Why do men want their girlfriends and wives to be submissive in a relationship so badly? Do they see women as inferior?

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FilmGuy93 · Accepted Answer

It's not an inferiority thing. Men prefer submissive women because we like feeling taken care of, and it gets tiring to deal with someone who pushes back, challenges and argues with you all the time about pointless things. I think it's supposed to be a women's lib "not settling" thing, but that just ain't how you should go about it. For the amount of time and effort I put into taking good care of the women I date, I feel incredibly disrespected when every little thing I say or do gets challenged.

There are A LOT of women who argue with their boyfriends over everything. It's constant and it gets annoying. There are times when I just want to park the car without a critique on how I did it. There are times when I just want to ask my girlfriend/wife for some food and get something made without complaint.

MrtoddsWildRide · Accepted Answer

Nope. You are looking at that from the wrong angle. Men want a woman that is strong enough to let him take the lead.
If you had a man and you trusted him and knew without a doubt that he would stumble at times, but always get back up and continue leading you towards happier places while being supportive and loving, wouldn't that be a man you would want to follow?
Would you be strong enough and have the character to hand the reigns over to him or would you try dominating him?
We don't see you as inferior at all. What we see is that women either trust or they don't.

Ez-Bri-Z · Accepted Answer

Depends on who you ask. Some prefer a more traditional role and long for the days where it was more prevalent. Some like the power structure of men in charge. Some are just sadistic a**holes who get off on being stronger than women. Some do it for religious reasons, but believe in the role of the wife and husband is to support each other in different ways.

KerryJulia78fd · Accepted Answer

it actually has to do more with a persons personality type. if the girlfriend is more dominant in her life; she will be more dominate with her partner. If the guy is more dominate in his personality; then he will most likely be dominate in the relationship. It can be TOUGH if both partners are dominant.

Guy13 · Answer

-No woman is submissive unless the guy has her respect. By the nature and tone of your question, you seem not to respect your man.
-There’s no better video, counseling, or Method than Ephesians 5. It includes both man/woman dynamic. Marriage and Couple Psychology stem from Ephesians 5.
-If a guy makes a woman feel like that then she will want to be submissive. I’ve seen it in a former LGBTQ activist and legislation writing ✍️ woman. Now, married…to a Pastor no less…that loves her with the Ephesians 5 heart ❤️

Lionman95 · Answer

No women aren´t inferior. The way I see it many of guys like to be seen as providers. Therefore they look for a receiver in a woman because that seems the perfect match. It´s not to make the women look inferior but different. The problem many guys in modern relationship have is that women seem to wanna take all roles in a relationship while leaving the guys unsure what their place. The problem is many of us guys are educated to be the provider/the active part. Also many guys feel bad and uncomfortable being not able to provide at least in some way so they prefer a woman that´s open and good at receiving. Submissive isn´t meant as inferior in such cases but that´s receptive and being open.

WalterBlack · Answer

I believe it is the same reason that most organizations have a hierarchy that gives one person slightly more authority and responsibility than other members of the leadership. If you have two people at the top level, there is the risk that they will constantly be butting heads and arguing about who has the better plan rather than making decisions and getting things done. In a relationship, if both people are naturally inclined to take a dominant role, things can devolve into constant bickering. Some people find that there is more of a natural balance when one person is dominant and the other is submissive. In a healthy relationship, a person in a submissive role is honored and respected and they can still choose to disagree with their mate. Basically the submissive person has a quieter way of expressing themselves.

LogicBomber · Answer

Not trying to be pejorative, but women are actually inferior, as animals, and it’s perfectly ok.

I know women hate hearing this and want to believe otherwise (and like to call it “misogyny” to silence it) but men create, advance, and maintain society, men provide and protect.

Women are emotionally, mentally, and physically weaker. (I know you don’t want to believe it but it’s true)

Women are naturally submissive.
Which is why many women have this daddy kink
Why they have this need to be treated like they are being looked after.
It’s why 70% of women have the “force fucked by a stranger fantasy”
It’a why most women love their hair pulled, or their partner being a little rough.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

It's not about viewing her interior at least not for me but rather I would be leading her towards the way of the Bible (I'm religious) and leading her to her Lord and keeping her to her lord and master who is Jesus Christ.

Everything is for Jesus and to glorify Jesus Christ, that's the point of having a wife submit to her husband as the Bible teaches to guide the household according to God's will and commandments.

In saying that being submmisive to a man who doesn't love the lord Jesus Christ nor cares about the Bible will end bad for the immense majority of women who try it.

Miristheiss · Answer

"Submissive" has become this taboo trigger word.

Men want femininity. They don't want masculine traits. If a woman is acting like a man and exuding male vibes. It will turn most off. They want a feminine woman. They don't want to be in a pissing contest with another dude.

What do you mean by "submissive"?

TheorionMage · Answer

Because, in truth most men are infatuated with the fantasy aspect and potential of females
not unlike kids LOVE the idea of having a dog or a pony... EVERYBODY wants to RIDE the pony
but FEW are enamoured with mucking the stalls or walking and cleaning up AFTER the puppy!

... A FULL relationship is 'inconvenient' and a 'buzz kill' when 'your' woman has needs too~

ohshee · Answer

To be honest with you I don't know if I know a submissive girl if I do she's keeping it a secret all the girls that I know all the girls that I've dated been with they are all outspoken they are all confident they're all cocky in a good way they are smart they can handle themselves in any situation and that's what I like I don't know where these guys are that want their girlfriends to be submissive I wish I knew one girl like that I don't

VanillaSalt · Answer

Generally speaking… the men bring in more money, bare the biggest burden of expectation going into a relationship, and generally are the ones that lose the most in divorce, marriage, and children.

Women don’t usually pay alimony, they almost always get the kids, they almost always are expected to be at least well on their way in life before dating… What’s the benefit of marriage for men if they don’t maintain that sense of power?

Daniela1982 · Answer

The Bible says it to begin with. But it also says for husbands to love their wives. Being a dictator is not loving.

megabamse · Answer

You say that like it's universal. I kinda hate it when someone i date can't make up their mind in what they want. I want someone that has a brain, that can take choices and stand by their choice. Inteligent, determent. It's a union, two bosses living together.

genericname85 · Answer

well let me ask you a counter question. why is it that girls go for guys that are superior in socio-economic status to them? why do girls not go for guys that are weaker, smaller, make less money? is that really "men wanting submissive inferior girls"? or is it "girls shooting up the social hierarchy, not down"?

Subarugirl · Answer

I'm sure you have seen how bullies will put other down in the attempt to make themselves look or feel better. In a lot of circumstances that's kind of what is happening. In all reality though it's easier to demand respect and submission than it is to earn it, and that is where it goes wrong.
If a man wants to be dominant, he not only needs to be competent enough to understand what it is to be a good leader... he needs to lead by example

garykingg · Answer

Masculine men are attracted to feminine energy, and being submissive is a feminine trait, which is why men like submissive women. However men must realize that submissiveness is a strength not a weakness and not exploit that fact, and treat women with respect. A true man makes a women feel submissive even if she doesn't want to. That's a fact.

Petermorgan3434 · Answer

No that is a rather draconian view. We want a “submissive” wife/girlfriend because it is view as traditional/being manly. A good man needs a good women, Life/marriage is a team sport. It is just a front, women have more power in a mans decision making than you expect.

ChiTown33 · Answer

I don't as long as we have mutual respect I'm cool. I would imagine with SOME guys it's a power thing. You have to admit a lot of women choose the "subserviant" role. I don't know if it biology or not.
I find intelligent women attractive. And I would never want a woman playing down her intelligence to me.

JSmuve · Answer

Same reason why women want their men to be dominant. You can't have two dominant personalities in a relationship or else you'll be constantly arguing. So if women want men to be dominant, that defaults them into the submissive role.

Hanrej · Answer

I think you're simply drawn to the wrong men. Many men feel they're only attractive to women because of their success or money. They'll want a submissive who's happy being under them so they won't have to misstrust her intentions.

After all, if he becomes submissive or make moves towards equality than he loses the very thing that attracted her to him.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Because they want femininity to match with their masculinity.

A lot of women want men to be traditional themselves, sometimes only when it benefits them, all whilst refusing to be traditional themselves.

Kaamraj · Answer

Agreeableness is a feminine trait. It is highly valued in non-western cultures. And conversely disagreeableness is a masculine trait and valued by women in men.

jshm2 · Answer

You've been a Christian for too long, it seems.  Men don't want submissive women, sure it's an kink for some. But in life they want women that can ride, and ride shotgun if needs be.

AllThatSweetJazz · Answer

It’s not inferior. I take it as a compliment and appreciate them more. Meanwhile other women aggressively push “I don’t need no man” and seem to get off on being a bitch. That’s why women who aren’t like that are more appreciated.

theTank1994 · Answer

I’ll be honest I don’t want submissive. I just don’t want stupid arguments, fighting and horse shit over dumb crap. I don’t want mental breakdowns when we talk about finance, or when life gets hard. I want reason and level headed ness.

Truth be told when I talk about an issue with my wife, I’d love her input. But instead she just shuts down.

DaveJord · Answer

For me its not a matter of her being submissive or inferior... but if she wants to be equal then she better get a job and keep working. If not then I want final say on all matters money.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't look for a woman because I want her to do things for me.

I look for women who wants to do things for me because she values me.

If you're not that woman, that's ok, I'm sure there are plenty who are.

I feel like I'm one step away from not giving a shit about what anyone thinks.

Kiran_Yagami · Answer

Because that's what we like. If you don't want to be submissive, don't. Just don't expect every man on the planet to want to date you. We aren't interested in changing anymore than you are. You do your thing. We'll do ours.

dustybiker · Answer

The good men are not like this. You might be attracting the same sort.

Anonymous · Answer

I have always liked the idea of a fierce, bold partner. But recently I have changed my mind. I am not the cockiest extrovert type of guy. But rather introvert nerdy type with many hobbies. Too bold girls generally go for similar types of guys, a submissive girl will love me more, treat me better, plus they are more loyal. I am generally kind and charitable type and dominant girls are always very rude and offensive.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Same reason why women want their boyfriends and husbands to be dominant and providers in a relationship so badly. Do they see men as emotionless ATM robots?

Sour-rose · Answer

Same reason i'd prefer a submissive man... he a bish and if I can whip him like a ________ then he's MY bish.

humanearth · Answer

Hell I want it to be the other way around. But my wife has a strong submissive side, that I can't break.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Same reason a lot of women want their boyfriends or husbands to be dominant. But just son you know submissiveness doesn’t = inferiority

vald9inches · Answer

What Vader said lol

boggboss · Answer

Sono some males get off kn it others enjoy the being able to feel dominant over her I guess

Anonymous · Answer

I think girls overthink this. Men are attracted to submissive girls more. It has nothing to do with thinking they are inferior as a person or leader.

TallAnon · Answer

Probably instinct, I don't think I've heard of animals having a female alpha, but then again, I don't do much with animals.

grega239 · Answer

Being a traditional wife isn't submission or inferiority.  Whoever says that it is, is a moron

Anonymous · Answer

It's a caveman thing. I just go with it and act submissive to my guy, let him feel he's in control while the whole time I manipulate him.

noless10in · Answer

No it's because we know we're inferior and we want you to let us feel good about ourselves time to time. 🤣

Jaykrisss · Answer

It feels right that way. I know modern culture wouldn't agree but there is something that feels off when your woman is dominant

Anonymous · Answer

Yep. They hate women. that's why they want to dominate and degrade women and possibly also cheat.  girls, if you have any amount of self respect left, stay clear from such guys. They are trouble.

SignedAutographs · Answer

Because that's typically what the woman wants. So, why not give it to her. Unless we hear otherwise... right?

Waldoe · Answer

they feel inferior... a mature strong man will Lift you UP and try to help you be the Best you can be... not keep you down

notwoke · Answer

because we don't want a hard time about everything, is that so much to ask?

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I don't need you to be submissive. I just ask you to not be a cunt.

Kurdistan1991 · Answer

I will submissive to my husband, but if he neglects me, it will damage our relationship. Men have strong egos, that's why

OddBeMe · Answer

No they see themselves as inferior and want you to join them.

Paul09 · Answer

Not me, I'm a give and receive type of man. I'll be submissive too. 50-50 all the way.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Because its not a stable normal healthy relationship otherwise.

anylolone · Answer

Same for women. Except you add providing and better at everything to that.

noohair · Answer

Because they do not understand the female mind. No man does. That is what they are afraid of.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't want my girlfriend to be a robot. I actually find her little temper tantrums to be adorable, lol.

Anonymous · Answer

wives submit unto your husbands  husbands loves your wives  BIBLE

Adam1978 · Answer

Because they want support not war at home.

Dragonstarterplus · Answer

Because women love dominant men

AndrésC64 · Answer

I don't think most men do. Only the insecure ones.

sheikalana · Answer

They see themselves as Alphas.

NorthwestRider · Answer

Speak for yourself, my wife is the dominant one

whosnumber1 · Answer

I want my woman to be my equal

Deserter · Answer

It shows that the woman is feminine

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