Me and my boyfriend (both in our mid twenties), have been dating for around nine months. I am a Christian and he is a Muslim Shiaa. We live a few hours away from each other and he works everyday till evening, thus we see each other maybe only twice a week. We have not discussed any future plans yet because we are still considerably young and finishing our degrees, finding ourselves, etc… I have already met his cousins and siblings, but never his parents yet. And I know that he had a first love before me, whom he introduced to his whole family, and even lived with for a couple of college years (she is married now). He tells me the break up was bad and he regretted rushing things with her and introducing her to his family. He also has bad experiences with his parents divorce. Anyway, a few days earlier I invited him and some friends over to my house (I live with my parents) because I had just finished renovating a cool movie room. He got all flustered and mentioned how he did not want to meet my parents. I asked why jokingly, and he said it was too soon? I told him it was normal in my religion and that my parents knew all my exes, its not a big deal. Our friends were also coming (so he wasn’t going to be alone). He refused saying in Muslim culture it means something serious and got a little defensive and angry. I was upset because yesterday my friends were there, and he wasn’t, just because he’s afraid to meet my parents? Also why was the idea so repulsive to him. Is this really part of Muslim culture? Is it from past experiences? Or Is he just not taking our relationship seriously?
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Please be kind with your answers. Big love.
