Is wanting a relationship/love just a hopeless dream for certain people?

[Anonymous]

[sage2021]

Sometimes it takes many years. For some, it never happens. A professional person once told me that a person can have a love relationship with someone and they end up with a broken heart and NEVER take a chance at love again because they don't want to ever feel that pain again. A lot of people fall into this situation, so it lessens the amount of people out there seeking a love relationship again. People used to meet someone at work, but people are working at home more often. It seems some find someone on a dating site. A lady user of GaG did a post one time saying that she was on dating sites for 5 years before she found someone.
Back when I was younger and on the dating scene, people met each other at a bar. I guess that's not very popular anymore. A friend would invite friend over for a party and two people would start talking, then a relationship would blossom. I met one guy at a business seminar, but I don't think those are popular anymore either.
I know what it is like to yearn for love and have so much love to give and no one to give it to. Then when I finally did meet someone, it never lasted for many different reasons.
I am not going to sugarcoat this for you. Finding someone to love and be in a love relationship with isn't easy to find, but it's not impossible either.
I wish you the very best in your search for love and pray you will find your soulmate one day. ☮️

[Miss_cupcakes]

I love this answer, I can relate to so much of what you’re saying!
Thank you for taking the time to write it- I’ve found it empowering!

[sage2021]

@Miss_cupcakes thank you for your reply. Whenever I give my opinion on issues such as love, I hope it will help at least one person because that's why I come here to GaG. 🌷

[sage2021]

@Miss-cupcakes thank you for following me 🧁

[sage2021]

@Miss_cupcakes please see my reply to you 🙂

[petitedollbabee]

Everyone deserves love. But there’s different types of love - the kind you get from having a partner, the kind you get from family, the kind you get from friends and the kind you get from pets. All are valid types of love and everyone deserves at least one of them.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Realistically? Yes.
Let's not sugarcoat things: unfortunately, not everyone will find "true love," or wind up in a relationship. It sucks, but it's a fact of life. There are people that go their whole life without finding a meaningful or happy relationship. But they go on with their lives!

Society says if you want a relationship, you need to work hard, better yourself, have confidence, self esteem, etc, etc-

But what happens when you follow all of that and you're STILL alone? And that's with putting in real effort to find a relationship? Not just saying you're unlucky, yet not really trying.

I'm not saying just give up on love and relationships, but I also want people to realize that if you can't find a relationship, it's okay. Learn to focus on other things to make you happy, not just a relationship status.

[Miss_cupcakes]

Totally agree with this - there's no rule to say you've achieved everything in life by being in a loving relationship, and if it never happens to me again then do be it. But sometimes I miss not having a partner- someone to get out and about and make memories with. Aahh life can be complicated sometimes!!

[jennifer_bloom]

God is basically the only thing I’m attracted to - biceps and curls only keep me interested for five minutes.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

It depends on the person. And their issues.

Some people can change, grow, and mature. Some can't or refuse to.

Finding love and keeping a relationship take effort and work. If someone's not willing or incapable of putting in that effort and work, then it might be hopeless unless they find someone who *wants* to be a parent to their partner.

[England4eva]

No, it’s achievable. But there’s a lot of rummaging through the pile to do, if you wanna find a good one. That parts exhausting, and very time consuming. You’ve gotta be willing to walk away when it’s not working, yet keep going back into the dating scene for more to hopefully find the one.

I completely understand why some people give up, it’s like a lottery out there, and can feel mentally draining.

[Tina19]

True love is rare to find
We can't control how others feel for us people fall in love fall out of love all the time

[DizzyDesii]

Its normal. Its only hopeless if you're not putting any effort into it. Take risks

[Selena1987]

It’s really difficult. Half of it depends on what you do and your actions and the other half isn’t related to you and is related to what the world/God/chance or whatever you say wants for you

[sheikalana]

Is not. For some it just takes longer to find the love of their lives.

[gabby100]

NO, its something you have to work at..

[Squaresquirrel]

Sad truth is yes, some people will not find love.

[Anonymous]

Beginning to think it is for me.

[UpdateGloomyNights_]

For me yes

[Asker]

Welcome to the club