Do you often find yourself worrying about things you have no control over?

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Youryeodongsaeng · Accepted Answer

Yeah. I am currently trying not to worry about my now ex-friend cheating on her boyfriend with various other guys. She's 17 and she's hitting on my 20-year-old male cousin. I did tell her beforehand, when he had a crush on her that if he tries something with you, just tell him no. I have told her to give him space and then she went on ahead and pinky-promised me that she'll never try anything with him. What did I hear from my little sister weeks later? She was giving him head in the family's bathroom.
I have had a crush on my own cousin. After I've tried to shoot my shot and he didn't give me a chance, (because he stated the obvious that we are cousins and I knew he'd reject me) I just stop trying because he wasn't worth it anymore.

I don't like the idea of my friend going out with my cousin. For one, she already has a boyfriend and her man already don't believe when people tell him that this girl is cheating on him. Their relationship isn't long distance. They do meet up with each other from time to time.
I hadn't told her that I'm not going to be her friend anymore because I don't feel like it. I don't like cheaters.
Another reason why I don't like the idea of that so-called friend and my cousin dating is that he needs someone better than her.
All of this isn't very healthy for my mental health at all.
No, I don't like him anymore. At the end of the day, he isn't my ideal type, so he isn't worth my time.

The sight of my own cousin dating an unfaithful bitch is enough to make me smack some sense into him and bury the bitch alive. Cheaters don't deserve life.

Amy10223 · Accepted Answer

Yes, it's a bad habit. That's why I try to control things or have more control over them. But I know that's not good.

ohshee · Accepted Answer

I think I do quite often it's not so much that I don't have control over it it's that it's certain things happen the names like you have control over me and that's what I don't like I know like our government right now where they're taking us the cleanest any position to where we are going to have to depend on them for everything and I think that's totally wrong we hired these people to do the right thing for us and they're doing completely the opposite because they want to control us because all of our natural resources are done a population is overwhelming and they're losing control have the people individual everybody seems to have an attitude now if you don't know the 5G set up that we have that is a military weapon and it could sue do people very easily can mixing be good boys and girls

ShadezMcgee · Accepted Answer

When I was younger for sure. I was diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety Disorder when I was a kid and that amplified simple inconveniences and things outside of my control that I would exhaust myself over and be miserable about because I also took extreme accountability for it when I had no reason to.

To this day I still catch myself doing that, but nowhere near as bad as it was when I was a kid. It comes down to mindset and reality versus amplified catastrophizing over shit that hadn't happened or happened and wasn't a big deal.

MCheetah · Answer

All the time. Like the fact my height, ethnicity, and looks keep me from getting a partner (that, and not wanting to simp or degrade myself for someone who doesn't love or respect me, unlike other men in my situation). I have no control over how short I am, or the possibility I might be shrinking and might be 3 cm shorter than I was last year, and yet, I worry about it all the time, despite logic.

AlexItsJustAlex · Answer

Yes, unfortunately that's a common result of people with anxiety. I can only suggest trying to get better at catching yourself doing it, if you can recognize it you may be able to do it less. Although there's no guarantee.

ReneD13 · Answer

No, it happens but it's pretty rare now. I just try and put all my focus on things I care about and that are within my control.

loves2learn · Answer

Sometimes. That is one of the ways my generalized anxiety disorder manifests.

Miristheiss · Answer

Not too often.  My wife on the other hand... worrying is all she ever does. It gets annoying to be honest.

ChiTown33 · Answer

Not often. I live by 2 rules in life. 1. Don't worry about the small things in life 2. Everything in life is small.

Adam1978 · Answer

No I plan for all outcomes that I can think of. Especially the negative.

CrazyGirl666 · Answer

Absolutely! I can't help it, I just don't know what it is. I hate not knowing.

dustybiker · Answer

I used to. Only in the past few months found myself in a position to be able to stop.

Northernlights25 · Answer

It does happen yes. In my perfectionism I overthink too often so fussing over the future and such things comes easily. I'm getting better at it though.

aquamarine321 · Answer

I think it’s human nature to worry about things that we can’t control, but fire me I try not to, because worrying only leads to stress, sleepless night depression and even suicidal

GingerGuy · Answer

Yes. And I think everyone does, at least sometimes.

exitseven · Answer

Yes, even though I have no control, I still think about it.

donnny2367764 · Answer

No and if you do then you need some serious help. Worry instead about finding a good counselor for yourself

Shark_61695 · Answer

Not really, I get more stressed at people demanding I do something about it.

awkward_author · Answer

I used to, but I learned to accept that I can’t change everything.

cookiecrusher · Answer

No, more like too perfectionist. And sometimes if the unknown would ruin the perfection then yeah, i get a bit carried away.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Sometimes. Then I realize I can’t control it.. so why bother

Luopio27 · Answer

Government decisions affect all. I lost my hope on politics.

Jintendo18 · Answer

When they directly affect my quality of life, then yes.

Jhonrembo · Answer

I believe and trust in God. Doing the best I can. And always hope for the best.

whosnumber1 · Answer

no I do not. this is a good question though. a lot of people have this problem

Smartasswoman · Answer

Yes all the time I even managed to give myself anxiety over things I over think every darn thing and hate when I can't turn it off...

Mediterraneansoul · Answer

Be good to others and yourself and your worries will be less

Wymersley · Answer

I worry that I have no control over when I worry and what I worry about.

Prettygurl12 · Answer

Um only every day lol

Lucy68 · Answer

All day everyday unfortunately

JoyGirl · Answer

Yessssssssss 😭 Gotta work on that. 😭

Somegirl678 · Answer

no, what is there to worry about?

Nik_92 · Answer

Yup its human nature so its obvious

Not_Average · Answer

I do and it’s something I’m working on.

Lovesims3plumbob · Answer

I used to do a sometimes.

annabananna · Answer

Yes, I used to all the time.

Still-alive · Answer

Political things mostly yeah

LordOfThePines · Answer

All the time, anxiety sucks.

noohair · Answer

Never, I conquered that demon.

fireforeffect · Answer

I use to, but now I turn those things over to God.

RedStiletto88 · Answer

Of course

Melodis17 · Answer

All the tone

celianelson3105 · Answer

yes. it’s my crippling anxiety bestie <3

jimmy2 · Answer

No there no worries there

SAMI_DABBAB · Answer

İt's a hobby

Anonymous · Answer

yes a lot… but you can change your mindset

Babygirl_S · Answer

Yes..

Mavie123 · Answer

Haha most of time

Nigjt · Answer

Yes. God Bless

In_Trance · Answer

rarely

McKellar · Answer

All the time.

Naughtyboy71 · Answer

Lol today world

EaterPeter · Answer

Some times

msc545 · Answer

Occasionally, yes

Anonymous · Answer

Yes.

Slim57 · Answer

Yeah I do

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