Depends on the definition of the word to that person. To me, a “lover” is someone I am IN LOVE with, not just sexually active with. So, it is purely the emotional connection that I have with that person.
Sure, that is included in the intimacy part but just the way they make me feel all the time is what makes them a lover to me. Those little things they do and say to make me feel special.
Luckily for me, I have found that man and he very much does make me feel like that every day. I could not be any luckier.
A and D are both really important. B doesn’t matter to me and C matters but only as far as I’m ready for.
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For me I dont care if she knows what she's doing or not let play pretend for a min
So you and I are dating we start making out we start having foreplay and I really don't care if you know what you're doing or not because I'm going to be selfish at the moment and I'm going to make it all about you I'm going to be able to look into your eyes read the color of your cheeks listen to the way you breathe and moan the way you use your body or not and that's going to tell me everything that you want at a given moment I'm going to make it all about you and for every second for every minute for every hour did I'm doing this you're going to get built so far up there's a fine line of orgasm and not and I'm going to pull you over to the orgasm side right until you about ready to have it and then I'm going to pull you back over to not have it and I'm going to keep building you up in building you up and just the way that I use my body to use pressure of my body to put under your body weather I mean deep digging my toes into the mattress putting pressure on your hip so you can't even move and just holding that pressure and holding it and pushing with my toes done into the bed my arms up underneath your armpits to your shoulders pulling you up in clothes and tight it's holding that pressure on you deep within your going to feel my energy from the very start to the very end is going to be intense it's going to be hot and everything you want I might give it to you and I might not it depends on the moment but no matter what I'm going to use every part of my body every ounce of my energy and you're going to be able to feel it on the inside of your body and the outside of your body no matter how intense it is and the reason why I want to do all this this way is because I can last 10 times longer headed my time he's writing I can take you to the first second and third orgasm all of them in a row with after the other internet serving you are out of control crazy usually
A Great Lover is someone who pays attention to and shows consideration for the other person's feelings. That's not doing what you believe they should want but what they actually appreciate. Other aspects of this would be clear, open, honest communication (not expecting the partner to be a mind reader), appreciating the partner for who he/she is rather than focusing on what is believed to be the person's potential and living within his/her own means rather than being irresponsible or feeling entitled to handouts. It is also important to be aware of where your partner is and stay close by his/her side rather than rush ahead or expect your partner to drag you along. Active, equal participants in all aspects of the relationship keeps things balanced and moving forward. Never seek more than you are already bringing to the relationship. Make sure both of you always feel safe, secure and special. Any sense of entitlement will destroy a relationship. Mutual respect and support will always be more meaningful than expecting one to carry the other (except when that person is physically incapable of carrying him/herself). Subtleties provide greater depth, and linger longer, than extremes... in all aspects of a relationship.
I met a woman online whose husband never gave her an orgasm in 20 years, because he didn’t think women should get those. Only sluts want those.
She dumped him and just did hookups. She was messaging me from this guy’s house. She said: “I told this idiot I just wanted to fuck, and now he expects me to watch this two hour stupid Netflix movie. I need to work early in the morning. ”
So after the boring movie, he decided to do what she came for. She gave him some very complex instructions. “Eat my pussy until I tap on your shoulder. Then hurry up and fuck me, and I’ll orgasm.”
Do you think he could follow those complex instructions?
So in answer to your question, not being an idiot would greatly improve your lover abilities.
The frequency of sex should match for both of us (two or three times per week)
She should be somewhat uninhibited (enjoys giving and receiving oral sex, lets me cum in her mouth, occasionally is receptive to anal sex, enjoys getting tied up, blindfolded, and fucked good, and lets me watch her masturbate.)
Be enthusiastic about having sex.
Make moans and groans to let me know that she is enjoying the activities.
Is sufficiently secure with herself that she doesn't want to hide in the darkness and will sleep naked with me.
She should sometimes initiate sexual encounters.
Talks about her sexual preferences and refers to her body parts by common names instead of clinical terms.
Being cute and petite would be a plus, and I prefer 30A to 34B boobs.
"Emotional needs" I don't really put at the top, but there are certain emotional and intimate connections that are there when I have good sexual chemistry with someone; it's beyond physical.
I don't put a lot of emphasis on finances either, as long as she keeps her hands out of my wallet. You don't need money for love.
The last two are more important, the sexual chemistry and autonomy. A lover is just that, someone who loves. Trying to change someone isn't love; love is acceptance.
I want a girl who will see me. I want someone to whom I am not invisible, but to whom I am truly known. I want a woman who will see the good in me and draw that out and encourage me to be who I really am, to live up to my full potential. I want someone who will believe in me, and who will invest her love in me. I want a woman who is faithful and loyal, and who will stand by my side. I want a woman who I can trust. And I want a girl who isn't afraid to be loved. I want a woman who will let me love her back as much as she loves me, and even more.
Someone who is patient, loyal, honest, loyal, understanding, who I can be goofy around be myself without feeling judged. Those are my main things I obviously need to be physically attracted to them I know it sounds harsh but I just can't be in a relationship with someone I don't find physically attractive
There is more than one factor that makes a person a great lover. I always say communication is key attand that is one. Two! The emotional factor, that is important too. I express my emotiona no matter where we are, i don't care about about people think of me/us. Loving each other for who we are and it takes time till both accept it as it is and when it's there! It's amazing.
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Never going to find perfect. I discover new things I like and things I don't like every single year.
Best I can hope for is spending time with girls that are really really good for me and enriching each other's lives in a big way
Well sex lol they have to be good at it and meet me there because at 45 I'm a freak lol
I am assuming "Lover" means sex friend.
The quality I would be looking for
-gentle,
- charisma,
- listener: pay attention to my needs,
- stamina
- open minded
She's hypersexual, orgasmic, uninhibited, skilled, and loves cock.
We like, respect and adore each other and get along great. We are 100% loyal and dedicated and can't get enough of each other.
be indian (not a must but highly recommended by my dick)
be sexy and have nice tits.,
and last but not least, not be a bitch, be friendly.
thats all i need, just a hot girl who is a nice person... and preferably indian, im not picky like most people
Laurie, I think a Great Lover has to measure up either WELL or GOOD on all of the category's you show. Probably NO ONE can be excellent in all of them, but should show some ability to be acceptable, both men and women
When I think of "lover" that means how a girlfriend is sexually towards me. She pays attention to all the sexy details I tell her I like and she does them for me. Those details are private 😊.
I think the question you're trying to ask is how's someone a great boyfriend/girlfriend. That would be a very long answer for me. There's so many things involved.
Someone that removes selfishness for me like I do for them , someone that makes me feel wanted and respected like I do for them , Someone that looks more at positive then negative in life
A, C, D, and G (has to like the same hobbies as me and be a talented artist and logical thinker)
Finances come and go, financial status isn't even considered when I pick a girlfriend/wife, to me thats way too shallow and unrealistic.
I think it has to do with being able to anticipate what my mood is and what would I enjoy at the moment. I try to do this and it took a while before i got good at it.
I agree with all those except finances. I don't give a damn about their income so long as they can pay their half of the bills and I don't have to pay for them like a child. I just want to be loved and screwed really well for my entire life.
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