before they get too deep.

[t-8900]

only if they really want to know. Some situations you probably have an idea by how they act/carry themselves but you really like them so you'd rather just not know. If they ask then that's different. I'm more concerned with the context as to why their past serious relationships failed though. gives you a window into their mind, even if they lie about it.

[Anonymous]

Couples should do what they want, depends on the persons what work for them, knowing or not.
I personally want to know the sex and dating history of my partner (don't need exact numbers) and like them to know mine, I need someone who does not judge or gets jealous. And it tells a part of what sex means to them, like if they have had many ONS or went from monogamous relationship to the next.

[PrettyPriya]

I would say either is fine. Do it or don't. Past is the past and that is where it stays.

So, as long as one person isn't going to get upset, then talk about it. If someone is prone to jealousy, then don't.

[Tyrael]

Definitely not. Either it doesn't matter in which case you don't need to know, or it does matter in which case if you don't like the answer it's going to cause a rift between you both. It's a pointless conversation and should be avoided.

[Anonymous]

Nah. The only number I would want to hear is zero, but that's unlikely. So she would ideally volunteer it unprompted if that's the number. But otherwise, I'm not going to talk about it. I'm going to avoid the subject. If it comes up I'm going to change the subject, and if it still gets talked about I'd rather be lied to.

[MJtheCoach]

So the girl could find another never ending argument?

[Hangry06]

If you care about it, you should