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Would you be okay with your SO getting/giving massages from/to coworkers of the opposite sex at work? (Page 2)
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As long as they’re not chatting all day every day, it’s cool right? If they’re my partner I should trust them.
sure... it is just a massage
Why not get that from your spouse.. not to mention the work place shouldn't be the place to be giving/getting massages
I think you would be just giving way too much weight to a massage... a massage is JUST a massage, it is a relaxing massage from someone's hands on someone's shoulders... and it's just a matter of seconds, tops... a couple of minutes
and maybe not you, nor others... but some people are grown ups enough to deal with this kind of contact, because is just a massage, there's nothing improper or nothing sexual about it, is not an intimate thing... IF you don't want to make it that way, a massage can just be a massage
if both parts are okay with it... and both are aware that is just a massage because your muscles get very tense at the office (AND THEY SURE DO when you work at an office for long hours) then there's no problem at all
now, if you have asked a different question... and you have implied the context of this massage being a way to flirt, to get touchy... or something that hints or leads to something more than just a massage then my answer would have been different
but the way you asked it, a massage is just a massage... I didn't assume anything else
But what if their spouses wouldn't be okay with it?
then they would have to stop it... and that is it
one should not willingly do something that bothers your partner... especially if you don't really need to be doing that
That was the point of my question, and my thought when saw this happening. It's not about if it's an innocent act or not, it's do their spouses know and would they be okay with it...
Boooo!
some people are just way too insecure about themselves... and they just can't get to trust their partners no matter what
@NathanDavis Some people are grabby and take advantage until told to stop.
@dustybiker but that is not a massage... that's sexual harassment
and for that, I've sent people to the hospital... straight to the ICU
very different things (=
They need a message they can go pay for one. 🤓
@dustybiker that's another thing I do not get...
if you pay 20 bucks is a professional massage
if you pay 200 bucks, it's spa day
but if you get one free... it must be sexual and cheating... lol
it is also a bit naive, that if cheaters are going to cheat... they will wait till a "massaged" is proposed and that would be what prompts the situations, cheaters just cheat because they're cheaters...
also untrue that nothing improper won't happen under professional settings, it is well known that a number of doctors, dentists, therapists and what not... have abused and crossed lines, even to the point of rape... and it is also true that, many people are cheating on their partners, spouses, significant others with other professional under professional settings... like their doctors, their bosses, their gardeners, their employees, the babysitters, the nannies gardeners, drivers, yoga instructors, masseuses, long etcétera... lol
the point here is very simple... either you trust your partner to they will not cheat on you whatsoever or you do not trust them... because cheaters are going to cheat no matter what... while faithful people just do not... no matter what
also, either you trust your coworkers on giving you a massage that is just a massage and that they will not sexually harass you or... do you knot trust them on this, so you do not let them
everything else is our own insecurities on these matters... and that might be due to past experiences or not... but that's a very different topic
Say trust is a given. Unless you are in sports where it is normal to rub each others cramping muscles out, offering a massage is abnormal to me.
I’m surprised with your OCD it isn’t a thing. When mine was raging it definitely was. I had grown men in their forties message my shoulders as a teen without asking, in public. “You look stressed.” Really? How about asking? My opinion doesn’t stem from that. It would be a no if they had asked.
@dustybiker absolute trust has always been a given in my relationships, yes... but this question is not about me nor about that
cramps can happen anywhere, not just in sports... you can also get cramps while at the office, lol, muscles surely get tense and sore sometimes so is not just cramps
sure, offering a massage might not be the "normal" but... how about when you ask someone for a shoulder massage... what is that someone is not only your coworker but also your best friend
and this is actually my case, for a time I did work for a best friend of mine, because she took on way too many projects on herself, so I did assist her for about two to three months, so just a little massage on her shoulders, just because she was tense an tired... there was nothing shady about it, there was nothing sexual about it... and there's no way on earth that I would ever attempt anything that is not proper with her or anyone else for that matter... now, if either my girlfriend or her boyfriend were insecure about this and they did not like it... then sure, we would not be doing it because they just do not trust us being friends, so the easier way here is to just not do it... just to avoid issues
now... older man offering massages to minors out of nowhere, yes that is bad... but again, this is not a question about sexual harassment nor about creeps being creeps against minors
if this question had been about personal experiences that were bad, well... I have tons of those as well, but they are not related to this question
random old men creeps being predators with teen girls... is not the same as two adults being coworkers so I really don't see how one applies to the other
@dustybiker as for my OCD tendencies... I would NEVER request not accept a massage from any stranger, not even from friends... lmfao
I don't like massages at all... and I never said I would do it either, I do not offer massages to anybody for no reason
@NathanDavis I was under the assumption those where your own personal opinions, sir. Thanks for the clarification. 😁
@dustybiker I just don't see why or how we should equal two adult coworkers and a shoulder massage... being the same or similar to a 40 year old man being an absolute creep towards a minor teenager
I just don't see how did this question escalate or did leap so much... lol
I blame @Brainsbeforebeauty myself. She asked the question.
I am not blaming anybody here... I just think very interesting when someone asks
-"what do you think about scenario A?"
and then I am like..." this is my take on scenario A"
and then they're like "well, what about scenario B"
and then I am like... "well A is different from B... but here's my take on scenario B"
but, what about scenario C... WHAT ABOUT scenario D... but!! what about scenario H...
and sooner rather than later... I find myself trying to explain my views on scenario A... while things are now about something entirely different... lol
and just to be clear... NO... I do not defend nor try to justify 40 year old men behaving like sexual predators towards underage teenage girls... this question was nothing about that
@NathanDavis I was totally teasing with the blame. This is GaG for you. It can be triggering.
also worth to clarify... I do not condone nor encourage... nor I would be okay with unsolicited touching or grabbing from anybody to no one
because this question and situations was not about that, in the question it is clearly implied that the actions are coming from consent... very different from harassment at the work place
@NathanDavis Simple questions can open cans of worms. You're good in my mind. As you said I went off Q too.
I don't think that's a problem as long as they are keeping their boundaries on.
No. It is unacceptable to me.
Right! Same
I wouldn't have a problem with that.. HR.. thats a different story
If someone truly is in need I would not mind the kindness. It only becomes a problem if a pattern of non platonic behavior develops.
As someone who works in a female dominated industry which involves lifting I will very often be called upon to get knots out of shoulders.
No! Not at all. That's a sexual harassment case at its finest.
Not to mention unprofessional
Only if he worked at a massage parlour.
Right!!
Yes, I would be fine with that.
You would? I wouldn't be okay with that
It's just wrong on so many levels. No mixing work with pleasure. It could turn into a whole new Me Too movement of Me Too, I want a massage too. And become an HR nightmare to deal with.
No unless it’s relevant to her job like being a masseuse or physical therapist.
It is a great thing to have that trust with your partner so that they do or you do massages, physical relationships with other people do not always connote infidelity, however, if that were the case, the cuckold is in fashion today
Not unless she was a physical therapist or masseuse.
No way , I would be so pissed
Right! Same!
My husband does and I don't have any issues with it at all.
That's a little weird
Right, that was my thinking as well
No, I wouldn’t be okay with that
No, absolutely not. Whether or not they are meant as innocent, they can lead to lascivious thoughts, on either side.
No I would not
Cuz it's hardly ever "really" "innocent"
I would not be okay with it
I wouldn't be either
Thanks 😊
where do they do that? lol
I've seen it at work twice now, at break time where the guy massaged her shoulders or back.. And ask I could think was, yeah no you all married, what would your husband or wife think or have to say about this... I just personally found it inappropriate
yesss sounds a little shady to me... but send them my way lol
You want guys to give you a massage🤔🤣🤣🤣
lol no... i think i'll pass on that one
Hahahaha that's what I thought you'd say🤣
only because their hands are too strong lol
Hahahaha 🤣🤣
Nope not now not never
Right!! Me neither, They wanna keep all their fingers they better keep em off my man🥊😁
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@Fuentes oih didn't even notice that
only if they we're hoes and i was their pimp then i figure at least get some money for it and the money they make from specific favors is for em to keep
Darling, it sucks. I dont want such things. I'd only accept penis massage.
I would certainly object to that.
Sure I'm not a Bryan Ferry ( jealous guy) lol
But would your spouse also be okay with it?
Sure she would
Yeah I gotta handjob one time from a co-worker after she found out her hubby was cheating
It's only hot when someone else's so does it to someone else
Hell no!
👍👍 same here
Cool
Keep your hands to your self
Right!! Well, at work anyways lolol
Definitely not okay.
That's my thinking as well
No, not at all. 😛
Me neither
Well, so far they set boundaries I won’t be bothered.
Nope.
👍👍
Yes that's overstepping boundaries
No
It is unacceptable
Hell no
Right! Same here
@Brainsbeforebeauty call me selfish, but he’s MINE! Just as I wouldn’t touch another woman’s man, I don’t want another woman touching my man.
Exactly!!
That’s a no.
👍 same here
Absolutely not.
Right! Me either!
It depends on the context.
DEFINITELY NOT!!!
Agree💯
No way, lol.
Yeah, I wouldn't be cool with that either
No one should. :)
That's what I'd think but already a few said they would be okay with it...
No way, absolutely not.
Not appropriate at work.
I wouldn’t care as long as they let me do the same shit to someone else.
It would be ok. 😊
I wouldn't be cool with it myself
Nope
Hell no.
Yes I sure would
You would? I wouldn't be okay with my SO giving out getting messages from other women at work
Would I be okay with that?
Would you be okay with your spouse giving or receiving massages from guys at work?
You didn’t have to repeat the question. Anyways I would not and will never be okay with that
👍👍 yeah me either
how deep and for for what Preuss?
Not me.
Me either
No, I wouldn't mind.
Nope.
No, absolutely not.
no- never
Fuck no!
Yes!