Would you be okay with your SO getting/giving massages from/to coworkers of the opposite sex at work?
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1st of all, you know, everyone knows, the whole world knows and even the E. T knows that my future wife is going to be a housewife, which means that there will be no COworkers 🤣🤣
Anyways, my general opinion about this case is a BIG NO! The man ain't allowed to give a married woman in his workplace a massage and vice versa!
Don't you think that if a man did such thing, the feminists will call it sexual harrassment? 😂😂
If a coworker asks for a massage, than the one who's going to give the massage must be from the same gender.
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I wouldn't give someone an unsolicited massage. But I have received them before when I had an office job. Unfortunately, none of those included a girl rubbing her boobs against me while massaging my neck. LOL jk
I think a brief neck and shoulder massage is fine as long as it's not sensual or done with some ulterior motive. Some people are just thoughtful and comfortable with touching others. And when you sit at a desk all day, it feels wonderful.
I wouldn't mind if someone massaged my wife's shoulders at work. She wouldn't mind of someone did it to me, either. But again, only if it was purely platonic.
The thing is, we trust each other, so we don't have to worry about cheating.
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Years ago I had a married boss and I was his secretary. I used to give him massages all the time while he was sitting at his desk. The door was always left open. But because my massages felt so darn good, he would start making sounds like he was having sex. So the other employees heard his moaning, and ask that we stop the massages and we did. There was nothing sexual at all between us ever. I knew his wife and I don't think she would have had a problem with it. It would depend on who was giving him massages and how they were interacting when together. He loves, I mean LOVES the women, so it would bother me.
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If my SO was that dense to not notice any flirting and they just gave their coworker a fully clothed massage, and if I know that they won't catch feelings for anyone, then I'd be fine with that. Though, the coworker should know to stay away from someone that aren't theirs. I'll kindly tell them to fuck off.
If my SO wasn't dense and just gave the massage out of sympathy or just to do it, I am fine with it; especially if I know that they don't want to leave me. If I don't know this, then my own paranoia will investigate the matter.
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I personally wouldn’t be okay with it. It’s crossing boundaries for my partner and I.
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Never! That's even inappropriate!
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This is my opinion and mine alone - people have different views and it’s okay.
I would be okay with my SO getting a massage, a NON SEXUAL one at that at his workplace, provided he consented to it. If he refused and that person kept touching him, that would be sexual harassment and he should report them to the HR department.
It’s just a massage. What if he wanted to go to a spa and get a massage there? Is that unacceptable as well? massage is massage irrespective of the place they’re getting it in. I can handle my SO getting a massage someone from the opposite sex that isn’t me. I’m neither insecure nor controlling. I believe it would only raise a problem IF the massage gets sexual or flirty. - 470 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
No because I don´t think neck or shoulder massages shouldn´t given or accepted in the work place.
That´s the beginning of cheating in my view. It never happened me but that would be a warning flag if I was in a relationship and a female colleague offered me a massage. -
Yes, for two reasons.
1. When you are in a committed relationship, placing your hands on another person of the opposite sex is wrong. Granted it could be an innocent massage, but there is WAY too much room for doubt.
2. There is ZERO room for favorites in the workplace, even if it IS your significant other. Everyone wants and gets a massage, or no one does. There is NO PLACE for massages of co-workers in a professional environment. -
If she giving massages, and I found out, shit we done. If someone putting their hands on my SO, she's an adult, I'll let her handle it first and see what she does. If she doesn't report it, I'll know I've given her too much responsibility and that's where I come in.
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Shoulder rubs? If they're both comfortable with it. Personally I wouldn't be comfortable with it; physical touch is NOT my love language. But if he's a touchy-feely person and does shoulder rubs at work, okay. I wouldn't mind that any more than I'd mind him hugging other people. A good hug feels a lot more intimate than shoulder rubs anyway.
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No. Massages are boundary blurrers. You allow them to touch his/her neck and there's nothing holding them back to make the massages more intimate...
If my SO wanted a massage, I'll do it myself or pay a pro masseur/masseuse to do it knowing that no boundary will ever be crossed -
Yes, we both have co-workers who have taken courses in it, both happen to be women, which we take advantage off. I've a coworker who's a man - he's taking neuro pedagogy, which includes pressure massage; I'm his best guinea pig, today his girlfriend watched him do his magic on me & I've told my husband he must take that course if possible when he's done with his degree. 😅
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I'm sorry but I'd have to vote NAE, for the simple fact that if I'm respecting her in situation I would appreciate if she did the same I feel like dealing it's common courtesy to the next and should strengthen a relationship and show compassionate loyalty that you have for one another
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I definitely wouldn't be okay with it. Unless it was a one-off thing and this person was like a registered massage therapist or something. And I knew the person. But if it was just some random co-worker giving my boyfriend a massage I would not be okay with it
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Seems like something HR would intervene on. Also, depending on the job level/rankings, etc, it could present as an inappropriate “relationship” between employees. Unfortunately or fortunately, perception is big here. I think HR might step in at some point. Anyway, that’s not what you asked though.
I absolutely would NOT be okay with this with respect to my relationship. -
I'd be pissed if I found out my boyfriend was doing this to someone, or they were doing it to him. It's just inappropriate and weird, why do you need to be given a massage at work? Go to a fucking masseuse.
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You ever given those kind of quick massages to a friend, it's not a really massage but you just grab their shoulders rub it once or twice while you're saying something.
I dunno if you can picture what I mean, but its got no sexual vibe to it whatsoever and it's not a real full on massage.
That's fine.
But a full blown massage? That's not really appropriate. - 1.1K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
My wife would not be ok with it, therefore I would not be ok with it either.
There's something inappropriate about giving and receiving massages at work. Not very professional. -
Are they a masseuse?
If not then. no seems inappropriate for anyone to be giving or receiving massages at work. Unless they work in a spa or whatever massage parlor… -
No. There are professional boundaries and that crosses it. It’s up there with helping to remove spilt lunch from a mans crotch area. Tacky.
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That sounds unprofessional and like he is looking for some kind of sexual harassment in the workplace problem. If you need a massage go to a professional.
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Absolutely not. What an unprofessional look. That’s pretty disrespectful to the marriage as well. That’s just so trashy to me. If I saw a married man or woman doing that in the work place, I’d lose all respect for them. I’d also tell them in front of everyone that this is awkward, makes everyone uncomfortable, and to stop.
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Getting massage at work by anybody at any time it's very unprofessional and the person that's probably getting that massage at work that's probably the laziest bastard in the building here we go again 🤣🤔
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