Stand strong in your decision. You have 3 other siblings anyway, but even if none if them have kids your mother needs to accept it and get over it. Having kids means they're individual people and you're correct that no one is owed grandchildren. You sound a lot more mature than your own mother it seems and I'm so sorry. I also don't want to have kids and I am childfree by choice. I've never been pregnant and I don't want to be. I have 1 sister but I am the only sibling that has my head screwed on as I'm told, and should have kids, but I won't have them for as long as I have a choice in it. I love kids and I'm maternal, but not in the way people think. I never want to have kids or go through pregnancy. War, crisis, poverty, illness, cost of living, genetics, etc. I refuse to purposely bring children in to the world. Hugs. ❤
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You stand your ground. Only you can decide how you want to live your life. If your mom is pushy and disrespectful to you and your decisions, put up boundaries.
There’s no other way to “handle” it except for just standing your ground
Nobody else's opinion matters if you and your partner agree on something. Kids are cute and cuddly to spend good time but raising them is hard, raising them right is lot harder.
Yes your parents will love your kids to the moon and back but you're the one who's gonna raise them so ultimately if you don't want kids then just don't have them, don't let your parents or other people guilt you into having kids. It's not a bad thing that you don't want kids, you don't owe anyone anything.
No need for vasectomy, just use condoms or contraceptives. Just have a happy healthy life without third person's interference.
Just LIE... tell people that either he or she is infertile doesn't matter or any other reason, they will stop asking, low sperm count or tilted uterus tell it is so rude that no one will leave you guys alone to enjoy each other
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Set some boundaries. It's your choice and people can't keep disrespecting you.
Kind of ironic that the parent who checked out in your childhood and is probably the reason why you don’t want kids is the one insisting on you having kids like she wants grandkids for her own entertainment. I have four kids of my own so I haven’t been asked the “when are you gonna have more kids” in LONG time but I get where you’re coming from and why you don’t want kids at the moment. It’s almost like the people who insist you have kids of your own are so unhappy with their own life choices that they’re depending on you now. The irony is that when she stops nagging you about having kids of your own is probably when you and your husband might think about kids. Maybe hold off on the vasectomy for now but tell your mom your husband got snipped just to piss her off. 😉
You seem really mature and responsible and I just want to send my love and support and I fully support you on your decision to be childfree. Family doesn't get a say in that. Family can also be what you want it to be. I'm 23 and I'll be 24 in July and I'm still young but I don't have any kids. I am on the fence about having any. I don't think they're for me but I do love kids. I'm 30% thinking I may want to have 1 or 2 when I am 30 and I've been with the right guy a few years and hopefully married but I'm also 70% content and okay with the idea if I never have kids either. I definitely don't plan on trying to have any kids in the next 5 years hahha. All I can say is stand your ground. Hugs. 💞
My sister decided years ago she did not want to have kids.
she has stuck to her guns and 100% is not having them.
TBH I did discuss it with her when we were younger.
she's just totally against having or even adopting in part due to our childhood shit.
she is fine with my daughter and is not anti kids, just not for her.
I accept it as it’s what she wants.Now that you've told them, you shouldn't address the subject anymore unless your mind changes. You have three siblings and I have a hard time believing none of them will ever want kids. It's understandable that your mom wants grandkids, but it's your life.
Well I dont want kids either.
I dont listen to them, If possible I would live as far away as possible from these people who force me to marry and have kidsTell them to mind their own damn business and be mean about it. But do invite your siblings to live with you.
"This topic is not open for discussion"
And if that fails? Move out.
*Beep beep beep* "This number is not available"
:)You don't need to handle anything. Just say " I'm not having kids "
Tell them I don't want kids. My family is quite understanding so yea
Well some day when you are old and ugly , you will have no choice but to go to a nursing home and the home will get everything you worked for.
I don't know what there is to handle. You made a decision you're happy with
I just kick that can down the road and will one day open that can of worms
A bit too long for me to bother reading tbh but if someone is pressuring you to have kids, they’re bizarre people.
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