What's something you used to believe about relationships, but no longer do? (Page 2)
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Lol a 19 year old posting about when they were young... must be a repost.
When I was young I thought marriage was about love. And over time with love, honesty and loyalty everything works out.
FLASE, marriage is a buiness deal, even starts out all about love if divorce comes its a buiness deal.. and its actually probably one if the worst fianical investments you could ever make.
That great communication will fix everything.
I'm an amazing communicator so good I'm apparently irritating.
The other person wasn't so happy with my ability to convey my thoughts and feelings.
But it's OK some people prefer to lay down the law rather than compromise!
If they find someone who is happy with that great but unfortunately it didn't work for me!
I used to believe that with the right person love was easy and it just came naturally and everything would just fall into place but that is totally not true. Relationships take effort and work from both parties. Nothing ever just happens you have to make it happen.
I used to believe that "love at first sight" was a real thing because of all the movies and things that adults around me would say. I no longer believe this because I didn't feel attracted to my boyfriend at first and actually thought he was really weird and not cute at all. But over time, I grew feelings for him and began to think that he was really cute.
I am guilty that I believed that you could get someone to change and want to grow and make each other better people. That they would realise that they could be really happy with your support and love. You can't change someone who has issues and doesn't want to change. And you can't make someone want something you want.
Relationships is not about happiness, pleasure, and love with a happy face (Although they're important in a relationship and I am not excluding those things), I learned it's a big responsibility to survive the world with your spouse. Preparation for finances, Time, Respectful communication, faithfulness, and using wisdom are keys to success.
Communication, communication,
communication. You need it a relationship has to have it or it won’t work.
I use to believe it wasn’t needed back when I was young and stupid. So I had to learn that the hard way.
Be smarter then I was lol.
I used to believe that when someone made a promise the must keep it and if they have beliefs than they will stick by it forever but turned out to be wrong, i learned that people are liars and they can change all the time and never feel guitly to ruin you're life and gives you a simple explanation about breaking their promises such as "i simple have changed with time"... etc
that it was something that would come natural, you meet someone, like each other, get to know each other better and it involves into a relationship. That is still pretty normal, but as romance turned out to be something very unnatural to myself and I see how some friends also struggle making it work, I know it is not always simple.
The idea people only cheat because their needs aren’t being met in the relationship. One of my friends ex just wanted to sleep with other women with her because he can get away with it and it’s scandalous, along with another girl I know who was a dancer and she would tell me how many married men young and old would just be taking off rings etc, you will find a lot of people just do whatever if they believe they can get away with it, it’s very sad
That you had to be outgoing to find and get into one.
I also use to believe that if someone got into a good, healthy, and loving relationship after leaving a bad and abusive one would make everything better.
I used to believe that both parts would put an equal effort.
It is never that way. It is never equal.
I used to believe people, in general, cared about more than just themselves. That seems to be very hard to find nowadays. Even those who claim to be caring, giving people are often conditional... doing only to get something in return.
What I used to believe is that if someone says they love you then they wouldn't hurt you.
Thankfully there are exceptions.
Abusers take advantage constantly.
Gracias a Dios my wife is an exception.
I used to think that romantic relationships were worth having. That they were important and necessary. I no longer believe this. Too many disappointments
After you get connected better to a person I feel like they do notice your nonverbal cues better in my experience but you shouldn't expect that from someone before developing that.
I used to think love exists even if very rare but it does
Now I know it's fake it don't exist and it's over rated
Plus it's also a chemical mix in your brain the chemical stops mixing you dont feel love it's that simple
That it was fair and equal, that if you worked at things, so did they,
that working at a relationship kept it alive.
We have learned that even if you both are trying to approach a challenge in the relationship, that we have two different views on how to tackle it. That was very hard for us both to realize.
I thought that love wasn’t a choice and it never died. I think I watched too many movies as a kid. Now I know that love has an ebb and flow, it’s also something you cultivate.
that you should and can do everything in your power to make it work. sometimes it's actually better to call it off. everyone's different for no good reasons. part of relationship is about luck and finding what's best, doesn't always work out the first time or everyt time.