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Everyone is afraid of something and that it is normal. But we think that everyone should know it by magic and that why we keep quiet thinking it should be defacto. In relationship, there is no defacto stuff. If you want to say something, your fear... Go on and say it... Open your fucking mouth to not get broken up and disappointed.
If you do not like something. Say it... No one can read minds.. Communication is the key.
Knowing what x and y scares about, it is just like to say "this other girl is like me so it is not something weird or unique..." but does it really solve the problems. No... Each person has their own fear so say it.
Here you can say it, but it needed to be say, you shut up and be quiet... Really?
You are the creator of your own life and choice.
UNDERSTAND, I am happily married to a lovely wife of many many years.
But if something would happen to my wife, and she passed away, I'd be absolutely lost and devastated for sometime.
But if I were to go out for casual drinks and dining with friends and meet up with a nice lady and we became more than just casual friends, it would be only natural for 2 adults to want to enjoy some intimate times together. You can't just fall into bed with the expectations of a successful sexually fulfilling evening.
How do you tell a potentially new sexual partner that you are not as Viral as she might want and expect? How do you casually mention that you are no longer capable of producing sperm or even worse not able to even ejaculate at all? Even 2 senior adults want and even need to enjoy full sexual intercourse during romantic times. How will she react if you mention you also have ED problems?
Will she just run, or politely just shy away?
Feeling unfaithful I know my husband passed away but the thought of laying with someone just ruins it for me
That's why I'm staying out of the real world for right now ✌️
Giving that intimacy to someone if that's their only interest/intention...
I don't share intamacy with just anyone
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My two concerns when a guy wants to date me is whether he will try to get me to break the chastity codes of the bible, and also if I marry and have sex, whether it will lead to problems in my pregnancy or whether he will divorce me one day after I sleep with him. Another thing is money and if he will somehow dislike being with me, like if he does not like my bed time habits such as multiple washroom breaks or kicking in my sleep or hogging the blanket when I’m not aware:
Other than the usual STD thing, it’s things like trust, actually having the confidence that the trust is well placed.
then the other big one is mental health, it’s a big ask for someone to put up with me.
it’s a bit unsettling being woken up by your partner screaming in his sleep 😂
Her, been insecure about it. I lived it, online, with the LDR I had, and if it was already a yes, no, yes, no, nightmare, I can't imagine how it must feel in person. I don't wish it to no one. Dealing with an insecure girlfriend is no joke.
Romantic relationships are complicated, and anyone who thinks is a crucial part of their happiness, isn't ready for a healthy relation.
Many don't understand a romantic relationship is not only build on the feeling we call love, it's also a pact that can lose significance overtime, for any reason. Therefore, if you are in one, don't expect less than the happiness and tranquility you want to feel in your everyday life.
When you 'bed' a new companion a PSA used to say,
"you're sleeping with EVERY FORMER Lover they've EVER had."
And...
most 'whore hounds' aren't going to BE 'honest' and forthcoming
with the gullible women they're seeking to 'pork' and
FEW want to use condoms.
The hubris of "Oh, that WON'T happen to me"
'Caveat Emptor' = "Buyer beware!" BOTH for the female AND the males.
Is the 'convenience' intimacy WORTH potentially life-changing STDs?
WRAP your rascal!
u scary... no? I'm more selective and get to know someone well before, well enough.
afraid though, I would have many concerns getting involved with someone I don't know well enough, so that's part of the reason why I don't do hookups and stuff like that, I just can't be that casual about these things, not my kind of gambling.
Every woman is unique, and different, in what she likes, and how she feels, and what excites her, arouses her, or just turns her off!!
The hardest part of being with a new lady, and intimacy, is learning what she wants, and loves, and she seems to think I "SHOULD KNOW" but each one is so different!!
One likes kissing, and casually teasing; another prefers a little more intimate, kind of 'kissing'; another likes 'biting' here or there, on ears, and other places!!
I don't read MINDS, and most don't offer much, and assume he "just knows", but how can he?
My last girlfriend loved this. . . THE WORST THING TO SAY!!!
Nothing but concerns about her being dirty and stank. I've had some bad experiences with that!
Otherwise I'd say I have no fears. I'm confident in the bedroom and I always lead things and always have good sex life with any girl I am with.
I have imagined though, maybe meeting some feminist girl who gets angry that i lead the way and initiate things. But in reality I dont think that would ever happen. Feminist love being led just as much as any other girl. And i do it in such a confident and gentle way I dont think I need to ever fear that. I can always slowly ramp things up. Especially during foreplay where we can talk about what turns us on while we begin the freakyness.
there's nothing to fear but a stank ass pussy which is surprisingly common...
HIV, syphilis, mumps, Ebola, SARS, E-coli, scarlet fever, gonorrhea, hepatitis c, hepatitis b, shingles, cholera, bubonic plague, typhoid, crabs, the Ripley (no proof fourthcomming that alien parasites, like the xenomorphic uglies in the movie Alien, don't exist), and covert gorilla Tea party member extremists, posing as rational human beings.
I have issues with my penis because I have a genetic dysfunction from birth which also influences my sex drive and my ability to have orgasm I´m unsure if I could pleasure her or having a good night myself. So I never had sex because I never met a woman I felt I could trust with that.
If their pussy will stink and or anything else.
If they were being truthful when they said they had no STDs.
I’m 40, no STDs ever. Only ran into a smelly pussy once and I told her to go in the bathroom and wash it. Then I left when she was in there.
Have no kids either. Always used a condom. Never go bare unless the woman is on birth control at the bare minimum. Wait til you are totally exclusive. Don’t go bare unless you know you can take care of a child.
What really gets me is men and women that have bare sex no birth control and they can’t even take care of themselves. They live at home with their parents. Have no job. Basically a tax on society.
The worst is men that don’t even take care of their kids. That’s disgusting. Those men deserve to have their asses kicked.
I am asexual so for me intimacy has a different meaning.
That they will pretend to like me/avoid conflict until they get tired of me and pull away. The pattern of my dating life :P
If they will be weird after the intimacy happens. I have had a guy straight up tell his friends about our intimacy right while I was sitting there. I find it such a turn off.
The possibility of catching a disease or getting her pregnant. But I've always been a pretty good judge of character and never dated women who seemed like dirty sluts, so I never worried too much about disease and always asked if they were on birth control before doing the deed.
Being judged and not measuring up to their initial thoughts of me. The other person being a narcissist. Especially a covert one!
Having to go through a moment of body insecurities. Even tho most guys end up liking what they see, its still that fear of showing him your flaws and imperfections
Just once again giving up anything and getting nothing in return.
Possibility of betrayal or not living up to their ideal image of a woman
When you get close to somebody you are putting your trust in their hands to some extent. They could either treat you with respect and affection or they can crush you.
I hate being vulnerable. Too many times, to friends and associates including myself. I have seen women use men's lowest confessions to demonize or make him feel inferior. Also used for embarrassement when things go south.
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