How do you want kids?

[Agape93]

Like normal

Surrogacy

Adoption

Foster

Sautéed with onions and garlic

Invitro

[DizzyDesii]

I really truly wanted kids before I turned the age of 30. And i didn't care if it was by way of a relationship/conception or invitro. But i might give myself to the age of 31. If I haven't birthed one by then, I’d look into surrogacy. Its scary having to watch someone else carry whats yours because who knows what they do with their body when you’re not around. If i had one by surrogacy, then I’d still adopt one more. I don’t see myself ever fostering a child because i wouldn't want to have to give them up

[SpokenTruth]

Having to give them up I have gone though that before it wounds you no question about it.

[DizzyDesii]

@SpokenTruth funny thing is, i had a similar dream last night where i was extensively babysitting these two kids that i know. We were practically their second fam and they were prob with us just as much as their own since we took care of them from infantry through age 4. And once they were like 5, we grew apart (in real life) since they moved away. Now they’re high schoolers and have no idea who i am. I mean I was a kid myself when taking care of them, but It hurts because those were my babies.

[SpokenTruth]

I can relate to that. I took care of a little one for months. After she went back with her real parent I didn't get to see her anymore except for once on FB not face to face. I am told she wouldn't remember me however I have trouble believing that. She was with me day and night around the clock and I treated her like she was my own and felt that way about her too. Either way she didn't know her real dad very well before I had her. Then she became a daddy's girl when she went to him so I've been told. I spoiled her when she was in my care and today she's all grown up and has children of her own.

[DizzyDesii]

@SpokenTruth well those kids dont remember me and i was with them for 4 years. They only remember my mom since she was their preschool teacher

[SpokenTruth]

The little one that was left with me had just turned three and she was closer to four when her dad came and got her. I was told about ten years when she lived not far from me by the person that still had connections with her that she would bring her by so we could have a reunion. And then that didn't happen I think she moved to another state or whatever the case. I was also told not to mention I took care of her and she wouldn't remember me. Well I can remember when I was three. I felt deprived of closure. But I know I loved her and I know she loved me and I guess that is the only closure I will ever get.

[SpokenTruth]

That's suppose to read I was told about ten years ago, the ago was missing.

[DizzyDesii]

@SpokenTruth omg same i remember a lot from age 3+ even tho i never saw those classmates again after age 5. I still spot then immediately when we see eachother today in our 20s but a lot of them dont remember me. Just my mom. Like wtf am i, chop liver 😂

[SpokenTruth]

Yes I can remember being in my crib wanting out to join the others in the next room literally along with the music coming from the next room. And yeah I feel like a tool that's used and thrown away. I always wanted children I always wanted a little girl and she was perfect. Only I later learn I can't adopt because I happened to be a man and if that wasn't bad enough I would also learn they won't even consider anyone over age 50. I have given up now.

[DizzyDesii]

@SpokenTruth nahh i can't recall the crib days 😂 just the preschool days. And omg that is so hurtful that they won't allow you to adopt when you simply just want to parent someone who has no family. The system is so jacked

[Cynicaldreamer]

Eww... rugrats. I'll take mine sautéed please with onions and garlic.

Bless you that like or want kids, but I'm SO very happy child free and living my life without stressing over lack of sleep, money, or raising a kid in this world nowadays. More power to those of you with them or that want one.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

As for me I can’t control the future right now & I’m open & undecided about kids as of the moment. On the other hand & as for the time being the only like I want could be bought in the candy section of my local supermarket & sour patch kids they are.

[zeitgeist057]

I don't really want kids, but if I did have a kid or two, I would want a designer baby.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/NIIZ2P-fiyI

[TenderFantasy]

I feel like DNA can only do so much though. There's a lot of external forces in life that dictate how your body will react or how your life will turn out. You can have the BEST DNA there is but if you get into a car accident or someone kills you, forget it! You may live till 90 and not have any diseases or health issues despite smoking and drinking like it's armagedon, but yeah..

[zeitgeist057]

@TenderFantasy it's true, but if you could have all those risks of getting hit by a car, murdered by someone, &c. but you could experience those risks with:

Good eyesight or poor eyesight: which one is going to give you a better chance of surviving?

Having some disease or condition like familial adenomatous polyposis, celiac disease, Crohn's disease, lupus, low angle glaucoma, leukemia, sickle cell anemia, cystic fibrosis, &c., &c., or NOT having that disease: which will give you an advantage in pretty much every single situation?

I'm going to send you in to fight this tiger, you can either go in as you are, or with this stick in your eye. Which do you choose? There's enough trials and tribulations in life without taking those genetic risks. I think saying "DNA can only do some much" is somewhat dismissive of how much of an advantage it is to NOT have these conditions/disorders. I have far from perfect genes, but I have some pretty good ones and my health is fantastic compared to a lot of people I know. I thank my lucky stars for all the conditions I have seen other people have to go through life with, that I have not had to suffer. Even the situations like motorcycle accidents I've been in, I had better outcomes than expected for someone who had brittle bones or a poor immune system, for example.

[zeitgeist057]

It's kind of like if you get to choose which car you drive:

One from the safest cars list: https://www.kbb.com/best-cars/safest-new-vehicles/
with airbags, ABS, lane departure tech, blind spot monitoring &c., the best technology

Or one from the most dangerous cars list:https://www. ranker. com/list/dangerous-cars/richard-rowe
which have old tech, known for exploding on impact, top heavy and roll over easy, faulty wiring and fire-prone, &c.

Any car comes with the risks of driving, you never know when you could get in an accident. But some give you a much better chance of surviving and even escaping completely uninjured, whereas others actually increase your chances of being injured.

[TenderFantasy]

Thing is with that, I believe it's all fantasy because first of all, can you really CHOOSE your parents? Also, how can you be sure that your genetic line was PERFECT? ! No human is perfect. They're very far from it in fact. A lot of humans are emotional, so if you're going to design the perfect human, that would take a VERY long time because, in genes, one may be really good at something (talent) and weak at other stuff (maybe due to height they can't be Basketball players, etc.) and another person will be good at another thing and not so good at another. It is the rainbow of life. If we are ALL the same, it wouldn't be a very interesting life! =)

[zeitgeist057]

@TenderFantasy I’m not sure I understand what you mean by “you can’t choose your parents”. I mean, that’s true, but I’m talking about creating a designer baby vs. a random chance birth. A designer baby isn’t meant to be perfect, it’s just meant to have fewer health issues and more desirable qualities. Such as “no” to the DNA inclination for sickle cell anemia, color blindness, and autoimmune disorders, but “yes” to the DNA inclination for healthy organs.

As you say, no one’s DNA is perfect, and there will always be variations in personalities and phenotypes even with genetic manipulation. My DNA has both desirable and undesirable traits in it, but not all the undesirable traits need to be expressed/handed down to the next generation.

[letuswaltzforthedead]

Ideally, through both adoption and naturally. I wouldn't necessarily say through foster care since the main goal is reunification unless the parent lost all rights for some reason. I wouldn't aim for surrogacy or IVF unless my life just calls for it at some point.

(I'm obviously not going to have kids right now, in case that needs to be said)

[Agape93]

I figured, you have good sense

[letuswaltzforthedead]

Thank you

[LovingJo]

I have always wanted my own children but I have already lost 2, and now I am unable to have any more. 😔
I would love to adopt, I've wanted to do that for the longest time too, there are millions of children in this world without loving/parents.. Why create more human beings, when there are enough already, without the love that they so desperately need and deserve? 🤔🥺❤️

[Agape93]

Go for it, adopt if you're able to

[LovingJo]

I don't know, maybe. 😊

[Agape93]

Whats stopping you?

[LovingJo]

Health, mainly 😔

[Agape93]

What's wrong with your health?

[Agape93]

I didn't block you. You couldn't tag me if I did.

[Agape93]

No, I don't remember you. But we will not continue talking. Go away, or you will be blocked.

[LovingJo]

Who you talking to hun? @Agape93?

[Agape93]

Some twat that just tried starting shit. Removed the comments for trolling and blocked him

[LovingJo]

Who was it

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

I didn't vote because I'm fine either way, really - if I decide to welcome someone as my child, they are.

As of now I have two children in this sense - a biological daughter; and my half-brother for whom I'm being a father figure since my father passed away.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

That said, my wife wants at least another couple of bio children. We'll see when we'll be working on the next one.

[TenderFantasy]

Sorry for your loss and good on you for taking on the guardian role when it was not your job technically.

[jorfan3]

I want kids any way I can have them. It doesn't matter to me.

I want kids closer to then I am 30, so I might be forced to do something besides birth.

But I'm adopted, so adoption doesn't really matter to me. Neither would foster care.

[Labokachulaa]

I would like them to be biologically mine, but I also know that I may not always be in control of that. So, I would want them even if they're not biologically mine in the future. (If there's no chance I'm having my own)

[SnowedIn]

Well... we already have four. They were natural. So I selected adopt. If we were to have another child or more children, we'd adopt. There are so many kids who need a home. 😥

[DizzyDesii]

True :)

[Apple1996]

Like normal since I love bring pregnant and giving birth! It's literally addicting. Reason why I wanna be a surrogate so badly too

[Agape93]

... really o. o

[Apple1996]

Yess it's amazing. I can't wait to give birth again

[Agape93]

You pregnant again,?

[Apple1996]

Haha yess like 6 months pregnant 🤰

[Agape93]

Jfc lol well I'm glad you enjoy it at least

[Agape93]

Bet your hubby doesn't mind lol

[Apple1996]

For sure my husband loves having babies too

[Pink2000]

adoption. I’ve never had any desire to bear children.

[Msputiton]

At the moment i don't want kids

[Agape93]

Sautéed it is

[Msputiton]

No😭😭

[Agape93]

Oh right. Boiled?

[MendaciousMarxist]

I don't want any more kids, I didn't even want to have my son but I had him naturally.

[Agape93]

Why didn't you abort it?

[MendaciousMarxist]

My ex husband (we were married) pressured me to keep him. I was already at the clinic when he found out and followed me.

[Agape93]

He's an asshole then

[MendaciousMarxist]

Definitely but I've made my peace. I had a pretty bad birth but now I'm trying to get full custdy so I can at least raise him well. I think I'll win.

[Agape93]

Hey a win is a win

[moonpie89]

I have neices and nephews. They're a handful. Don't want any of my own.

[Miristheiss]

Normal.

My wife and I have (2), I have had a vasectomy. Everything is already settled for us.

[MrHopper]

Damn your poll stole my answer. Little fuckers piss me off so much

[CateM]

Sautéed with onions and garlic, please. I'm getting hungry!

[LittleMelissa9614]

Well I wanna get m first and then start having kids naturally.

[goaded]

Roast! We did it the normal way, and they're grown now.

[SpokenTruth]

I think C and D should be included together as one. I answered C but plus D.

[Agape93]

No, as they're two different things

[beebella]

Like normal, but if that doesn't happen for me, then I'd be open to fostering/adopting.

[Twalli]

If we have any they'd be adopted, but we're not sure we will ever want any.

[Brittanyroseee]

Never want kids lol. Only pets!

[Agape93]

Ah, the best sort of kids!

[Brittanyroseee]

Yes! They are cute, listen much more, not as needy, not as expensive, not a huge life commitment and you still can do whatever you want whenever you want and leave the pet at home vs a kid you cannot do that until they are like 13 years old lol