My boyfriend said f off in an argument should I give up and let him go or give him some time?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and i were having a fight for a week now. We can't finish or find middle ground because he doesn't letting me to explain myself. Yesterday in our argument he told me he was just confused and still loves me and when we're starting to find middle ground he got mad again and told me "Go away, F off". Today when i tried to contact him from phone, again he said "F off my life" i wasn't looking at the phone that time so before i can write a message he blocked me. And -from phone- this blocking-unblocking game was continuing by him since our fight started and all the time i tried to explain myself but it was futile, he doesn't let me because he acts like i was a liar and his friends told him "Let her go" and i got mad to this because HE CAN'T EVEN LET ME EXPLAİN MYSELF. And i don't know if want to let go or not. I love him and he told me he 'loves me' but while he's doing this 'game' i don't think he loves me or he's love is dying. Or maybe he's doing this because he's just confused or mad?

[Truthatanycost]

Humanity is too busy telling each other lies, and telling themselves lies. You throw the word 'love' around but look at the toxicity involved. Since when does love involve drama, toxicity, cussing, games, stress and accusations? You seem to have confused the meaning of love, with the meaning of toxicity. Perhaps you should ask yourself why you tell yourself things that aren't true. When we tell ourselves lies, our soul shrivels and we suffer. It also keeps us from moving forward and understanding ourselves.

Are we so eager to be loved, that we convince ourselves that simply a label is enough as it's proof?

[Anonymous]

You don't get to explain yourself just because you want to.

Suppose for the sake of argument, you cheated on him. Or called his mom a bitch or something. Doesn't matter. He gets annoyed and tells you to fuck off. You don't get to follow him around like a whipped puppy until he lets you explain yourself. You're not automatically entitled to that luxury. Especially if he wants to be away from you so he can calm down and get some distance. Your repeated efforts to insinuate yourself into his personal space and make him listen to you are only going to make things worse.

[Asker]

No, actually the lie was about my weight and i told this lie to him because starting in our relationship he told me he likes skinny girls and i accept i was wrong by tolding him lie about myself and i told him i was just told this lie because i want him to like me but no like you said he acts like I cheated on him or called her mom a b*tch

[Opinion Owner]

It doesn't MATTER what the lie is or what his reason is - YOU DON'T GET TO EXPLAIN YOURSELF JUST BECAUSE YOU WANT TO. Do you not get that? You don't have an automatic right to shove your justification in his face.

[Asker]

I actually don't want to show him that I'm actually the right one and i know I'm not the right one here. I just want him to know that I regret to told him that lie, i don't want him to be mad or sad about it anymore because he's blame both of us because i told him a lie

[Asker]

And i just want to know when should i talk to him again (sorry for my bad English by the way)

[Opinion Owner]

" I just want him to know that I regret to told him that lie"

See, that's what YOU want. You don't give a shit what he wants, this is still all about YOU and what YOU want. He wants you to fuck off and leave him alone for a while. Why not give him what he wants and stop trying to insist that YOU get what YOU want?

[Asker]

Alright now i understand, thanks for telling me this. I'm going do want he wants and stay away from him until he wants to talk again.

[Anonymous]

I mean... some people say things in the heat of the moment that they really shouldn't have said. I think he's just mad and doesn't want to talk about it right now, but I also know from experience that being shut out is not good for the relationship. There is such a thing as stonewalling, which means one person refuses to communicate. This is very detrimental to the other partner's well-being and to the relationship overall. If he can't or won't communicate with you, then it might be best to just let him go and find someone who will communicate when things go wrong.

[StrawberryShake]

I can't imagine just blocking and unblocking my boyfriend and vice versa... we would never be that childish. You can't even argue like adults. You should dump him. Also, me and my love would never resort to name calling. Sometimes we really get into it and it ends in tears and raised voices but we never call each other names or block each other. We always pick up the phone and say we love each other. If you can't even manage that much then you should break up or at the very least take a long break.

[pleasestopthis]

If you can't even argue like adult people, I don't think it's worth it. Relationships are all about respect and communication, with those any relationship is doomed. Don't waste your time with a man child

[Lushly]

Some men jus say things an don't mean it but in there heart they love ya an would be miserable without ya every second minute hour days weeks months

[In_Trance]

dump him and block his ass

[Anonymous]

Just give him some time to cool off and try again.

[Asker]

How long should I wait