I'm older, and I know society has changed. What is it that men, and/or women prefer when looking for a soulmate these days?

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cryscrys1 · Accepted Answer

It’s a lie it’s the same as in your time. Well let’s see — my patchy opinion here and there
>>> Young women are messed up due to Tik-Tok Social Media etc and make life complicated. Aren’t aware life is short and unexpected you here today tmrw you might die etc: their focus is money and are living a life without any meaning.
Materialism is the new God in todays era maybe that’s what’s different from your times? Plus that’s what the evil of this world wants to make youth go crazy until they reach 40 and realize OOPS family is important where is my wife where is my husband my kids that’s when they hit the wall and wake up and start looking for real LOVE.
But in general at the end of the day women as me prefer old days. When I was in my 20s sadly I touched that “” NEW era of materialism” it was confusing I felt very feminine but at the same time people around me were asking me what will I do with my life? And say I can’t just get married! I had this pressure of me doing something when it comes to materialism and career. I felt like a loser , sometimes from stress losing my periods and yes due to so called —Modern Society 🙄—
Like.. they STOLE what nature was calling me for in my 20s.
But that’s ok at least I am awake at my early 30s….

Sometimes I wish I was born in the 20s-30s honestly not even your generation OP😅😅
You are so lucky and privileged to be a 60 you probably saw what real life.

WhatTheHeckkkk · Accepted Answer

Every woman is different, but the basics of what I want are;
I want someone who is respectful, has the same views and values as me, wants the same general ideas of the future, and someone to be best friends with. I’ll go in more detail…

I’m pretty picky and selective when it comes to being in a relationship with someone, because I don’t want to keep dating around. I just want to find that one person who knows what they want (a relationship), and is compatible with me. And, I’m lucky to have found that person on the first try, and he is frickin amazing!

As I said, I am picky and selective. I want someone with the same views and values as me, whether it be politics or religious views. I want us to have the same moral values as well. I want someone who doesn’t want to just hookup, do casual dating, or friends with benefits. I want someone who has the same goals as me for the future, such as wanting kids, a house, marriage. I don’t want them to be heavy drinkers or smokers of any sort, I’ve dealt with addiction, I don’t want to do it again by having a partner who does it. Lastly, I just want someone respectful. Respectful of me in general, respectful of my boundaries, respectful to my family and friends, respectful of my lifestyle, respectful to other people, etc.

HighlyVolatile · Accepted Answer

I was always looking for fun and adventure and good times with my friends and lovers. I've learned to look for some additional things so that we can keep a healthy relationship like a certain type of maturity, but that's more to keep things fun so that they don't become dramatic and miserable. Above all else, I sought out people with whom I can enjoy life the most. My wife is one of the best women I found in this regard. She makes my life more enjoyable than stressable, more peaceful than dramatic, and she's a whole lot of fun.

TwinTonyz · Accepted Answer

Honestly, I just wanted someone who wasn't gonna play abusive games just because no one would challenge her on it. My girl's no supermodel and she doesn't have to be. She's in the gold-hearted 10% of women who aren't hellbent on starting a war with their partners for fun. That's all I want.

Desconhecida · Answer

A real partner in life, no matter what happens. A safe haven, a real home.

SkyCastle90 · Answer

Soul mates aren't real. The easiest time to find a partner are during school, college, or work; because you have the opportunity to see that person everyday, mulitple attempts to start conversations, and bond with shared experiences through your environment.

Finding a partner is not impossible, but the older you get the slimmer the pickings are. Holding out for a soul mate means your expectation are probably way too high to the point of inhuman, it's possible you're aiming for someone who will make the world brighter and give you that love at 1st sight feeling; infatuations can give this feeling, but true love always takes time, patience, and acceptance from both involved.

What to do now?

You can definitely still find a partner if you're willing to lower your expectations and work toward this goal. The title soul mate can be daunting. Instead focus on compatibility; finding someone who you are fond of enough to choose them as your partner despite their flaws or hiccups. Compatibility doesn't have to be 100% where you like everything she/he likes, but a nice inbetween where you can agree on core values, political views/or lack of one, etc.

Next is finding someone compatible. If you live in a small town/city and you're looking for someone different from the local mindset you're accustomed with, then it's best to move to a more populated town/city or date online. If you're not interested in moving or online dating seems dangerous (it can be, Romance scammers), then you can always join local age appropriate events/social clubs in your area which you should be able to find on your city's website.

Xoxocutekitty · Answer

Trust, kindness, loyalty, fidelity.

Personally I'm looking for someone who's willing to support me emotionally, chores wise, and career wise. I want a ring and kid (s) one day too. Some don't want that these days.

Emotionally: be my friend, someone who is there on my birthday and someone who wants to do something 1x week. Movies don't count. Play a board game, go for a walk, take a long drive to get ice cream, play video games together. Where I live, we have 4 seasons so it's not hard to do a different seasonal activity once every 3 months.

Chores are to be negotiated by frequency, preference and ones innate ability, rather than left solely to prescribed gender roles. 90% chores are work and can be done by any party who has the bandwidth, a basic ability to use/learn the appliance (s), and an hour to spare. Obviously ones like breastfeeding can't be switched but I'd like to think that's an exception to this mindset.

Career wise, I'm working a day job now but with plans to go back to school when I've saved up. I'm looking for someone who's more than 'just okay with it'.. I want someone who takes pride in my exam grades with me and someone who helps out because logistically I probably can't afford to get a degree full time without earning some wage. I'd plan a night out out for my partner after their test day or semester end date and I'd want someone who's willing to do that.

Anonymous · Answer

Faithful, caring, no drug addiction issues, not physically or verbally abusive, and truly single, not married but pretending to be single, in a relationship but looking for a side piece single, or still screwing an ex single. That has been impossible to find.

IveGotNoName · Answer

Soulmates aren't real, people fall in love all the time with people they claim to be their "soulmates" but they break up in no time. But to answer your question of what I look for in a partner: all of the basic stuff of course (respectful, kind etc.), then similar interests, well educated, intelligent, responsible and can take care of himself.

annabananna · Answer

Someone who sees me for who I am as an individual and appreciates and adores me for that and vise versa. Someone you can laugh with and enjoy and someone that works well with you as a true partnership. I think we have many soulmates and a soulmate for me would be someone that fits this.

whereismyjohnny · Answer

Loyalty, honesty, someone I can talk to and have similar interests/views with. Oh, and that they are open with their feelings and aren't scared to talk about what is on their mind.

Heartache0405 · Answer

1. Soulmates don’t exist 2. I’m not seeking someone and haven’t been for 7 years now because of how today’s women and society as a whole in America is/are

Avicenna · Answer

The same things, it’s just that fewer aspire to that

Guy13 · Answer

Nothing has changed: 1. Listen and Attentiveness in panning. After that, whether one ends up in the Guy’s 🪑 or Gay Friend chair is woman’s prerogative  🤷🏻‍♂️

t-8900 · Answer

Tbh it comes down to maturity, doesn't promote the leftist propaganda, is aware of the manipulation the media is pushing and sees it for what it is, wants kids, doesn't fear guns, is not secular.

Exterminatore · Answer

Hopefully the genitals they were born with to start.

Voster · Answer

I just want a man who's clean , rich and hates sex ❤

humanearth · Answer

Same thing as in the past Loyalty Commitment Lots of booty

Anonymous · Answer

Women still normally play a passive role when it comes to starting a relationship

OddBeMe · Answer

I think it’s always been people that fit their personality. Not necessarily the same. But fits. My wife compliments me and vice versa.

Anonymous · Answer

An attractive personality  Sexual attraction And Money

Zygum · Answer

Everyone has his choice, so society has no right to object

In_Trance · Answer

Same things they always have

Anonymous · Answer

There is no such thing as a soul mate.

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