Why would my girlfriend cheat on me but then say no to an open relationship?

[Anonymous]

[maixmilo]

This feels like she wants all the freedom but doesn't want you to have them. All in all it doesn't seem fair to me.
What I don't understand is why you would want to be with someone who is able to cheat on you. And when you give her the option of an open relationship she refuses. I think you've been more than nice to and for her, but it's time to think and care about yourself.

[Rebecka33]

Insecurity i do this to

[Asker]

What do you do

[Rebecka33]

Cheat

[Asker]

You have cheated?

[Asker]

But you wouldn't do an open relationship?

[Rebecka33]

Yes i would but afraid to lose him conpletely id kill myself

[Rebecka33]

Olus he doesn't want to lose me

[Asker]

Do you think maybe that's why my wife doesn't want to

[Rebecka33]

Id be totaly cool open relationship or seperated he dotb want that though.

[Asker]

Yeah I know my wife she wouldn't want me having sex with another woman

[Rebecka33]

What was her relationship like with her father?

[Asker]

Her father wasn't in her life

[Rebecka33]

Wel there's your answer neither was mine.

[Asker]

Do you cheat a lot

[Rebecka33]

Couple times a yr about iim lost if i dont have that attention from aguy to make me feel pretty

[Asker]

Yeah I'm willing to let my wife do it I just want her to be honest about it and not sneak around and tell me what she's doing

[Rebecka33]

Im afraid to tel my other everything out of feqr il lose him

[Asker]

Does he know you cheat

[Asker]

Yeah maybe she's afraid I'm also afraid to tell her that I actually get turned on thinking about her having sex with someone else

[Rebecka33]

If he knew he would leave me or something. Theni would go with other person and he dont want that either

[Rebecka33]

I mean i would go with other person

[Asker]

Do you think I should tell her that I'd like to watch her have sex with another guy

[Rebecka33]

I think she would like that or ooen up more she obviously doesn't want to lose you compketly

[Asker]

Yeah I know she loves me and still wants to be with me she just likes having sex with other guys

[Rebecka33]

For me ita not about that for me its avout having that love i never got as child from a man.

[Asker]

With mine she mainly just likes getting big dick

[Rebecka33]

So if a guy is not for me getingt hat love that i needed for development then they are the enemy

[Asker]

What would you say if your husband want to watch you have sex with another guy

[Rebecka33]

Thats not what it is for me at all

[Asker]

I'm saying if that's what he wanted

[Rebecka33]

Thw other guy wants that so ya i have to give in to get that love

[Asker]

Do you think it's weird for a guy to get turned on by the thought of his wife having sex with another guy

[Rebecka33]

He would never if he did id be happy

[Rebecka33]

Nit at al but no guy I've ever been with wants that ever

[Asker]

My wife she said no to a open relationship but I wonder what she would say to a cockold relationship

[Asker]

I'm thinking she might like that idea better

[Rebecka33]

Cockold?

[Asker]

Cuckold

[Rebecka33]

What is that what does that mean?

[Asker]

You know what that is right

[Rebecka33]

No actually i dont

[Rebecka33]

Old cock?

[Asker]

Basically arrangement where the woman has sex with whoever she wants and the man is faithful to her

[Rebecka33]

Ya that wouldbt happen for me i wish. Though every girls dream.

[Asker]

And sometimes the guy doesn't get to have any sex at all the woman gets all her sex from other guys

[Rebecka33]

For me its just ine or two however again its because of devlopment needs

[Asker]

I had never heard of it either tell recently

[Rebecka33]

Well you would have to do that and risk losing her anyway.

[Asker]

Apparently a lot of guys with small penises are into it

[Rebecka33]

Ya well def can do however if she leaves you someday at least youl know nothing you did.

[Asker]

Yeah there are some risks but it also could be beneficial to our relationship

[Rebecka33]

True as long as other guy isn't so e psychpath.

[Asker]

Yeah if we could find a good guy that we both like that could give her sex every day would be perfect

[Rebecka33]

Yes it would lol shoot shed be happy twice a yr.

[Asker]

I think she would want it more than that

[Rebecka33]

Maybe he would to thats up to her lol i know il never get that so more coodles to her lol

[Asker]

Yeah I would leave it up to her and let her do it as much as she wanted

[Rebecka33]

Wel have fun lol however if she ends up moving on understand its not you and move on and be happy to

[Asker]

I don't think she will I mean really she'll be getting the both worlds of all worlds a loving husband to take care of her and still the sexual freedom to do what she wants

[Rebecka33]

True.

[Asker]

I have heard a lot of guys who do this though end up not getting sex anymore

[Rebecka33]

She might also eventually just not do it as much or need to

[Asker]

Yeah or she might find another guy and have sex with him only

[Asker]

Some guys actually get turned on by being denied sex

[Rebecka33]

Well thats just wha tit js at least ahel be happy and you can move on or she might just want yto be with you and not do that anymore.

[Asker]

I still want us to have a relationship she'll just get sex from other men

[Asker]

Or maybe just trying out 3 some instead would be a good option

[Rebecka33]

True good luck lol hope things go well

[Asker]

Thanks

[Rebecka33]

very welcome.

[Anonymous]

Why are you dating a cheater? Breaking up means she no longer wants you, cheating means she hates you even further. Life's too short to waste with a ho get a real girlfriend instead

[Xtendable]

Because she doesn’t want you to have liberties to do what she did

[Asker]

Ya probably

[Xtendable]

Thankyou

[WhitneySnow]

Maybe she’s selfish and she wants to be the only one allowed to cheat? Or maybe she likes the sneaking around part.

[Asker]

I even told her though that she could do it and I wouldn't If that was the issue

[WhitneySnow]

I guess she likes the sneaking around and getting away with it part. Or maybe she just feels guilty about cheating and doesn’t wanna do it anymore.

[Asker]

I've caught her twice but I'm sure she's done it way more than that

[WhitneySnow]

Then I guess she likes the sneaking around part. You should break up with her if she keeps cheating on you.

[Asker]

Yeah the sneaking around and lying part is what Father's me the most

[WhitneySnow]

Defo break up with her if she’s done it twice

[Asker]

Yes I don't seem weird that she won't just accept permission to do it

[WhitneySnow]

I have no clue why she would do that. But def break up with her. You don’t deserve to be cheated on. Nobody does.

[Asker]

She could do whatever she wanted as long as she was honest and truthful about it

[Asker]

Yeah I think I might just break up with her if she does it again

[WhitneySnow]

Awesome. Good luck.

[Asker]

Thanks

[mandyfire98]

She might just enjoy the cheating.

[Asker]

Ya she probably gets some thrill out of it

[Ms_Facesitter]

Perhaps she cheated because she was done with you.

[Asker]

No I don't think that's the case I know she doesn't want to break up

[Ms_Facesitter]

She doesn't want to break up... but she cheats?
She doesn't want an open relationship... but she cheats?

[Asker]

Yeah exactly it doesn't make sense does it

[Ms_Facesitter]

Not One Bit.

[Asker]

I mean I'm even willing to give her permission to do it all I ask is that she be honest and truthful about everything and tell me beforehand. Is that asking too much?

[Ms_Facesitter]

To a selfish person it would be.

[TacosRAwesome]

It's already open on her end, just not on yours.

[Asker]

Yeah but all I ask is that she be honest and truthful about things instead of lying and sneaking around

[TacosRAwesome]

At this point you need to take care of you because well she's obviously taking care of herself in more ways than one.

[Asker]

Ya an I never get sex from her either

[TacosRAwesome]

So like what's her point?

[Asker]

Will I do still love her and wanna be with her

[Asker]

But I guess I don't satisfy her sexually

[JamesRandiDebates]

Because she's a manipulative controlling bitch