Should I quit my job as a security guard because of my female colleague?

[Anonymous]

I'm the youngest hire (22) while my colleagues are a man (39) and a woman (34). To cover all the shifts we should be in four, but there's a very high turnover and now I see why: my female colleague, perhaps because this is a male dominated industry, feels the need to act as a the "big girl" and often gets abrasive and confrontational not only with us, but with the owner as well. The man just agrees to everything she says and whenever she blames me for something, he never says a thing.
Worst of all, things here are all personal and drama - she gets things done faster because she's got many friends in the offices, and it happened people called only to hung up or ask where she was when I was on shift. As a result, I'm cut off from the loop in many cases.
She says she only wants us to do things well for our own benefit, but when I followed a standard procedure (send an e-mail to the owner because a worker hurt himself and needed an ambulante during my shift) she got mad and accused me of going over her.
If she's in a good mood she can be friendly and even nice to have around, but it gets taxing when she overstays two hours into my shift to check on me, or arrives two hours EARLIER ti control my work.
The job is stressful enough, but she's the mai reason I want to quit: I'm sick of always tiptoeing around her.

I'm considering to quit, but I know that if I'll do it, she and my male colleague will have to make 12 hours shifts to cover for me and I honestly don't want to put them in that situation. But I can't go on like this either.

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1 y

Update - I tried to quit, she said to try and wait until they find a replacement. She promised to be nicer if I keep working and invited me to hang out when we have the day off.

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11 mo

Update: today was my last day. Things had actually gotten better in those months but I still looked around and found something more suitable for me.
They found a replacement and I actually trained him. The female colleague today actually said I was one of the best guys she had and that if I want to come back I am always welcome.

[wheresmrcunnunglis]

all security jobs have high turnover due to highly toxic work environments. Usually, people take those roles for the experience or segway into higher security roles that align with their military or law enforcement background. With that said, if you can handle not having the income then by all means LEAVE ASAP. otherwise, try and hold out just a bit longer and use your frustration as fuel to spruce up your resume and apply like crazy to other jobs where your current skills can be transferable.

All the best to you and use this experience as what to look out for in the next job that you scout for.

[dustybiker]

Tough call. Have you had this conversation with the owner? See if that gains you ground and decide from there. What about applying to be a police officer instead?

[Asker]

I could try to talk to the owner, but I don't want to get her into trouble either: she's more overbearing than toxic, and although she gives it rarely she gives praise too and is good at her job.
I was already thinking on entering in the financial police. The applications are open in June so I was thinking of giving a large notice to allow them to find a replacement.
It's something she reccomended me to do when she got suspicious I was thinking about quitting: she didn't get mad at all. Actually she can be pretty reasonable when she doesn't have a motive to get mad.

[dustybiker]

You might have found your fix. 👍🏻

[Anonnemas]

A job is never worth bringing home stress which you clearly are unless you're making enough to not care about money any more. Find a different job then put in your two weeks and find some peace

[ragooo8]

Sounds like she needs a good dicking. You know what to do.