Is it okay for someone to drop by your place uninvited?

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Diodoro · Accepted Answer

Context is everything. If they're a welcome guest and come at a good time. If either is not the case it's not okay. If both are True then it's all good.

When I was growing up I had friends swing by my place all the time unannounced. That was s pretty normal thing. Most of the time it was a good time and we hung out.

Thats what most people did before EVERYONE had a smartphone

IsoUser · Accepted Answer

To be perfectly honest it's never okay unless you're family to just drop by unannounced. The word " Stalker " comes to mind Lol

aWes0MeNeSs · Accepted Answer

No, I like my privacy and like to know when to expect guests. I am pretty anal about my house being spotless for guests, so feel embarrassed if they unexpectedly show up when a few things are out of place (I know, sounds ridiculous, but that is just me). I also don't want someone to show up while I'm right in the middle of something.

Genie23 · Accepted Answer

Not always. It can get annoying at times as sometimes I'm too busy or want to have some "Me" time.

Sonorous · Answer

Hello no. I don't care who you are. If I didn't invite you & it's not an emergency where you're in need of help, I'm not opening the door. Door stays locked. Key in my bra.

Crucis84 · Answer

No, it isn't, and I hate it when people do that. It's inconsiderate, and it's as though the one doing the "dropping" thinks that you can't possibly have anything else planned for the day, and that even if you did they're more important than whatever that was.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

5 or 6 years ago, I loved it when people dropped by unannounced, these days I won't even answer the door if the police knock and want to talk to me, unless I called them first and they are coming out for a report.

So nope, I will never answer the door unless I know your coming first.

corasthots · Answer

Depends who it is, if it’s a close friend they already know the code lol. Same with immediate family members. However I’m super introverted so 90% of the time, if it’s not those specific people I probably wouldn’t even get up to answer the door.

“Ahhh, sorry! Was in the shower.”
“Oh weird, I was making a smoothie, didn’t hear the doorbell.”
“Had a date over.”
Literally any excuse.

BirdieBeep · Answer

Definitely depends who. Family? Sure. Close friends who are basically like family are definitely welcome to drop by anytime. As long as they're respectful of the fact that it isn't guaranteed that I'm home or free. They're welcome to drop by, but I can't guarantee I have time or attention to give if we don't arrange ahead of time. Anyone outside my closest circle, though? I feel like it would be kind of awkward and weird for them to just come by like that.

WhatTheHeckkkk · Answer

Nope. I don’t think so.

jshm2 · Answer

Depends on your place.

In my holiday home, yes, as I only go there to get away and take a break.

But in my home, I have relatives and friends come by all the time. I only ever ask it not be early morning or late at night as those are times I am busy

roseline_ · Answer

Our problem is that we think we know too much. I am a bit disappointed at the replies I am seeing but well everybody is not the same.

Nothing gives me joy than to see someone I haven't seen in a while, or someone I know before show up at my door.

Anonymous · Answer

I live out in the middle of the country and my dad's highschool friends just drop by all the time. So it's totally normal for me. But i think it all depends on where you live. Out in the country no biggie, but I could imagine in the city it would be a little odd. It really depends how close you are to the person.

Anonymous · Answer

If I'm at home, it's chill time. I'm relaxing, probably been a long day, the last thing I want when I've got face cream, my bumfy clothes on, and a mouthful of popcorn is for someone showing up and wanting me to entertain their happiness, their bad day, their needing to not be bored....yeah, no. My friends/family/boyfriend knows, you want in, call first or don't expect me to answer the door.

Sour-rose · Answer

No. If you drop some n***a on my doostep with no reason or invitation, I'm gonna leave him where i left and tell you to get ya boy back.

Biancam13 · Answer

It really depends. If it’s a neighbour I think that’s ok. If it’s a random friend that’s a bit weird. You should at least text or call them to let them know you want to drop by,

Datboi65 · Answer

Hell to the no. I value my peace and quiet, and unless I want someone to be in my space, they are not going to show up without letting me know. I would straight up ghost them.

Justerino · Answer

I been thinking about this lately. Sometime I roll up on my uncles unannounced but kinda get annoyed when my cousin come by and ask me for a ride. I don’t ask them for anything though and I usually bring food, but yeah… good to call first FOR SURE!

Adam1978 · Answer

That's like playing roulette, expect to have to turn back at the door. I might not be home, or be in mood for their company. I prefer if people check in first before showing up.

KatieB713 · Answer

Uninvited isn't that much of an issue, but unannounced isn't OK as it doesn't give me time to prepare. The only exception is probably my boyfriend, but I will still be a little irritated

Wintergrace · Answer

Uninvited? Sure. Unannounced? No. I just like for people to check in and make sure I’m available and ready for company, so an hour or so notice is plenty.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Since when has that become a crime? What's next, I'm gonna need your permission to send you an e-mail? Exactly how would I go about getting this permission?

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Yeah friends do it and sis etc they just have to put up with me not being home and help themselves to food n a drink till I get back

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

Not at all it's annoying. I will not even open the door I don't care if it's raining hot snowing their fault for showing up with out calling.

sage2021 · Answer

Not if it's someone you asked to call before they come over; like when you are dating other guys besides him.

MTC29 · Answer

I don't care at all, but when I dropped in on my SO unannounced, she became unglued.  I'll never do that again.

idkwhatsreal · Answer

Yes but then it’s also perfectly fine if I don’t answer the door. . . if I don’t know you are coming. You don’t know that I’m home.

RobT312 · Answer

It’s annoying. You could be doing something, on your way out, already have other plans, etc. a quick call or text solves the problem!

zagor · Answer

I have a habit of doing that on very short notice.

When I was a kid my Dad had a single friend who was always doing that, and my Mom was always getting pissed about it. Now I suppose the wives of my friends consider me the asshole friend.

Juan_Sheet · Answer

I'm fine with that as long as me and the wife aren't having a session. Which is unlikely during normal daylight hours...

Have guests and visitors is one of lifes pleasures. Having a catch up, swapping views. Its a great way to spend the day.

Corina_J · Answer

NO. ABSOLUTELY NOT. I will not answer the door if I'm not already expecting a visit.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

To me, yes. My OH would probably be less happy as she likes to tidy up before people come (two babies mean the place is often a little untidy)

bulletbob555 · Answer

No I give the same respect and don't drop in on People. This place I managed my one employee. Had two boyfriends it turns out. Well one stabbed the other when the one dropped in. All I could think of if they had only called first.

petitedollbabee · Answer

If it’s an emergency/life or death situation, yes. If they’re just dropping by to hang out, no.

RebeccaBI2000 · Answer

I actually hate that. Then I would have to stick on clothes

AndrésC64 · Answer

There are only two people that I would be okay with doing that; my my sister and my best friend. Other than that, I'm probably just going to ignore you.

Agape93 · Answer

Only certain people have that right. Otherwise no, you call and get permission first.

kitty71 · Answer

The question is even a bit dumb. Of course no, unless is family or an amergency

annabananna · Answer

As long as they don’t do it all the time I don’t mind but I think you should try to call first for the most part.

Aimée__LJ · Answer

Yeah many of my mates had a key to my old place. I'd come home and just find them there

exitseven · Answer

Most of the time I do not mind. I am usually not very busy these days.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Friends: any time. "Strangers" will be executed right away.

Zodiac10 · Answer

It just depends on who it is. I have some friends that could, and some that would make me upset by doing it. Just depends completely on who it is.

douride2 · Answer

I have no problem with friends or family dropping by my place unannounced.

BobbyC65 · Answer

It happen all the time at our house mostly on the weekends Friday Saturday and Sunday.

MJtheCoach · Answer

Yah is okay however if I made it clear I don’t want to show up and they do it again it pisses me off. Like some girls do.

KingofCups · Answer

If we're on that lvl of friendship then ya. Or if I'm dating someone and she decides to show up for a surprise visit, I could be about it.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I don't think so unless its a emergency. A person can be having private moments they might wish not to be interrupted.

Paul09 · Answer

Well as long as I get heads up. Yes. If pop in unannounced, probably not a good idea. Depending on the day.

prosmind · Answer

In our society it's normal but now a gradual change is being experienced. I personally find it annoying if someone shows up uninvited or unexpectedly.

Harryst89 · Answer

Where I come from, is very nice to receive someone at your house. In my personal case, if I'm not real busy, and as long as you are not going to bore me. I receive you and I give you my time

DangItBobby · Answer

Depends on who it is and if they do it all the time

JessieBellll · Answer

Depending on who they are

Jltakk · Answer

It would be great, it shows that someone remembered I existed.

TsAubreyKate · Answer

I always bring a gift or try to send a text so I can bring it up like did you get my text?

Alexis_1996 · Answer

My friends do it all the time. It’s Greek way they come just come by. They pretty much my family.

honeynut-scenarios · Answer

They better have a good reason.

SnakeBoop · Answer

Depends on who for sure.

dafina2208 · Answer

Yes, I don't have a problem with that

KrisPW · Answer

Friends and family, yes.

laurieluvsit · Answer

No one can get near my place uninvited

sensible27 · Answer

Yep, who doesn't enjoy free meals

AviatorTom · Answer

I prefer arranging a visit in advance.

Kitty_V · Answer

It really depends who it is

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