I'm too kind, submissive, conflict avoidant. How do I become emotionally stronger and less childlike?

[Anonymous]

[caring__1]

I wish people would learn to make the most of themselves rather than attempt to mold themselves into something they're not. You don't have to be one extreme or the other. Find a comfortable middle ground. There's nothing wrong with being kind, as long as you aren't oblivious to the actions of others and let them use you and walk all over you. Work on being assertive rather than attempt to be aggressive. That's letting your thoughts and feelings be known in a manner that remains considerate of others. The in-your-face attitude promoted by the media is not attractive; it's just an overcompensation for feelings of insecurity. Who says conflict is something to attract? There will always be differences between people, yet, hopefully, we can be respectful of those differences without seeing them as a personal threat to us. By learning effective communication skills, you can become more confident in your ability to address everything and anything without it leading to arguments. Learn to see the value in the person you are.

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[ChrisMaster69]

Try gaining confidence by joining a club where you interact with others more.

things where you need to speak out, speak in public etc.

things like even a book club means you sit and debate what you felt about a certain book and argue the points why.

Try taking up some type of martial art or physical sport.

There is an element of what you mentioned that is appealing, however needs to be backed up with some level of confidence and strength.

[UniquelyBasic]

Being kind, submissive and avoiding conflict isn't childlike or doesn't make you weak emotionally.

[TheMajesticKing777]

That's not necessarily bad, it's just how you are, if anything just try gaining some confidence