Would you take back the person who betrayed you?

Question

Even if they apologized? Whether it was cheating or they simply walked out of your life. I don't think I could do it. I feel like I would be making a fool of myself even if they did apologize. What do you think?

ohshee · Accepted Answer

No I wouldn't. The sad part about someone who cheats is they cheat they come home and act as if nothing has happened and they fake or manipulate their love to you as they thinking that they are smarter because they're getting away with something it's all just a big lie so the same time they're cheating on you they're playing you as a big fool
And then when they get caught they are sorry they apologized they don't know what they were thinking they threw out the chairs because you're busted and they really are embarrassed cuz he don't want anybody else to know who they truly are so they try to make up
There's just a lot more involved than just cheating for me personally you know I would not take them back

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

No I would say very unlikely I'd take her back. I mean I'd probably bang her if she came back around. Honestly, maybe I'd bang her depending on circumstances. I only date sexy women so she'd rank high on tge fuckability scale... and after all I am only a man.

But I would not take her back, I might forgive her, but I'd never trust her. Plus I got too much self respect for myself to sink that low. there's always other women, and I do well enough with out dealing with proven traitorous shank bitches.

SweedyPie · Accepted Answer

Nope. Been there in that position. Both relationship and friendship wise. Yeahhhhh it's better to go with your original gut feeling that you should cut them out of your life like the tumor they are.

There was ONCE that someone betrayed me and I allowed them back into my life. Only because she's like a daughter to me and after I cut her out she kept apologizing and used her actions to show how sorry she was. She worked for over a year to regain my trust. And I wasn't trying to make her do that, she just knew she fucked up big and didn't want me to cut her out of my life the way she knows I close the door on people who hurt me.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

forgive- yes (holding on to anger or hatred hurts you more than them) Forget or take back- no, the trust would be gone... And unfortunately, most times if someone gets away with doing something, they'll do it again (maybe not right away bit again) Maybe, if more people stuck to the one and done, more cheaters might think about the consequences  before  instead of  after🤷🏼‍♀️... I've tried just being friends with someone again who wasn't a very good friend to me, and it was never the same, so definitely not an ex partner or spouse.

Datboi65 · Answer

I'm gonna be honest, one of my faults is that I'm not a very forgiving person. I always try to be right by people, so when someone does wrong by me, I just find it very difficult to forgive them. I don't hold grudges or wish bad on people, I just don't want to see their face again.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

The question becomes if they can make up or make things better. How would they do that?

I can forgive someone but unless they earn back the trust, I would never take them back. Earning trust back would be harder than earning it in the first place. They would have their work cut out for them.

In the meantime I would continue on my life and if I found someone else, better or otherwise I'd move on.

Anonymous · Answer

No. I know me and when you knowingly do something you knew would hurt me in the worst way and you did it anyway, I don't want you in my life. I would resent you and harbor a lot of anger, and I can't live like that. I'm beyond the BS relationships phase of my life, and know now that I need to be surrounded by people who respect/love/care for me and treat me the way they want to be treated.

EmbraceThePain · Answer

Cheating? No

Something else? Well, it depends.
People aren’t perfect and lives can be unpredictable as well.
Apologies can 100% be sincere, as I’ve made mistakes that I’ve been sorry for many a times.

I’m human, we all are.

If she cheated and you take her back then 100% you should feel like a fool.

bolverk · Answer

No I would not take them back - they are my past not my present nor future that they cheated or walked out was their decision, If hadn't blocked them on social media and phone the do it now, If they keep calling your phone from other numbers, change it.
Do not be their fall back plan - ever!

itsalyssaagain · Answer

I don’t think I could but I tend to think about my ex making up for cheating. No ones loved me like he has since we broke up. But also I don’t think it’s in me to forgive him. I don’t know.

Anonymous · Answer

I never thought I could until my wife cheated and it was the most destructive thing that has ever happened to me.
But I went back and do kick myself for it but we have kids and a 10 year history, I went back like a fool.
It’s been a year and I am haunted everyday by what happened. I don’t feel the same but I still care for her. My kids need and benefit by having both their parents together.
She doesn’t realize the mental damage she has caused me. I don’t let her know or see the battles I fight.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

They get one chance to redeem themselves if they are genuinely sorry. Nobody gets a second.

Ray1980 · Answer

No, never & I could easily tell by her body lang, especially when intimate. Thing is there's no need for any of that. I want her to communicate what she needs & if I can't make my partner happy then she needs to find someone else. On the same token I would do the same, "this is why I'm not happy, it needs to change or I'm finding someone else". Communicating isn't that hard.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Really depends on the circumstances, but for most cases I say no!

Claudia233 · Answer

If they did something that made me want them out of my life then there would be no going back. I have trust issues in the first place. It will be just impossible to fix things.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

Nope. Though it depends on the betrayal. Both my exes who've "betrayed" my trust would not get a second chance.

Anonymous · Answer

Betrayal is the unforgivable slight for me. I can forgive anything else, but not betrayal. It's why I'm so staunchly pro life for one thing. It's why I've never been a rat either. Betrayal, there's no coming back from it with me.

PJH359 · Answer

No…they tend to repeat the behavior over and over again in my observation

salamidealer · Answer

I would never go back to someone who left me. Honestly I would just feel desperate and pity myself if I were to ever do that

HawkPerception · Answer

Not a chance. Betray me and you're dead in my eyes.

sasquatch111 · Answer

Never. My ex was always accusing me of cheating on him when he was the one that cheated. But he thinks monogamy is the way to go? Whatever. Nah, I would never marry him again or be with him again in a relationship.

Apulu_Imback · Answer

Only if I was completely sure that they changed themselves.

Adam1978 · Answer

No I don't give them a second chance to betray me. Fool me once shame on you,...

Emiliamazing · Answer

Never have gone back, and neither has my husband. There is only moving forward.

Staximus · Answer

Anybody who turns on you once will turn on you again- whether it be love, friends, business, money, etc. Cut them out of your life and you never have to worry about it again.

NathanDavis · Answer

I could forgive, I could listen and I could understand... and I would like to do all this eventually, yes

but no, we would not go back... that would have been changed forever, therefore over and also gone

Anonymous · Answer

When the farmers dog kills a chicken, the dog gets put down, because they can never stop.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

No. They've already proven they can't be trusted and I base my relationships on trust!

Anonymous · Answer

I tried but I would never do that again. Once my ex betrayed me, it was too hard for me to get my trust back to where it was again

Baysdayo · Answer

To be honest with you, I'll never take that kind of person back because they'll still hurt again

Vegasrunner · Answer

No. They get 1 shot max w/ me. It's ok to be fooled once but anything more than that you deserve what you get

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Sorry, no. With me, certain kinds of trust are like your virginity: once lost, always lost.

Splatmate22 · Answer

Never. If they will going to they going to cheat. Then that they have learned the hard way that broken trust will always very broken. Similar with toxic.

desidoll · Answer

I’d see what is their reason for doing that. I can be forgiving depending on the scenario.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

No. I can forgive but I won't let that person get close to me again.

IsoUser · Answer

I would never mainly because you can never trust a Liar or a Theif

DermalPunch · Answer

I was recently betrayed by someone and I have no intention of ever communicating with them again. So no, I wouldn't.

Anonymous · Answer

No, that's for the spineless or cuckolds and I am not one.

Rizwan_khan · Answer

No , never read that book again which you already read many time. It's just a waste of time. Instead choose new book to read. I hope you get my point.

Anonymous · Answer

No. If they can betray me they are worse than strangers who never did that to me

Browneye57 · Answer

I think you cannot negotiate attraction and desire for you. Find one that has this.

Partyguy1017 · Answer

I forgave my friend who betrayed me, and he hasn't done anything even remotely bad since then, so i think it is possible to preserve your friendship or relationship.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

HELL fucking no!

dustybiker · Answer

Accept their apology and move on with my own life.

Sabretooth · Answer

I've played a lot of video games and watched a lot of shows and movies to know it ain't always that simple. so, it depends on the why.

sattii2607 · Answer

Mistakes happen, if I feel they have gotten better I will give them a second chance.

bigpauly · Answer

No I wouldn’t trust them to not do it again.

legalboxers · Answer

thats a hard no for me

elizamichale1 · Answer

Yes i would trust them n give them a chance

Agape93 · Answer

Never

SolitarySolace · Answer

Hell no. Who in their right mind would do that?

sheikalana · Answer

Nope.

JoyGirl · Answer

Depends.

Hannajenky · Answer

Nope 👎

Selena1987 · Answer

Never Otherwise I’m really a loco

dudeinohio · Answer

Nope

Twalli · Answer

Depends on what's in the apology

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Fuck no.

driven159 · Answer

No, they be done

MrJMM · Answer

Ummm, fuck no.

Zygum · Answer

No, I will never

Curious862023 · Answer

Yes ! The make up sex is amazing!

JesseJayNeak · Answer

Fuck no

Nativeguyokc · Answer

He'll no.

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