Ladies & Gentleman what's an appropriate time to be in a relationship before getting married?

[Kha0tiic_xo]

How long should you be in a relationship with someone before accepting a proposal from your s/o?

[lilyanony1]

I kind of think like this if you're able to date someone the 6 month honeymoon season. Move in together and things are working out, marriage really isn't that far off.
Time can make things sweeter and complacency falls in. The rush slows down and you end up focusing on 'goals'. You know unless you were already discussing saving for a wedding or something.
The problem complacency happens in every relationship. It's not a bad thing.
What makes it bad is when someone starts to feel like there something wrong, that they need a spark or that the love is no longer there. So they start to look outside.
The things they're looking for unless you can't stand the sight of each other really is within the two of you, making the effort again.

[IveGotNoName]

Depends on a lot of things. The age of the two people in the relationship for example and where they are in their life.

[IveGotNoName]

But I think in general the relationship should have been at least 3 years unless there's some sort of biological clock ticking and you want to be married before having children (this is assuming the couple is sure they want to get married of course)

[OlderAndWiser]

You should date someone long enough that you are both relaxed around each other, have let your guard down, and you each know what irritates you about your partner. You should know have experienced a few conflicts, as they are inevitable, as you need to know how you will handle things when there are problems (and that is inevitable.) You should have discussed short and long term goals, made agreements about children, whether one of you stays at home with the kids, and you each should know that you are accepted by your partner's family (whch is essential, because conflct with family will become a huge problem if not resolved.)

[LegendaryIcon]

there is no "appropriate" time, it's just whenever you feel like you can.

Many of my familys relationships have failed. One of my cousins was in a "private" wedding i believe it was, but, they weren't really calling it one. They recently broke up

One of my other cousins, who's now dating someone new, was married to a girl, he never really wanted to marry, i don't even know if he wanted to be with her either, he says he was just "giving it a shot". She is said to have had a "screw loose" and it just finally came off

[MrOracle]

in my opinion, it depends on your age. If you are still in your late teens, then 1.5-2 years is probably reasonable. If you're in your 20s, a year is about right, and if you're in your 30s or above, then really, a few months could be enough time if you take it seriously and work together - the idea being that you know enough about YOURSELF, and also what you need in another person, by that age, so you don't need as much time to try to figure all of that out. And presumably, when you are older, you take the process more seriously and are more focused on the things that really matter: their morals, values, and attitudes.

[Canuck37]

Two or three years, as backed by scientific research.

Temporary lust and attraction can last for up to two or three years for the average person; maybe a little longer if you're a bit of an oddball. If you still love someone past the two or three year mark, then you're likely to love them for life, barring any sort of abuse that may occur in the relationship afterwards.

Since marriage is intended to be permanent (because divorces suck), you should wait two or three years before getting married.

[mobiusforniner]

I don't know if it really matters. Some people have tied the knot in a few months dating and lasted a whole lifetime together. Others have tied the knot after being together years and then separating shortly after. For me and my wife, it was 2.5 years since we met to when we got married. That was 9 years and two kids ago.

[humpbackjack]

That’s a very personal question so it’s something you’ll have to figure out for yourself but my wife and I got married after dating for 2 years she asked me to marry her at about 1 year 9 months then we were engaged for 3 months but I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her the moment I laid eyes on her regardless of where we are now we had about twenty years of the best marriage ever and I wouldn’t change any of those years

[kyleelyn199723]

Depends from relationship to relationship. I’ve heard people getting married on the day they met, I’ve heard people getting married 10-15 years after. Depends on many aspects, specifically financially. Weddings aren’t cheap.

[slatyb]

Whenever you are both ready? If you want to be married, the first thing is to make sure the man you are dating wants the same thing. Then you should set a decision date -- a year, eighteen months, either we are planning a wedding or it's over.

[horatiohornblower]

I’d say a year minimum for each other’s eccentricities to start getting to you. Actual marriage should be a minimum year and a half from the start of your relationship.

[Anonymous]

Some people meet and get married after 2 weeks and have a long fulfilling marriage while some date for 5 years and end up still with a failed short marriage

So it depends on how compatible you are because there are people that say when you know you know and don't need time to figure it out when its the right person

[RobT312]

As long or as little it takes to know it’s right.
4 years for me, but would have been 2.5-3 years if covid didn’t happen

[weysally]

no one can put a time limit on this, no more than meeting some one for the first time and knowing whether he or she will be your friend,

[boxxie2002]

It's really subjective and depends on what you have gone through in your relationship.

I feel a couple of years if you are living together. You could always have a long engagement anyway if required

[Pyrofox]

I'd say whenever the relationship hits an equilibrium of love = trust.

[ShadezMcgee]

I would say 3 to 4 years and living with each other for at least 2 of them.

[Danny_dan92]

I would say like 2-3 years minimum. It would also be wise to live with the person for at least a year before getting engaged

[exitseven]

It depends. Lots of people live together and are in no hurry to get married.

[ellEyeInnKay]

... eh. This is an age hold question methinks. I dont really think there is a right answer either actually... hm.

[Luopio27]

Its not the amount of time spend in a relationship.
Its the quality of the relationship that should decide.

[jahaims]

I don't think there is a set time. I would recommend living together for a year first

[Twalli]

I won't propose before 3 years of dating. I probably also won't after 7.

[najekim]

After living at least a year together. Then you know you're compatible in every way by then.

[notwoke]

If your man, your best bet is to make it about 100 years

[Oh-canada]

Everyone could be different. No people are the same. You and only you know when you are ready and if it’s the right person.

[blueazure]

It can be vary. Depends on. What you should think about is the quality of your relationship.

[johnathane]

It should be about 3 years, 2 and a half minimum.

[rowso]

One week in the bed or one month living together

[Anonymous]

Forever. Only idiot men get married.

[Unicorn_lover_2002]

A year

[Waldoe]

until you are "sure"

[In_Trance]

3-5 years

[Guardian45]

Who DA F knows?

[EaterPeter]

Minimum 6 months.

[emperor90]

When u are ready

[Sabretooth]

a year.

[Sabretooth]

I'm not interested in games.

[Slim57]

Year plus