My Muslim Boyfriend doesn’t want to meet my parents because it’s too soon?

[AshleyBenedith]

Me and my boyfriend (both in our mid twenties), have been dating for around nine months. I am a Christian and he is a Muslim Shiaa. We live a few hours away from each other and he works everyday till evening, thus we see each other maybe only twice a week. We have not discussed any future plans yet because we are still considerably young and finishing our degrees, finding ourselves, etc… I have already met his cousins and siblings, but never his parents yet. And I know that he had a first love before me, whom he introduced to his whole family, and even lived with for a couple of college years (she is married now). He tells me the break up was bad and he regretted rushing things with her and introducing her to his family. He also has bad experiences with his parents divorce. Anyway, a few days earlier I invited him and some friends over to my house (I live with my parents) because I had just finished renovating a cool movie room. He got all flustered and mentioned how he did not want to meet my parents. I asked why jokingly, and he said it was too soon? I told him it was normal in my religion and that my parents knew all my exes, its not a big deal. Our friends were also coming (so he wasn’t going to be alone). He refused saying in Muslim culture it means something serious and got a little defensive and angry. I was upset because yesterday my friends were there, and he wasn’t, just because he’s afraid to meet my parents? Also why was the idea so repulsive to him. Is this really part of Muslim culture? Is it from past experiences? Or Is he just not taking our relationship seriously?

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Please be kind with your answers. Big love.

[Now_Here]

It's in Muslim culture to meet the parents as soon as possible. He is right when he said that it means something serious but if he's really serious, only reason I can see him being hesitant is due to his experiences with his ex.

[loveslongnails]

He's not taking you seriously, even after nine months. It takes a LOT of love to make a Christian/Muslim relationship work, especially when the man is Muslim. I'd wish you luck if there were such a thing, so instead I wish you wisdom.

[Joesmemenievan]

Give him some more time y'all kinda have a diffraction beliefs and you never know how your parents will react. Now there's nothing wrong with that but just give him sometime he's probably worried your parents won't approve of him so let him mentally prepare himself. He is most likely taking it serious but have a talk about it and ask him what’s worrying him so much it’s probably from past experiences or because of what your parents will think

[Paul09]

Oooowwww how will this play out? 2 different imaginary gods put up against each other. That can be a problem. One of the parents will bitch that you need to convert to pray to their non existent god lol

[uwu_princess]

Muslim boyfriend 🤦‍♀️
Muslim people are big red flag. Better leave him or you will regret a relationship with him soon, just wait :)

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

What’s wrong with Muslims?

[noohair]

You are going to be dealing with this culture thing for as long as you are together. And I bet his parents will be against a marriage unless you convert.

[Waldoe]

sounds like he is not Sure about being with YOU... it is possible that your feelings are more genuine than his are... you are in different places in the relationship... what will you do now?

[TurkishDİxon3419]

There is no such thing as dating or girlfriend in Muslim culture. So if he was serious, he had to meet your family, this is one of the conditions of Islam.

[jimmy2]

Becareful honey we are seen as infidals to Muslim. Their culture does mot bennift a woman

[SaintZameer0]

Answered this question in message.
Check there

[Wise4myage]

Its definitely not to soon.

[Nahid1707]

Good Luck 😊