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Can you expand on past partners and difficulties with getting a way to earn a living?I can relate to the last one, maybe because I'm a broke 25-year-old trying to be a musician and pay his bills but I just kinda feel that one, feels nice to know it's felt elsewhere.The previous partners I don't understand, doesn't like, everyone pretty much have previous partners?
@InventorofWarp Not much to expand. I didn't have many partners before being married. Only one occasional professional, but my wife and I had issues about how to earn a living, which were solved by the way, but which also made me clearly aware that for a girl having some security is very important in general. Just a natural feature that did not change in spite of feminism. Remember it is the women who bear children, and that a future mother wants security for her family. Still, if a relation is mostly based on pleasure, what I write may not apply.
No, my future relations won't be based on pleasure, still waiting for the right girl, that won't change.Was just interesting to hear this. Good to know though that the more success professionally = better your chances of landing your dreamgirl.I kinda found mine but she's taken. I know it'll never happen but I still kinda want to excel in my career to prove to her I can change and be someone better. She's supported me through it all anyway.Did she have more partners?How'd that work out, any insecurity there?
@InventorofWarp I can only tell you one thing man: just be yourself. No need to add extra stress proving about yourself you're worth the while. Genuine self confidence will prove more effective with the ladies.
Well thanks but that doesn't change being naturally shy. It's hard not to be at this point anyway being a 25-year-old who's never really had a relationship or anything and isn't into casual. Most women have done stuff by this age. So... it's a little intimidating and fear-inducing, I mean how can it not be? Only real time I feel confident about anything anyway is when I have a guitar or a piano in my hand.Hell the woman I have a crush on is a former sex worker and has done a lot of stuff. She's super confident, super knowledgeable, has no problem being naked in front of people. It's awesome and really scary at the same time. And like sometimes I think about how she had people she was with in high school and it's like "fuck, she's way better than me, I'm not good enough like that, I probably won't even know the first move".That stuff's kind tough to get past in your head. Her being older than me probably doesn't help the insecurity. Funny how the insecure stuff is also the stuff that's really awesome.
@InventorofWarp Being shy at your age is something I experienced myself, but has no direct connection with what I meant with being yourself. Just consider shyness as a self induced phenomenon. Once you will have understood how unimportant it is how girls and people in general will react to your appearance, you will drop that shyness, and meanwhile you'll be more self confident and yourself ;0) No idea if this helps, but just consider your shyness while being shy... One cannot get anything without trying, and it's not important at all to fail now and then. Something like natural selection? Still, one day you'll succeed.
@InventorofWarp best piece of advice I saw recently was if you're brave for a moment you could have a life time of happiness I know being confident is hard fake until you make it or pretend like it's an old friend try to pretend you're not yourself like how would a confident person, a very suave, person like 007, the person I always think about is the secret agent in the movie tuxedo with Jackie Chan he was very Suave very confident especially when he talked to women and came effortlessly
Why would past partners be scary to reveal?
@InventorofWarp they compare themselves to them and it can make them insecure.
That's fair, as someone with zero past partners I'd be kind of insecure about it.But at the same time I'd also be curious and kinda want to know it all about all of them. Not even 'cause of any insecurity, just 'cause it'd be kinda cute to hear all the happy times they had with someone before me and also 'cause I'm curious on like what ended previous things and what not to do or what to do right and like, sex stuff.
That kind of this situation I'm in now the girl I went on a date with last weekend she posted on Snapchat someone asked her through the app send it on Snapchat how many people she had sex with in 2022 since the new year just started and she put 3 new people so back then it was the 10th or the 11th and she's already had sex with 3 new people so what does that tell you I don't know how to feel about it, cuz she is single, I'm not her boyfriend yet, but just the fact that she's already had 3 new Partners when it happened on Snapchat it was the the 10th or 11th of January so she had 3 new partners within 10 or 11 days what does that tell you about the person I ean does that make her a slut? does that mean she's a slut? no. I don't really know. But it's kind of sort because people would also ask her on the app send it on Snapchat a lot of sexual questions for example they would ask her to show her ass, & her boobs (no nipples) and she will show it I guess the question is how do I test the waters to see if she is a slut if she is a keeper or not she seemd really sweet
I don't think she's a slut but at the same time you tell me from the story on Snapchat she did post a conversation she was having with the guy and the guy said I'm coming over in a few minutes I just got to get gas let me shove it in a few times so I can come quicker or else you're going to be sucking my dick for an hour she responded with no I can't basically I'm not going to I don't want to but just to think about what kind of relationship you must have had with that guy for that guy to have had the confidence to just say that so confidently let me stick it in a few times or else you're going to suck my dick for an hour so he was expecting had it and was confident enough to ask to stick it in so where they fuck buddies friends with benefits I don't know I didn't want to overstep my boundaries and ask her but all these things are popping up she deleted the app send it on Snapchat because of all the annoying questions she rejected the guy that asked her to give him head so she's not sluts slut but I don't know sleeping with three guys when it's only been like 10 or 11 days until the new year I don't know how I feel about that like I said she's single she can do whatever she wants but still I guess I'm coming from and I don't want to catch an STD I don't want her to cheat on me but how could I test the waters out to see if she is a slut or is she is the girl for me
@Junior42 I was more referring to, I don't do those things anymore and haven't for awhile but I am always honest, usually somewhere between date 6 and 12... as no point in wasting more time if he won't be able to accept it.As for your situation, it seems like she may not be interested in a serious long term relationship. Maybe she is, but just having fun in the meantime. I also wonder if she is serious about all that or just joking around. Some people do shit like that to try and scare away people that have issues with it, even if it isn't really happening.Of course it could all be legit and real, sounds like you'd have to date her more to find out though and build up some trust. If you've only had one date, kind of hard to know at this point. These things will take time.Do not limit yourself to just dating her though, if you have others date them too.
Yeah I've only had one day and it's really hard to tell at this point I'm going to try to have a second date on Saturday but how would I test it out to see if she is a slut or she is the right girl for me and yea ik dont jus settle for one girl keep going
@Junior42 Have a nice conversation, don't judge her if she talks about anything like that as judging will get her to shut up about it and now you'll never know.Don't prod too much either on only a second date, if it happens to come up, let it but don't push it.
Okay thank you for the advice just kind of nervous cuz I thought I found the girl for me and then all the stuff comes up and I didn't know how to feel about it thank you for talking with me about this it made me feel better, it put me a little bit more at ease thanks
Is there any sort of tests or any kind of like moves I should try out just to see how she responds to see what kind of girl she is?
Here's a good question I got a kiss at the end of the first date which is cool my question is should I kiss her on the second date at the beginning when I say hello and give her a hug or at the end of the date again?
@Junior42 Can't really tell you if you should, but if you got one at the end of the first, might be okay. You'd have to judge that yourself.
Ok thank u
@Junior42 I don't know, it could be either way with this girl.I'll just say to you and @Aerissa_Jade that I have a crush on a wonderful lady who is a former sex worker and she's had a lot of sex with a lot of guys. I'm a virgin waiting for the right girl still and sometimes she talks about things she had to go through back in her days doing stuff and how some guys wouldn't let her leave and stuff and I just want to give her a hug. I can tell she thinks so low of herself for things and meanwhile I'm here looking at her like "God, you are so sweet, kind and beautiful". The difference is we've been friends for a long time so I know her personality, I know she's gone through a lot and changed as a person and is a beautiful, sweet, cute, kind, lovely woman, so judging her based on things so trivial just wouldn't be fair for such a sweet, kind, gorgeous person. Plus, if we do every get together, I know she can suck a dick like no other woman and has done BSDM and has tons of kinks and... she can just please a man for sure, she knows how to tease me without even really doing or saying much.Granted I'm a church boy so, it's really not exactly all that hard to tease me. Be cautious, but don't write someone off just because she's done stuff.
What does she mean they wouldn't let her leave? like they wanted to keep her in the room and keep having sex with her?
And it's definitely not so much that I'm judging her because of the stuff she done but having sex with 3 guys within 10 or 11 days is kind of questionable even if she is single like I don't know like will she give it up to jus anyone? I'm just worried about STDs and her cheating on me and stuff like that but I'm going to go into it with an open heart
@Junior42 Sorry my bad, just got the notification now.Yes, exactly this.There was also one that wanted to do some stuff she wasn't cool with and she wouldn't do it so he wouldn't let her leave until security came and he had to be escorted out and then they had to walk her to her bus to go home because that one really shook her up, she almost cried when explaining that one actually. Sex workers, current and former, are still people, she's incredibly kind and so sweet and caring so it hurts to know that happened to her.
@Junior42 All perfectly valid and perfectly okay to bring up as topics of conversations. Tbh, I'm a virgin, so if I get anything from the person I do it with, I'm going to know where it came from. So ideally I'd want to know she's been tested. I'd have no problem getting it done as well.As for cheating, I don't know, I mean, it's reasonable to be concerned about but it doesn't IMMEDIATELY mean your girl is gonna cheat on you just because she's been promiscuous in the past.I'd be more concerned with posting it online and how much of a competition it seems like it is or something, that does scream casual to me with no interest in LTRs.But, again, you know her, not me. Go into it cautiously optimistic.
@InventorofWarp it's okay better late than never I always say. but wow that's messed up like they already got to have sex with her what more do they want? I mean I can only imagine what he wanted to do that she refused. yeah that's really hard to hear that she almost cried telling that one bro damn yea some people got it rough in life, but how would I bring it up exactly a conversation because I don't want to overstep my bounds or seem like the jealous type do I say do you have any friends with benefits or do u have any fuck buddies at the moment how do I bring it up?Of course I know that and something that gave me confidence is that she posted a meme picture on Snapchat saying " If I date you my goal is to marry you build with you grow with you I'm not dating you to pass the time I see potential in you and in us" so that gave me some confidence that she's not a slut makes me think now since she told me she did get out of a long relationship recently she was exploring having her fun you know
@InventorofWarp she was posting it online but then she deleted the app on Snapchat called send it that kept asking her a bunch of questions from jus horny guys like I remember before she deleted it they asok her can you post a picture of you in sexy lingerie? she did. they also asked her can you post a picture of your ass? she did. they asked her how big her boobs were? she's told them. then they asked her to post a picture of her boobs to see if they were really that big which she did so I don't know if that just means she likes to put herself out there on the internet like a lot of girls do or if she is a slut the only thing that really concerned me was when she posted a conversation between her and a guy recently he said to her I'm on the way I just have to get gas but let me shove it in a few times if so I can cum quicker or else you're going to be sucking my dick for an hour she declined kept saying no no I'm not going to do it but in my mind I was thinking what kind of relationship did he have with her to have the confidence to stay that to her you know
And I'm always careful I always wear a condom
@InventorofWarp and as far as testing goes that's exactly what I told myself when I was younger when I have sex when I grow up I'm going to make the girl get tested but it doesn't always work out that way LOL
@Junior42 Actually I don't think she had sex with the guy who didn't her leave. He was being too rough with her and trying to force her into stuff from the get-go and from what I got of it, she didn't want to be touched, rightfully, by that guy. I know for sure there was one guy she met with who followed her to her car once when she was in the parking lot because she wouldn't do anything with him after he was saying really rude and awful stuff to her and was trying to get her to do stuff she just wasn't okay with.Going against someone's consent is not okay, doesn't matter what their job is.And you bring it up the same way you bring anything else up. Sometimes just being direct and honest is okay. if you overstep anything she'll let you know and at that point you can apologize and just make it clear that there's no insecurity or anything around any of it. I constantly ask my crush about her sexual escapades and previous relationships. It's not insecurity, I'm just genuinely curious, I actually think it's really cool she's so knowledgeable on like sex and relationships and BDSM and stuff and yet she's so fucking cute and sweet.I mean, that dude doesn't have to had a relationship with her, some guys are just like that and incredibly dickish and fucked up in how they talk to women. You'd be surprised.
Lol, what reason do they usually give you for thinking you're lying?I usually get 'cause of my age or my looks or my talents, which is all kinda funny.
LOL it's always nah you're def too hot to be a virgin! Just cuz I'm hot doesn't mean I let every guy fuck me 🤣 I don't wanna fuck an asshole guy
Ah, I've gotten told that too, good. I'm 6'8, tattooed and ripped and I constantly get people who are either like "you're too hot!" Or "no one is a virgin past 18!". Like the magic virgin fairy comes by and takes it away from you after your birthday or something.For me, it's like these people don't seem to realize that some guys have to work at being hot and attractive and I took years to get my body how it is, I took years to acquire my ink and stand out, I was a loser nerd and acne-ridden geek in school, this didn't just happen.That and I ride a motorcycle and play guitar and piano probably helps with people going "WHAT?".I guess part of it too is that when this one guy, one of my former coworkers, let's call him X, started talking about it, he's like 300lbs and farts all the time right next to everyone and his girlfriend and her sister were like, "X, didn't you lose yours when you were 12?". I was like "12? To who, the lunchlady?". But it just kinda proved my point that only the guys with no standards or self-respect fuck everything.Plus every girl that night at the party, including the sister was fawning over me when I explained the heart tattooed on my chest with the empty banner and my purity ring I still hold to give to the girl who steals my heart. It's like women are easily charmed by it but that's just kinda me being me.
Well thats good that you're being yourself! Who cares what everyone thinks tbh and yeah I feel that like just cuz you're hot it doesn't mean you have to have sex withe evryone who finds you attractive. A part of my case is also about being myself and appreciating myself and knowing my worth. I know I'm worth wayyyyyy more than any guy who has the balls to ask me/make a move so I'm not doing that. Well hey a purity ring is cute and all but either way girls gotta respect you and your decisions for wearing it rather than questioning you and eye boggling it's kinda weird. But definitely be yourself and appreciate yourself before you're with someone cuz you won't know your worth if not. How old are you by the way? I feel like you're wise so you gotta be above my age for sure! Lmao. And yes definitely tattoos and like things you enjoy will boost your confidence so just keep doing that and the girl will come most likely.
Lol. I'm 24 turning 25 soon but I've wanted to wait for the right girl since I was 12. I just never thought I'd be waiting this long but, oh well I guess.For me it's just about doing the most romantic thing for a girl that I thought I could possibly do: Give her my first time and have her know she's my only.But also, yeah, my worth is up there. My brother was a man-whore who made fun of me for being a virgin and now he's getting married and it's kinda fucked up 'cause like, his fiancee has to deal with knowing how he used to be this dude who fucked everything, even his step-cousin.Cute, lol. I'll take it.Only after a performance when I get off the stage have I encountered women who "eye-boggle" me really or, worse, they'll like come up and touch my arm and try to get into talking to go home together like it's attractive or flirtatious to come up and just touch a stranger. Sorry but that's not sexy to me, kinda the opposite. I'm high-functioning autistic and really don't like random people touching me. Only my crush gets me blushing from touching, that's only her thing.
Nah you're fine you're still young lmao. I always think that too and I'm literally only just turned 22 🤣🤣🤣. Yikes your brother is something else (no offense lol). But yeah I get where you're coming from cuz I feel that. But just think when you do get married and find the right girl for you, she'll be worth the time spent alone or wondering where she was. Lol no seriously it is cute! I like that you know what you want and stick to your beliefs even though people are against it or make fun of you (which is bs). 🤢 Imagine touching someone without consent, disgusting I'm sorry about that. It's def the musician in you, girls love music and talent. I def love guys who play paino, my goal is getting a song written for me but doubt that will happen since I can barely get minimum respect and boundaries lol. Oooooooo he has a crush lmao thats adorable. Why not go for her?
I play piano, guitar, banjo, harmonica, violin and I'm currently learning drums. And of course I can sing, I consider my voice to be my seventh instrument. And it's actually the most difficult to play of all of them. Violin is a close second and then banjo.I mean, I could write a song for you, lol.I've written songs about the women I've had feelings for in the past.But my crush holds a special place since I have like two documents in my Google Drive of almost 200 pages each full of songs I wrote lyrics just waiting for some chords and riffs to be added to them, some of them I've written chord progressions or riffs for, and well over half of them are about her.She's my closest friend and life teacher and she's so sweet and kind and beautiful and amazing. She saved my life, I'd be a drug addict still or dead if it weren't for her. And I wouldn't be a musician either, she changed my life.She's also taken so, I wish I could. She's got 20 years on me and she's been well taken for a few. God though she's amazing. I'd die happy just to be able to find a woman like her. Although it would never be her. She's a former sex worker too and she moonlights occasionally still as a dominatrix so she could definitely please a man. I mean, that's intimidating as all fuck and I don't know wtf a former sex worker and sometimes dominatrix would do with a virgin in his mid-20s but fuuuck, she's got to have secrets in that massive brain. It's enough to just get to have her in my life and be able to be around her and her awesomeness.
Stopppp I disagree! I feel like voice is easiest to train whereas I've been trying to learn piano forever and I feel like my fingers just don't bend that way 😂Lmao is that right? We're they any good though? I don't no shitty song written about me going everywhere 😜 hahahaha kidding thats so sweet. Would be nice. Awwwwwwww stop, does she not know you like her? You sure its like a love relationship and not a relationship based on the fact that she saved you? If it really is love tell herrrrrr! Rippppp no. I hate that for you. I feel that thought the older ones are always better but like they're always taken frl. Thats sweet lmao and damn she's got moves too you're in love 😂 and maybe she'd teach you some things 😜 haha. But nah I feel that hard thats why I'm scared for a relationship too cuz like I don't know wtf I'm doing but ik based on info I've collected duh haha. Just scared they won't understand or let me try stuff.
No, my voice is the only thing that I've had to take actual coaching for. I mean, I had teachers over my life who taught me the guitar; my dad, Brian Wilson, Rick Dupont, Luis Roderic. Piano I had Cassidy Clarke. I'm entirely self taught on everything else and I 100% think my voice has been the hardest thing to learn to control and still is.Violin is a close second due to how ridiculously fucking stupid the design is. I also can't even actually accurately play the fucking thing without my glasses it's held so damn close to the face. I see 8 strings without them.Maybe the piano was easier for me to learn to play because before I learned it I had already been playing the guitar for about 4 years but I dunno, I just never found it all that hard. The biggest trouble I had with it was learning my hand independence and coordination and that only took a few months to move past. The theory for a piano is WAY easier than a guitar in my opinion 'cause the layout is pretty straightforward whereas a guitar is all over the place.But in terms of instruments, I'm a guitarist first and foremost. I "think" in guitar. I'm also 6'8 so I'm just abnormally larger proportionally than most people so my hands are bigger and can stretch a lot farther.
She's already kinda taught me some things, lol, we've done some BDSM events together. But, nah, she's taken. We're friends and I'm her "student". That's good enough for me. She so fucking kind and compassionate and warm and beautiful, I just love having her around. That's kind of enough for me, I just get to admire her and dream about her.She has no idea (I think, I don't know, I'm not exactly great at hiding things all the time, fuck I almost blushed red as a beet and swooned when she touches my arm and teases me about sexual stuff, such as when she teased me and smiled about me looking at her profile pictures on the site we met on, she had explicit photos and I couldn't really lie at that one, I just admitted to it and kinda laughed and apologized). She probably does have moves, fuck her body, god damn.I dunno, maybe there is sort of a rescue kinda thing/element to it. But, is that horrible? I try to help her out too as much as I can. The pandemic isn't being easy on her. But I know we'll both be stronger for it when we come out of it. And she's still gorgeous and such a sweet amazing person that's awesome to be around.I do kinda feel like if the right woman touched me and opened up to me and said the right things to me together with her in an intimate setting, if she then got me excited, I'm pretty sure I'd probably flip a switch and be dominant and aggressive with her and definitely ready to lead things and be that guy, that man, pretty easily. But I don't know, I just haven't met that woman yet. At least, not one that's wanted me back.
I don't know maybe it's just me lol I'm a girl who sings to every single song and learns every single lyric and will sing it if I know it haha. Maybe that gives me some practice? Haha but keep working at it for sure cuz guitar and vocals together are bomb and you're set. Damn you play so many instruments lmao how do you even have the time? I think its cuz you played the guitar 100% cuz its hard to place your fingers for the chords so it serves as practice for piano cuz you gotta stretch your fingers in uncomfy positions. Yeah exactly you're tall af lmao I'm like 5'5 if I'm lucky haha. It's cool that its easier for you though, I gotta practice more for sure but my fingers don't stretch to a certain point haha. Stiff af cuz of the computer.
Hahahhahaha dead then maybe tell her about it? I'm not sure lol I don't know what you mean entirely but hey you get to be with her so who cares. I don't know I think its kind of problematic sometimes if I'm honest. Like I was in that situation and you end up depending on them or even obsessing over them cuz you think that without them you'll crumble. Which isn't true at all, but I could be wrong? Shut up I doubt that there's no woman who wanted you back lmao. I feel like you're the shy guy who doesn't notice hints from the girls he actually likes haha which is cute. But hey dominance isn't a bad thing just keep it in the bedroom if she's down and don't be a bossy guy towards the girl.
I don't know how I find the time tbh I just kinda do. I mean my life pretty much revolved around music and it is sort of my job so no matter what I'm playing stuff in a day. It's not always every instrument every day (violin is rather new and I'm still quite shitty I promise you) but no, it's just my ultimate love. No woman will ever come close to my sounds.Lol, piano and vocals can sound pretty damn good too. So can banjo and vocals. All of it's pretty good.Yeah and you definitely have to have nimble hands for a guitar. So it translates nicely to a piano.
Thats very passionate of you to say! Thats so cool haha I wanna do that but I don't know if I'd make any money considering I don't play an instrument sadly.Banjo is nice as well I just don't know if its versatile as in like goes well with different styles of music like rock and roll per say. But its interesting to think about for sure I gott see that one day.
I've 100% played a violin solo in the middle of a rock song on-stage. It's so far the only thing I can play half-decent on the violin.I also discovered electric banjos recently and have been having fun experimenting with that sound in songs when writing now too. That and aluminum-neck guitars. They just sound SO fucking sexy different from a normal electric.I swapped the fretboard and heads on the neck of one of my strats to aluminum and she fucking SCREAMS sexy when she's played now. Perfect for the kind of haze pop solos that need a faster more vibing kind of sound from my straight stratocaster or my Gibson.Wait, you don't play piano? What about your little hands you were commenting they can't stretch.Which, for the record, good way to work up stretching and speed on any instrument is to practice scales.No matter what instrument I play in a day I always play my scales on it whenever it's in my hands because you fuckin' NEED your scales. That's how you form riffs and riffs form solos and lead parts.
Violin in anything is literal magic so I get why it would sound good and I doubt you're that bad considering you play sk many instruments. You gotta be decent in all of them and thats already a lot for me haha. I have no idea what the difference from all of those but dope haha its cool to hear people talk about instruments/music. I don't have a lot of people who ebjoy as much as I do (even when I have no idea about certain thing like electric banjos or guitars lol). I don't play piano but I do know a couple of my fav songs like the basic stuff just the chords is always hard for me cuz my hands are stiff from typing and shit (I'm a lit student lol so all my bones are stiff and breaking). Thats super cool I don't know I gotta practice for sure! I haven't done it in a whileeeeeeeee I usually just learn songs from like vids on youtube or some shit (ik what a controversial thing to say to a musician 🤣)
No, I will NEVER tell her. She is taken by an amazing guy better than me, they have their own history together and I am fine with that, she gets the best. She's awesome and gorgeous and super sweet and kind, she deserves it.No, I know exactly what you're saying and I get it but, no. I am kind of obsessive over her a little but not in like a dangerous way. Like if she left tomorrow and left me all alone in my life, I know I'd survive, I'd be fine, I made it as far as I did without her. But, it wouldn't quite be the same without her, I'd want her around.I had a girl I loved back when I was in grade school and middle school, met her in kindergarten and she was so kind and sweet and beautiful. Fiery-haired little Irish powder keg who supported me when I needed her the most. And she didn't make it. Never got to grow up like the rest of us and it broke me for a long time.Feels weird to have outlived her by ten years especially because I'm always gonna love her, she was the girl, she was the love of my life.But... I think part of me is scared of feeling that again with someone and I don't quite want to get too close to her now because sometimes I just see that girl's face in hers. She's really what I imagine she would've been like if she had gotten to grow up to be her age.And yeah, maybe you're right, lol. I don't know, I don't know if any girls ever give me hints or anything. I just can't imagine girls having a huge crush on me. Especially not my crush. I'm not that kind of guy. She's corrected me when I call myself unattractive or uncharming but I'm just like, I picture a girl being with me and looking at me if I were ontop of her and it's like, oh god no, that just isn't attractive. I don't know.
Nah, I'd just probably have that flip switch and do my thing being more dominant and in the lead to please her. Like, I've danced often, I know how to dance despite having having a girl wanting to dance with me and I'd definitely be the lead there for that even though I've never done it with someone before and I'd be nervous with a lady. But, fucking a woman, I think if she gave me a little push the shyness would probably go away real fast for the right one and she'd spend the night in bed out of breath.
Oh okay.I'm not an expert in anything by any means. I know a lot. But like, if I were a D&D character I'd be a Paladin, just a jack-of-all-stats type class. Not particularly good at any one thing except MAYBE marginally the guitar and just kind decent enough across all power stats save for violin and drums.No, I'm quite shit at violin I assure you, I've been playing less than a month.I literally first touched a drumset last week.I've been playing guitar off and on for 17 years and piano off and on for about 11. Harmonica for close to 10.Banjo for about 5 months.Music theory can be translated across all instruments. If every instrument is it's own language than the theory is phonetics. It's universal. Once you know it for one, you can translate it to all.Learning the actual instruments themselves depends on the complexity. Violin is fucking difficult man, I'm still just learning the bow positions. There are also no frets like a guitar so you're fingering is relying entirely on eyeing it for the positioning which is just... fucking ridiculous. Only reason I could play that one solo is because it's short, only a few different finger positions and I intentionally knew it'd be cool to be able to throw it into the song I wrote in the middle so I played it straight for 4 hours a day for 10 days. Even though I can barely handle the bow positions let alone anything else, my fingers can hit the proper notes based on muscle memory alone. All music is repetition.Like a guitar or a piano? I don't even have to think about anything my hands just literally know where to go, what chords to hit, what notes go with what other notes to hit next. I know all the mechanics.
That is all so sweet aww. But I don't know maybe that the lovey dovey side of you that likes your crush cuz she reminds you of the girl you used to like? I don't know I'm not psychologist nor do I know anything just I see it how it looks to me. But thats not a bad thing! I don't know if you should tell her or not but maybe try not to see her in a relationship kind of way? Maybe more of a friend kind of way so you hurt less? I'm sorry about your older girl that must have hurt, I can't even imagine.LOL stop I feel you on that but you shouldn't feel that way. The right girl for you will look at you (even when you're on top of her lol) and be like damn thats my baby he's hot af I love him. So don't be insecure and also you def have had girls hit on you and you have no idea. I just feel that vibe off of you haha (ik these things trust me lmao) but believe in your hotness ig the word is? Lol your personality seems fire so like you'd be off to a good start, trust me. But again, ik nothing lol.
LOL as you should and she should. Gotta be confident in yourself and I'm 100% sure the right girl will be like babe we're literally fucking, of course I find you hot af hahahahhaa. I feel that thought like I just want a guy to be like yo snap out of it and get on me already (in a nice kind of encouraging loving way but also maybe dominant 🤣)
Hey decent across everything is better than just slightly okay at one thing! Okay he's a jack of most trades that super cool. Practice makes perfect and you're learning so give yourself a break lmao. Don't be so hard on yourself! Damn you're dedicated! Thats talent for sure I don't know if I'd be able to at all. You write a lot for your job?That would be cool to know and like have your fingers know what to do. I feel like I know a little about that haha.
I mean I write a lot to begin with. I used to write stories as a boy and still write novels and poems and stuff on Wattpad.That's why writing songs is easy for me, it's literally just writing poems and adding chords and riffs into them.Lol on the fingers, yeah I'd imagine some talent there from my end as well.They uh... just kinda take on their own life. Your body parts are incredibly crafted. If you do something enough times your parts remember the motions all on their own. Literally take the positions with zero thought.I don't even have to look at the guitar when I play a lot of stuff at this point. My hands just... do it. They just kinda know it. My brain is the one that remembers but the hands, the muscles just reform back to the shapes for each chord or riff, they know it. It's the same for a piano. After a while it just becomes a natural memory.
Lmaooooo true but I don't know I struggle with the music part. I write poems too! Haha Lol see you have talent! I do not in the instrument business. Ik its crazy how the mind remembers shit and your body does too. I definitely have to practice to get to that point! Its super cool
Lol, I don't know about talent, but I'm just alright with possibly sucking.
Lmao shut up your job is literally playing instruments you said so you have to have somewhat good talent! Omg thats also another cliche thing that musicians are good with their hands 🤣 always funny to hear. You must get that too! I always get like oh you're a lit student, you gotta "teach" me something or some bs like that. Its hard out here being a virgin especially when people find out yikes.
I didn't see some of the previous "lovey dovey" responses. I don't think that's 100% it. It might be a bit of a rescue "she saved my life" type of thing and, yes, I see the girl I loved years ago in her, but I recognize she's her own person and I love getting to know that person, that person's awesome. And I think she needs just as much support as I do, she just holds it together better than me for the most part. She actually got concerned a while back if I felt at all like she ever took advantage of me or anything and it's like, no man, she's always made extra sure to absolutely NOT do that and recognize I'm still kind young and naive even if I am a man. There's a reason I trust her completely, we've always felt like nothing less than equals.And no, I definitely don't tell her. She's taken and way too cool and perfect for me.I think you're giving me more credit than I deserve here, my personality isn't quite "fire" I've just been alone a long time and had to occupy myself by learning things and doing things alone as a result. Learning languages, instruments, fucking with motorcycles and hanging with my girls (dogs), just had to learn to live alone waiting for my girl. Although my crush was super impressed with my latest tattoo design. She took a look at the banner in the heart on my chest and was like "what goes in the banner", "ideally? My wife's name", "aw". That felt kinda nice. I mean, if my personality is fire then why is it my brother and guys like him that end up with every woman on Earth and then married? And I doubt I've been hit on, I probably would've noticed it. Although my crush did call me clueless and literally gave me instructions on how to approach "cats". Still not sure if we were actually talking about the cats there or not. Either way it's kinda funny 'cause every lesson she gives me I actually use on her.
Also... yeah, that'd be awesome, but again, like I just literally cannot picture it.Like who'd be like, "oh my god, he's so shy and so cute and ripped, I'm sure he could fuck me hard behind closed doors".I can't picture someone taking a look at this guy... https://imgur.com/a/F6lYFQs and being like, "yep, God I want him to fuck me". Or me being ontop of her or below her and looking at me going "fuck he's hot, I'm lucky, god he's cute, let's feel his hands and make him O". This is kinda weird I know but like, one of my greatest fears is just never being seen as the cute kid I was back when I was a boy. That super smart kid who literally couldn't collect enough dinosaur, space, animal books and was just fucking hungry for books upon books. That boy who graduated to reading Shakespear in grade 3 and was constantly picking flowers for his teacher's 'cause they were all beautiful or read romance novels young and decided he wanted to be like the pure and noble, chivalrous prince who sweeps his woman off her feet from the novels. The ultimate romantic gesture being to wait.Best I can kinda do is hope the sounds I make try and capture it and the boy I was and get someone able to see it. I'm not really that kid anymore, can't see it in me or my eyes anymore. For some reason it terrifies me.
Hahaha its all good I'm a fast responder so I assumed you didn't see it, I'm sorry! Well thats good that she respects you enough to do that. She seems like a cool girl but I don't know I'm sensing kinda crush/friend vibes but I could be wrong also it doesn't matter what I think haha. As you should! You should feel equal to the people you like/love. Lmao I don't know I think it is kinda fire, but thats my opinion. You seem cool! Awwwww you have dogs? So cute. Yeah I mean I'm impressed as well lmao thats so sweet. Very cool idea, I've always wanted like a little tattoo that only that special person can find on me lmao I find it cute. And sometimes people don't see whats right in front of them and take bs from others like your bro for example. It's not that you aren't cool or have a bad personality, its just you haven't found the right person for you yet. I feel like that sometimes too. And def you seem clueless hahahahah not a bad thing though necessarily. I feel like I'm the same haha and damn he's smooth too okay haha. I don't know maybe try them out with other girls see if they work?
Um... I mean, I won't deny being good with my hands.Or tongue. I do play harmonica. It's a woodwind instrument, the only one I play atm though. I did play alto sax in middle school but that was like 12 years ago. At some point I'd like to pick up a sax again though, damn do I love the sound of a good sax. And the sound of good sex too! Bah dun bah. Yeah, I'll see myself out.Nah, seriously, I do get that a lot. That's one of the main things women bring up upon me revealing I'm a musician and the main instruments I play (guitar and piano). I can never stress the harmonica enough though people just think it's a dinky little thing, it's real and it requires some tongue work and air direction.My talents are... I don't know. A talent is just a skill someone really worked at and developed.Tbh I'm really early in this, I only started doing this last year and the pandemic has hampered me quite a bit so, I don't know. I'm currently still trying to find a way to work up enough clout and enough of a name that someone gives me a chance at actually recording a few singles, ideally a debut EP, so I can transition from exclusively live to digital/live. But, that might take a while still. Times are tough but the struggle is real.So where is here? Probably not my neck of the woods I'd imagine.
A crush/friend vibe... one-way? I've wracked my brain trying to figure out forever whether it goes both ways and I kinda think it does but it doesn't really matter at the end of the day I guess. The biggest offender of "okay, this is probably not just one-way" was pretty early on when I still addicted to drugs and had yet to really build up real self-esteem and I'd go "well I'm ugly and unattractive and uncharming" and get back "you are so not unattractive and you are definitely charming", amongst others things.Either way, nah, I enjoy using the lessons on her. It's kinda funny. I mean, somewhat dickish I guess since it's clear the lessons are meant for better interactions with women and getting women interested but, sue me, she teases me too. She teased me about looking at her pictures from her sex work days when she was younger and I couldn't really deny that and felt embarrassed and like a sleaze at first but she was smiling and then laughing the whole damn time while I tried to come up with some excuse.I'm pretty heavily tattooed so someone will have a fun time examing and exploring all the ink on my body like a fuckin' roadmap. Actually, she specifically knows all of the ones above the belt. I've never showed anyone the ones I have below the belt. Which admittedly isn't a lot, but still. I like getting inked regularly.I don't know, still frustrating there are dudes out there who put in like no effort to their body or personality and get tons of women and then end up married. Granted I really don't like my SIL but, still.And yes, I have two little choc lab sisters I got during the pandemic that are my life.
Nah I was just teasing you but damn okay go off haha. Sax is dopeeeeee but so hard to play lmao. Hahahahha nah come back into the door cuz you're funny! Yeah def harmonica is a hqrd instrument cuz its so simple I feel but yet hard af to make it sound fire. So wait aren't you doing music for work? So do you work in a band or something? Maybe make an account on like tiktok, FB, IG... that will get you clout for sure. I don't know maybe not? I'm from Canada lol I doubt you're from here haha.
I don't know I'm not sure cuz I can't see it but she may just be a flirty person? I'm not sure. Aww thats sweet of her and damn drugs yeah take a toll on you. I don't know she may have been being nice but I don't know. Hahah yeah def teasing is fun af lmao. Lol men I can't haha and what a bad ass. She sounds dope. Thats pretty cool I def want some but haven't got the chance to. How many do you have? If I can ask lol. Yeah but at least you're working on yourself it seems. I don't know everyone has their qualities and hot guys are often jerks lol. Stop your dogs are so adorable. Not the puppy my fucking dog loving heart 😍😍😍😍😍😍
I am Canadian.I have accounts on YouTube and Spotify. I'm not big on networking sites like Twitter and IG, don't do TikTok. But I haven't uploaded much yet anyway. I'm pretty much exclusively a live performed and that's probably how it's going to stay until I can gain access to a studio which, if I play my cards right and keep hitting the right performances, should be within a few months, probably little after I turn 25.It's a fun game, you can record in your bedroom but you'll never sound great. And if you're me and don't live alone (I live with a friend), you'll ideally want a studio to work with. And actually, my collaboration partner does have a studio for us to record in, COVID just hasn't left us with a whole lot of time to go record something worth releasing.See, you can spend hours in a studio trying to record something decent and then going through mastering it takes a bit after too. Right now I have bills to pay so I'm just always looking for my next show.No, I don't play in a band. I usually play either solo or as a part of a band as a fill-in. Someone needs a guitarist? Cool, here's my rate. Need a keyboardist? Cool, here's my rate. I do have a partner I work with usually but he's kinda busy doing his own thing like me. Things will change and we can get back to doing what we want to do it just takes time.
Lol you are? Thats surprising tbh. And yeah Tiktok is cringe but can get you going for sure. Twitter wouldn't really work for that though, IG could. I think you should try it for sure! Not bad that sounds like a plan! Yeah definitely ahhahahaha I live with my parents (lucky enough) and I can barely get any work done with them around. And yeah you def got time don't even worry about it. Oh shit thats so cool though so you can book any gig you want at your own schedule basically and have extra on the side from bands.
Lol, she's not a pup anymore unfortunately, those pics of the younger sister are over a year old, she turned a year back in November. My little babies are all grown up. Her older sister too man, back in 2020 she fit in my hand she was so small and cute. Now they're little fucking monsters that attack each other for toys and jump on daddy all day.They also fight each other at night over who gets to sleep at my feet and who sleeps by my head.And yeah, you're probably right. Which is why I keep reminding myself to just enjoy her in my life, forget anything else, what happens happens.But also... yeah, she's amazing and God I love her and most of my songs are secretly about her. God, I'd be nowhere without her, certainly not a better man than what I ended up as compared to where I was as a boy. I was actually someone smart, kind, sweet, decent. No drugs, no bad elements, no rough edges yet.She is a badass.And I have 27 tattoos atm.But I'm always adding more. Next round of additions come in next month.
Hahahahaha stop thats so cute. Hey as long as the daddy is taking care of them thats fine lmao. They are adorable small and big. Lmao stop I wanna cuddle with my future dogs. Lol shut up I'm sure you're still sweet, kind, and smart dw.Stopppp thats so many omg what kind do you have? Yes, as you should tattoos are so nice I want some so bad.
Omg I didn't see your "Also... yeah" comment sorry. And nah there's def women who'd be saying that forbsure haha. You're not a bad looking guy at all so stop hating on yourself sir! I loveeeeeeee books now! Haha building my collection as I grow up. Awwwwww you sounded like the cutest kid thats so sweet omg. And hey I like those men! Don't hate on my romance novel men! And nah I'm sure you wanna be somewhat romantic and sweet come on. It sounds like it at least.
Dude, that shit is wack. LOL. But I know the feeling, honestly I've just decided to not even bother with a relationship unless I can find a way out of that. Now I have enough to get a car, and I'm working towards a new place eventually so it helps. But there's a certain point when it gets weird if u dont have those things for sure, or there are actual concerns that will be presented.
And this is just one of the beasties.