What was the hardest break up you’ve ever experienced?

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Lliam · Accepted Answer

I met a 31 year old lady named Petra when I was 37. We wound up virtually living together for over a year. She was my absolute physical ideal and I liked everything else about her, too. She loved me and I wound up loving her to the depths of my soul. The time with her was a peak of my entire life.

We separated for reasons that are too complicated to get into. All I can say is, it didn't have anything to do with cheating or anything mean. Spending the rest of our lives together simply wasn't mean to be.

But back in my apartment without her, I felt like my guts had been kicked out - doubled over in pain and practically nauseous, not for a few days. It took almost a year for me to get back on my feet and start living again.

When I was 40, I met my future wife and married her two years later.

About 20 years after the last time Petra and I had spoken, she found me on Facebook. We became FB 'friends' and even spoke a few times on the phone. Her voice hadn't changed. Memories flooded back.

She had moved out of state to be with her mother and the son she had when she was 17 and briefly married. She never married again. But it filled me with joy to be in touch with her, to know that she was in the world, happy and pursuing her dreams of retirement.

About five years after we reconnected, I read that she had died from a sudden medical problem at age 56. A bright light in the world had been extinguished. I was devastated. There is a hole in my heart that will never heal.

Even though I am very happily married, I still think of Petra often. She was a gift. I will love her forever and will never forget her. I still go to her Facebook page on occasion as if visiting her grave. Aside from an expensive Pepe le Pew figurine on a quartz base that she gave me, it's all I have left of her.

exitseven · Accepted Answer

I dated somebody for a few months. I was really in love with this girl and wanted it to work out. She told me that she was busy with school one weekend and so we couldn;t see each other. I told her I was going to a bar with a friend to watch the hockey game. She went there with her old boyfriend from high school and sat in a booth and that is how she let me know she was dumping me.

WhatTheHeckkkk · Answer

My last relationship.
He was abusive and toxic, but I loved him dearly. He was my first real, serious relationship.. I ignored a lot of red flags because I was head over heels in love. I didn’t realize the things he did were abusive. He broke up with me multiple times and I kept going back because I was young and naive. I told myself, “the next time he breaks up with me, I am not taking him back.” And I didn’t. I didn’t talk to him after the breakup, I stopped chasing, I stopped begging, I stopped trying. He came along after a couple weeks of no contact just to lie to me. He came along one more time and threatened suicide because he knew it would hurt me knowing I couldn’t live with the guilt of someone killing themselves because of me. He did that to manipulate me to continue talking to him and hopes I would get back together with him. Once I started to move on to someone else, I stopped talking to my ex and told him. He was pissed and said that he never was going to kill himself, which was fucked up, (naively enough) I believed him when he threatened it… In that time after I stopped talking to him, he was stalking me, sending gifts, sending me, my (now) boyfriend, friends, and parents threatening messages. He would have his friends send death threats too. He started doing it all again recently. It’s been months since our breakup. 🤷🏻‍♀️

TrueConfection · Answer

My bff at the time. We did everything together including family events and holidays. We were even pregnant together twice. She started getting snippy and finally snapped (something trivial that had nothing to do with me). I expected an apology, but instead she acted like she never lashed out at me. The next time I saw her, I didn't respond in my normal bubbly fashion, more cautious I guess and she made a scene. Anyhow, I felt our friendship was more important than the falling out, but she was always snippy after that. I missed her and our friendship. Our husbands and our kids suffered a loss as well. 💔

ArrowheadSW · Answer

When I was 38, I was dating a lady who I really liked and it was going well. The sex was fun. Suddenly she quit answering my calls and when I finally got ahold of her, she said she didn't want to date any longer. It turns out she reconciled with an ex while we were dating. It took me a long time to get over that, because it was going so well before that.

dustybiker · Answer

Probably a terrible social worker I was forced to speak with in high school after a death (When their offices burned down. No wait, that wasn’t a loss.. it was therapeutic. No, I wasn’t to blame. Nor did they die. 😬) Among other things she didn’t think Oubliette was a word.. actually went down the hall to ask someone else. She came back red faced and I assume educated. It didn’t end well for them.

Junior__ · Answer

When my wife and I got divorced
I thought I put in enough effort but I guess it wasn't quite enough. I spent about a year afterwards thinking about what I could and should have done differently. The list got pretty long, and eventually I just accepted it and moved on. As a husband and as a man I failed her. But such is life. You learn from your mistakes.

Babygirl_S · Answer

I've only been with one guy. He was half-Indian half-white. He was extremely handsome with a nice body and was from Texas visiting India for work. It hurt me a lot to lose him as he was so dreamy but he was so adamant about having sex before marriage. I still feel I can never find anyone better.

donnny2367764 · Answer

With crystal meth. That literally sunk me down the drain years ago. Thankfully I was able to recover and now live way over the top. Being on drugs is literally just like any other type of relationship, you have ups and downs and sometimes extremely lows.. I do not wish drug addiction to anyone

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Talk about heartbroken the jokers at work took away the ice cream machine in the breakroom & it still brings tears to my eyes thinking about it.

Tyrael · Answer

I had to sell my motorcycle a few years back. I've never known loss like it before.

laurieluvsit · Answer

This one...

awkward_author · Answer

Breaking up with my ex-fiancee was extremely difficult. I still loved her, but I had to leave due to the toxicity of the relationship. For the next few months, I felt completely empty and depressed after that.

whirled_up_girl · Answer

The very first one, because he was the first man I ever loved, the man who took my virginity and then he left me to go back to his ex.

Msputiton · Answer

2nd relationship we were in hs and so in love, but my ex, parents forced us to not date anymore. Haven't dated anyone since

SphynxUK · Answer

My divorce, because it is a traumatic experience; more so with children.

Z1pTD · Answer

Probably my first breakup where we had taken each other’s virginity and than she texted me saying she was done because she found someone better in bed.

scooogy · Answer

I didn't attend it really because it was actually an on-off thing, but basically it was with my ex who passed away.

Anonymous · Answer

Close friend of four years dumped me in a day because of a girl he’d known for a week

Jintendo18 · Answer

Basically my one and only long-term relationship when I was 20/21.

Guido · Answer

Divorce from my 1st wife. I have since moved on with an upgraded wife. Better off now.

Naughtyboy71 · Answer

My first marriage thought done everything right  then you a failure

Bluemax · Answer

My wife... if you can call dying a break up.

Anonymous · Answer

My ex found out she has a husband. And I fell hard for her. Once found out I dumped her.

Anonymous · Answer

When she brought her new boyfriend to visit.

EaterPeter · Answer

With most of my exes.

Wymersley · Answer

The first one, never really got over it.

hsshannah96 · Answer

all of them.

serilunaahh · Answer

a sudden breakup, no clarifications and closure

Mavie123 · Answer

A guy who ghosted me

H8INCHES · Answer

My first wife

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