Why is it when a girl is seeing a guy she can't have guy friends but he can have female friends?

[pizzalovershouse]

Cuz they feel he will take her away from him

Cuz they fear they dont have a good relationship

Cuz their vain

They only want a girl to be friends with his friends

Usely do to the fact he doesn't treat her as nice as a guy friend

They don't mind as long as the guy is gay

It's a I'm a guy you do as I say attitude

A total of 28 votes were cast: 11 girls and 17 guys. See detailed results

[Buntyp]

It's when she's with the wrong guy. A healthy relationship is never based on prohibitions. It doesn't matter whether the one imposing conditions like that is male or female--it's proof that they are not mature enough and far too insecure to ever risk becoming attached to them. Why would anyone want to be with someone who tells them what they can and can't do?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Because some people set standards/rules for their partner that they don't think they have to follow themselves...

[TommyMountainFigure]

Erm who says she can't? A guy who is confident in himself and his g/f doesn't mind who she has as friends. Certainly doesn't bother me.. I know all of her male friends and have been to football matches with some of them.
She's actually jealous of ME that I 'take her friends away from her' she says that tongue in cheek by the way.

[jahaims]

My wife has guy friends. Idc

[pizzalovershouse]

That's good you don't mind

[jahaims]

Why would I?

[pizzalovershouse]

Well as you see most people think the friend will make her cheat

[jahaims]

You can't make someone cheat. If the only thing keeping your partner from cheating is opportunity then you shouldn't want them anyways.

[pizzalovershouse]

Great point if you have a secure relationship

[jahaims]

I wouldn't be in a relationship if it wasn't a trusting one. That defeats the purpose of a relationship.

[pizzalovershouse]

I agree

[Anonymous]

Often a girl keeps guy friends as a back up to you or often guy friends are trying to get her pants. It's actually worth watching out for. Was with a girl years ago and this guy friend was actually undermining our relationship spreading around lies about me, manipulating fights to break us up waiting for an opportunity to pounce. Of course i told her this and she brushed it off as jealousy, while I was out of town he waited until she was drunk to try something. There are guys who use friendship as a way in and doesn't matter if she has a man.

[Flower7]

Do you feel like guys also do the same thing? Keeping female “friends” around as a backup plan?

[Opinion Owner]

@Flower7 generally not if he's with a girl. With guys it's not his girls that are friends she should worry about with him instead it's her own friends.
When a guy finds a really great girlfriend his buddies say themselves I wish I had a girlfriend like that but when a girl finds a great guy her friends say I wish I had that great guy

[HighValue]

The majority of guy friends are interested in their female friends romantically or sexually. When there is a problem in the girl's current relationship they will often give self serving advice to try to deepen any problems in the relationship and drive her away from her current boyfriend, thinking the friend will then get to have her.

[MrOracle]

It's because most or all of her guy-friends actively want to fuck her, and will try anytime they get a slight chance. In the opposite scenario, most guys who have a female friend, the girl does NOT want to sleep with the guy, so it's unlikely to happen. That's an obvious difference in how the sexes work, but, yes, that creates a double-standard.

[yug_a_tsuj]

Honestly, because I know myself, and I know I won't look at another girl with last. And because I am guy I know guys (Mostly single) do look at 90% of girls as someone to potentially bang.

Not that I don't trust her, I don't trust them not to try something.

With all that being said I don't stop my girlfriend from having male friends.

[Slartybartfast]

Hmm, from a lifetime of observation. Women almost always try to get rid of their boyfriends befriends.

Once you're married it's even worse, usually men wind up loosing all his friends as she forced them away.

In fact I'd call this stereotypical behavior of a wife.

I've never seen men do this , ever.

[DaveJord]

I don't agree with any of the choices... when two people met and they totally vibe they usually do not have the time to infest in opposite sex because all their attention and effort goes into the relationship. I found women discourage female friends as much as guys frown on other guys hanging around.

[Flower7]

Neither of them should have opposite gender friends. I know that’s an unpopular opinion, but I really believe that’s what’s best for the relationship.

[Carolina_girl]

My situation is the exact opposite the guy I am dating thinks it's ok to go spend time alone with his female friends that I am not allowed to know or meet ever. He doesn't see an issue with this and tells me I am ridiculous and irrational about it and he feels I am disrespectful of him and his female friends for getting upset by this. He will even cancel plans He has already made with me if one of them call wanting to do something with him

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Men don't have boundaries , that this a friend or this is a girl i can date.

Everybody is datable irrespective of whether they are in relationship or not.

Same goes with women every guy is a datable an backup option depending on what they like about him they can switch partners.

And females allowing males having females as friends is rare

[Justyna98]

If my guy was limiting me in this way, I would break up with him. luckily I am free and can have friends of both genders.

[AviatorTom]

Who says? It's perfectly okay for either the guy or girl to have opposite-sex friends.

[dustybiker]

All of my best friends are men from childhood. I have a group of them. Zero friction. We have trust.

[Ninania]

That shouldn't be a standard, that's controlling behaviour.

[Anonymous]

Because as I have her on this site “women are gatekeepers of sex” lmaooo, so if she has a guy friend, I am sure she is setting boundaries so high that the guy bestfriend knows his place and there’s not a chance in hell he’s gonna fuck her.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

True with boundaries women set boundaries and men just take a long jump over it 😜

[Wraith_Cemetery]

I don't have female friends and my partner doesn't have male friends. It's the way it should be.

[nawtee_me]

She can have all of the friends she wants. Trust is not an issue with me.

[Kiran_Yagami]

Neither should have friends of the opposite gender. Don't be an orbiter and don't keep orbiters around.

[Anonymous]

Because her "guy friends" are guys that are trying to fuck her.

[Gwenhwyfar]

That always bothered me

[RedStiletto88]

Because some guys are controlling jerks.

[Cherry234]

It's a double standard.

[Cherry234]

Also, I think the only people who wouldn't allow their partners to have friends of the opposite gender either get jealous too easily or they're insecure. I wouldn't want to be with a guy who doesn't let me have friends of the opposite gender.

[exitseven]

It can go the other way too.

[Hangry06]

Cause he doesn't want her to cheat

[ThatguyDon]

If your relationship is real it won't matter.

[NamerOfStars]

Because he's a hypocrite.

[Vegasrunner]

I think you have that backwards

[JohnK123]

Because majority of girls like boys not girls

[Anonymous]

What planet do you live on? LMAO

[luvstoned4him]

voted a

[Neilbud]

Double standard, I've seen it the other way.

[Hulk30]

it's true

[Anonymous]

too many options! its confusing me