Would you take back someone who left you? Why/why not?

[Pinay_ako]

A parent, a lover, a friend …

[UmaOrelha]

In one relationship, I did take the woman back.

We had a better relationship than before. She was more attentive and less likely to take me for granted. She had briefly gone out with two other men that she thought were a good match for her. She did have a lot more in common with both of them. She never did tell me what caused the end of those two relationships. All she would say was that both of them were a mistake.

In the end, it was her going away to college that split us up.

[Ali4Sy]

Sure not because who leaves you once will always leave you..

[Rania05]

I love my parents and I might take them back despite all flaws, and maybe also my sister if she sincerely knows her faults.

But a lover? No, no. Just nope. They left me, means they abandoned me. And likewise if I left it means I did it for a reasons and I don't like gluing back a broken mirror, the nastiest shit of ourselves ever is always brought out during romantic relationships.

A friend? Depends on how much they changed, I trust my guts to feel comfortable or not for me to judge then

[Andres77]

I left all three. And a few gf’s.

im very giving and patient but that seems to empower others to take advantage.

i left them. Maybe when i was a kid and two girls broke up with me. Maybe subconsciously I refused to be someone else’s leftovers. So when they treated me poorly or with disdain I said “fuck it, I’m out”.

so, they’d have to beg me and show me proof that they’d changed. But once an abuser always an abuser…unless some major trauma happened to her and snapped her out of it. But still…🤔

[sheenagwapa]

its gonna be hatd for me because that time when i'm with this person most likelt i have given my all and i'm just not that type who surrenders when it comes to love... so especially if i'm the one who surrenders its gonnq be hard for me to take back because i simply reach my breakung point

[kakaling]

I always wanted a relationship of an equal standing on both sides.

If she rejected me, it would make me of lower standing, if she comes back, it will make me of higher standing. And if she is the one that chose to left me again that will hurt me too much, I deserved someone better.

[VIVANT]

Maybe if they leave and come back it replaces the negative so you’re equal. -1 +1 = 😊

[kakaling]

@VIVANT Comes back is a +2, Chose to left is a -3.

[VIVANT]

Hmm fair enough 🤷🏻‍♀️

[beebella]

I kind of have this problem where I tend to give people one too many chances to redeem themselves, only for them to NOT redeem themselves. So, as much as I'd like to say I wouldn't, my track record proves otherwise. 😒

[ShellyB]

No, I could take time saying that every situation is different and anything is possible, which is true, but the simple answer that would apply 99.9999% is no.

[crossdressingrihno]

Nope. Taking someone back after they ditched you just means you haven’t learned your lesson yet and need to wait for that person to inevitably do it again.

[AviatorTom]

It would depend why they left, and how I feel about them.

If, for example, they left to "find" themselves and then came back when they did that, I might take them back.

[SnowedIn]

Maybe? Depends on the circumstances. But not a categorical no.

[VIVANT]

Agreed

[SnowedIn]

@VIVANT... thank you!

[VIVANT]

🫡☺️

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

Yes I did because I thought the three girls were genuinely sorry for what they did to me and abandoning me. I stupidly took them back and they used and abandoned me again. No more.

[richardcory]

Already did. My (future) wife left me after we had been dating for a few years, then came back.

[Meropatrick]

It depends on why they left me. And why are they returning. I dont take any step in my life without asking questions. How, where, when, Why. If the answer doesn't suit me i move on

[sheikalana]

I wouldn't take anyone back even if I was single. Once someone breaks up with me there's no turning back. I don't believe in second chances.

[TaureanBull81]

Absolutely not!! If they walk 🚶‍♀️ out on you then they never deserved to be in your life in the first place.

[TaureanBull81]

Thanks for the upvote @Pinay_ako 😘

[Sparkie460]

If they left me, absolutely not. If I left them, it would depend on what the reason was that I left them.

[exitseven]

The best answer I can give is ,"maybe"

[LemiaOfThunder]

My ex No as much as I still love her, the fact she just bailed without warning at the start of pandemic means she has relationship issues.

[Declan123]

NO, you guys separated the first time for a reason. I did this once and I'll never do it again, it led to an on/off relationship that was toxic and being friends with an ex is a terrible idea

[msc545]

No. If they do that once they will do it again.

[dolemite58]

nope once they choose to leave they’re gone forever

[Amur8711]

Tough one, I guess it depends if the break up was mutual at the time.

[Girlsontop]

nah just friends

[BoopBoopBeep]

Nope. We can be friends though.

[Sitaraxx]

No, I have self respect.

[Cuminginside]

No because you found somebody with a bigger paycheck

[RavVid]

No. They are second hand then.

[Ms_Facesitter]

No, if it's over it's over.

[Jonnyanalog]

Negative ghost rider.

[AɴᴋᴀʀᴀBᴇʏᴇғᴇɴᴅɪꜱɪ]

nothing like this can happen

[Taurusmoon]

Never

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

No….

[LostandFound__x]

Depends.

[elizamichale1]

Yea i would

[invalid1]

No...

[EaterPeter]

Depends

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for like!

[EaterPeter]

As much I would want to take them back I may be in other relationship and they must be willing to resolve previous issues

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for likes!

[collie22]

Simply no

[LavLavLuv]

No☝️No☝️

[Fuentes]

Lol no

[BLP11520]

No never

[eagle1951]

hell no