I'm confused where I stand with a ex also close friend and why we always end up back together even though we both have another?

[gemini2980]

I dated a guy in high school, we always kept in touch so often even though we both have always been in other relationships. He always contacted me for sex, at times I ignored him for a long periods of time. We lately became closer, then he puts up a wall and don't answer calls or texts then all sudden he pops back up with excuses that was busy of which I now only takes a second to reply or call or least keep communication open. I found out he recently had his 1st child by another I ask him if he had a baby he lied and said no, so then when we talked again I ask him why he lied that I saw him with a baby and girlfriend he said he was gonna tell me about it and that he wasn't trying to have a baby however I don't get why he lied. He tells me that I am especial to him, and he always want some of my goodies and that we been around one another for so many years so hat must mean something and said he has love and care for me, then all sudden he ghosts again, then he comes back again with excuses saying been going through things, busty with work but also mentions about the things he did fun with guy friends, he always promise to do something special with me and for me besides sex but that never happened, the sex doesn't feel or be just sex, its passion in it, kissing, love songs played and all. I don't understand what he is thinking its like one min i feel an connection or don't understand why I am risking my relationship for him but I have become emotionally attached, I feel he should be honest and not treat me these ways off and on, he got jealous when I had a child with who I'm with, its like he doesn't want me with anyone but never ever tried to have a real relationship with me. Its like I miss him want to know he is ok but he can out the blue not contact me for weeks or months, he go from texts daily, good morning beautiful to nothing at all for a long time

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He also likes me to send him pics of me and also nude pics

[MrsTurkleton]

If a guy doesn’t value you enough to be honest with you, he doesn’t value you at all.
You said to somebody else that he ghosts you regularly…. this guy is wasting your time
if he wanted you, he would come and get you and he would stay. There would be no confusion.
He behaves the way he does because it comes at no cost to him. If he was afraid of losing you, he would act like it.

[gemini2980]

well said, facts, absolutely right. he says one thing but actions are different,

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Well, I think you two should both break up with your partners since you guys are cheating on them with each other… You two would be great together, but it also seems like it’s just for sex.

[gemini2980]

I know its so wrong and I feel at times for him its just sex but he says different and talks to me verbally and treat me physically as I am his girl. I should just let it go because its rude to talk to a person then ignore them and talk to me only when its on his terms, thanks for your opinion

[spartan55]

Wow, he is straight using you for sex and you go along with it. So fucking gross, your boyfriend deserves better.

[gemini2980]

He says its not just for sex. Been knowing for 28 years but maybe all I'm worth is good sex to him. Thanks I appreciate your opinion

[spartan55]

I can say I play in the NFL too. Doesn't make it true. Of course he says it's not just about sex... DUH, he doesn't want to lose his free 🥧 pie.

[gemini2980]

Yes true facts u speaking. But it's a lot of free pie out here why keep in touch with mines all these years but u so right

[spartan55]

Because it's familiar, he doesn't have to work for it, etc. Free pussy isn't everywhere like women mistakenly believe.

[gemini2980]

True and if I was worth more he pursue me. All I ever be is what I have been. And if I was special he wouldn't go long periods ignore me but If called from unfamiliar # he answer but not for me. Off and on with me. Just hurts

[spartan55]

You allowed it, and sent the message you were cool with it.
You should break up with your boyfriend too.

[gemini2980]

Maybe u should call him for me and see if u can talk to him and see if he using me since u such an expert on he or I feels. U wanna do that and tell him how gross we are

[spartan55]

Never claimed to be an expert here, but keep trying to shift the spotlight... so pathetic. You know you are doing wrong. You know deep down that you are in the situation you are because you made that choice.
So you care more about what the guy using you for sex thinks than your boyfriend? Enjoy.

[Iron_Man]

What do you want to do

[gemini2980]

Confused, I dont feel he would be faithful and honest to me because he is cheating on his girlfriend with me, he does not communicate well but he makes me feel good sexually and I have feelings for him more than just sex

[gemini2980]

I dont understand how he ups and ghost then come back like its normal

[Iron_Man]

Move on

[Avicenna]

Forget him

[Anonymous]

you should just stay together

[gemini2980]

We both have other partners
:/

[spartan55]

As if that matters.

[Opinion Owner]

@spartan55 exactly