Being codependent is not only in love relationships, but with friends and family as well.
Year's ago, in the late 80's and in the 90' they had 12 step programs for codependent people. It was called Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOA). I went to meetings for 2-1/2 years and it changed my whole life and changed they way I was doing my life. I dare say this, but I will. If you were raised by a family of Alcoholics and/or drug addicts, that is how codependency is made. And you will carry it into adulthood and those relationships. You really need to do research on the subject, or, if you can afford it, see a therapist. I was fortunate to have gone to a 12 step program for free all those years. Good luck with your research, I hope it gives you the answers your are looking for. And it does take work on your part to build a healthier you.☮️
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Codependency is based more on what someone else is doing to you. Of course it can be mutual codependency, but it really takes a pro counselor/psychologist to work with you on exactly what to do about it. It's defined as such:
Codependency has been defined as an unhealthy devotion to a relationship at the cost of one's personal and psychological needs. It describes one person's behaviors and attitudes rather than the relationship as a whole. Someone who is codependent often builds their identity around helping others. They may “depend” on others to validate their self-worth.
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Love is only live when both people are equally codependent... Even in a Master Slave relationship, Matter is dependent on Slave as Slave is of Master (Talking BDSM) NOT Racial slavery (making sure to clarify as there is almost always that one person who loves to get attention by yelling "Racist"
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It becomes codependency when you are at the point that you are only happy if they are happy, and that you will even start sacrificing your own well being to make them happy. Be careful, I’ve gotten in that situation before, and eventually you realize you are only telling yourself you are happy, and you start resenting your partner
In all relationships you should love yourself first, have boundaries, and hold your partner accountable. Doing these things allows you to give love to them and meet their needs because you have the capacity to do so.
They are independent of each other. Love doesn't require dependants. Just because someone else is taking up a task or responsibility doesn't mean if shit hits the fan, you can't cover that too. Don't make convenience into dependencies.
If you depend on them too much to fill your emotional needs and feel you can't live without them, you might be codependent.
Co-dependancy is when you think your life will end without them.
The part where you are in charge/responsible of your own finances and contribution to the relationship as a whole...
Codependency has constant negative consequences.
BestCan you live without them for a week, two.. a month? It will show you where you are emotionally.
Its all co dependence, there is no such thing as love
Reciprocation is a good start
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