Too boring to have a chance?

[Anonymous]

The way my life is now, I would like to do more, but what I do currently is enough. Although I'm okay with this, whenever I'm thinking of talking to another girl or just anyone, the thought crosses my mind whether "I'm too boring" or not, and I either don't talk to them or I do, then end up ghosting because I think I'm lame anyway and they'll be turned off (one reason why I think of things I'd like to do more outside of the house). My life mainly consists of, MMA training, work, some video games/tv, philosophy or spiritual writing/reading and "recreational activities"💨. I honestly haven't come across any girl that's been interested in the same things, could be I'm too ugly or just not interesting enough to make them, but I will say finding energy to conversate with someone who may leave soon is draining. Im just very much into things that help me grow, and relaxation, vs clubbing, bars, loud screaming etc. Bottomline though, does my life sound like one a girl would want to be a part of?

[Anonymous]

Depends on the kind of girls you’re going for and are trying to attract. There’s someone for everyone and that’s not me saying the things that you described about yourself isn’t attractive. They are, at least you’re doing something and have a goal or goals in life. No one wants to be with a, though I don’t want to sound rude or mean, a bum. Not a man or a woman and you don’t have to be into partying, being loud (the center of attention) for someone to want to date you. It’s people who like outgoing people like that and it’s also people who prefer more chill, laid back and reserved people with a plan for their life like you. If these women you have talked to give you the energy of “She isn’t interested why am I wasting my time?” That only means you’re forcefully pushing yourself toward women that you don’t truly desire or have interest in. Everything is mental as much as everything is all about the essence of time. You have to go where you feel you are being lead to. That’s why sometimes two very different people end up becoming the love of each other’s lives despite how different they were/are. If it’s meant to be it will be, doesn’t matter what you think or feel is unattractive or boring about yourself.