I am FUCKED! Situation with extended family is bad. I am likely to be alone for life. What do I do?

[Inthecraphole]

I am not close to any of my cousins in my generation. I am not close to any of my cousins at all. I have been disconnected from my mom's side of the family for reasons that I feel are not even related to me.

I am also facing being alone for the rest of my life. I am 27 and never had a real girlfriend, and I only seek a woman who has never had her first love before or a boyfriend (especially from her youth, college age or younger).

I feel like I am FUCKED! What am I going to do one day when my parents are no longer around?

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I'll try to make this brief, but there has been some disputes and mishaps with my family, and my grandmother has put coals on the fire and not helped the situation. I don't know 100% what the reasons are, but it has something also to do with my mom and her sisters not getting along. I don't have any extended family nearby, except for my grandmother. I just really have my parents to talk to. I am not the most sociable person. I have one good friend who is 40 and that is about it.

[MrOracle]

Focus on finding a career that you enjoy (or can at least tolerate) and that works with your skills and abilities, and become financially secure. Learn to go without things whenever possible so that you can save up money to invest - every dollar that you can invest is a dollar that is going to be working FOR you to make money, even while you sleep, even on weekends, and even on vacations. Drive a practical, reliable car, and invest. For maybe 5 years, it might feel like you are getting nowhere, but soon you'll start to see the effects of investing - your money will grow on its own. That will motivate you to make more money to invest.

The point of this is to allow you to buy a home, to have some financial independence, to be able to quit a horrible job if necessary without the threat of being homeless until you find something else, and to be able to take advantages of profitable situations because you'll have the money available to do so. Your confidence and feeling of security will go way up once you aren't living paycheck-to-paycheck or relying on someone else to get by.

Be VERY cautious when it comes to women, especially getting into committed relationships and/or moving in together. As your resources grow, it will be easier to attract women, but many will be interested in you for your resources much more than for you, and you have to be aware of that and act accordingly. If you find a great girl, then just take things slow. Definitely don't move her in with you right away - spend at least a year getting to know her before you even consider it, and know your state laws when it comes to relationships and "common-law wives" - in some states, if you live together for a few years, she can sue you for support as if you were married if she breaks up with you.

[Inthecraphole]

Thank you for your valuable feedback. I am definitely inching my way into my career and having financial stability. Although, I don't want to be just financially stable and alone. I desire to be close to my family and find a woman without a romantic past. I may never have a girlfriend, wife, or a family, because I may never find that woman I am looking for, but at least I want to be close to my family.

[MrOracle]

Nothing wrong with that, but younger women are more likely to be the low-partner-count women, but they also have very high Social Market Value and so they are used to being able to be picky and demanding, and if you aren't well above average in looks, you will need to be financially comfortable (at least) to have a chance at attracting the vast majority of them. That doesn't mean that you should stop looking in the mean time, but expect to strike out a lot and for girls to lose interest over time. You might still get lucky.

But absolutely do NOT use dating apps or social media for dating - that's a waste of time and effort. Instead, pick 2 activities that you already enjoy doing that get you out of the house and around coed groups of people. Do each activity at least once a week. It could be a cooking class or a bowling league or a movie review club or whatever. Make new circles of friends and use their friends to expand your circles. And of course, be open to meeting random girls too while you are out in the world. Vet them well and date the good ones.

[Ekke118]

I really don't get you.

From posts I can gather that, age besides, you don't stand out (far from it) and also don't want to make any effort on improving upon yourself or have any long term goals. But you also believe you deserve an attractive, young girl who has never experienced love before but that falls deeply in love for you. You are effectively out of touch.

Your dependence and the way you are getting franctic over family drama you don't know the details to makes me believe you are beyond immature in more than just love life. I think that maturation and getting at least some common sense are the first steps you need to pursue so you can learn how to pursue things.

[Inthecraphole]

I think I don't improve myself besides my career is because I feel I am doomed. I feel like I am not going to find a woman without a romantic past even if I work hard to improve myself, so what is the point?

[Redstang88]

How about try to make some friends? Lots of people aren’t close with their families

[Inthecraphole]

I have one really good friend. Although, I wish I could communicate with my family and be closer. Right now, there is a huge disconnect.

[Redstang88]

Why? Nothin you can do about it - can’t pick your family, can’t fix their problems

[Turbski]

Doesn't really matter.
I never had issue's but either way you just have to move on, It's not like having family comes with benefits.
Unless your from Texas or Alabama then I ain't sure.