If you dislike a person, do you hide your dislike for that person?

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ohshee · Accepted Answer

If I dis like someone I probably will never see them again. If its has something to do with close friends I just stay away from them

But I do have to say I don't really know anyone that I dis like to that extent as I have gotten older I kind just let it all go.
And for whatever reason made me feel that way did I just like them I just won't give them the opportunity to do that extended LOL I won't put myself in a position to do that

And I always try to look at things has everything has two sides to it just because something happened it might not have been something that they could have stopped from happening as long as you're honest with me and that's all I care about whatever happened happened and in many cases is not what happened it's the bull crap that comes with it the lie to try to get out of it or the blame of somebody else instead of just Manning up and owning it saying look up fucked up I apologize but if you try to lie or cheat your way through it that's what makes me mad and if I can't trust you that I can't trust you

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Accepted Answer

I like all people and If I dislike someone, it's for a real reason but I usually hide my dislike I will admit I feel hurt and sad inside when I dislike someone, all my life I tried to help people and befriend them but something inside tells me to stay away from them cause their bad for my mental and physical health, If I dislike someone I try to avoid them I had a great uncle who talked about my weight when I was a small child so I never forgot his hateful comments and I had another great uncle who belittled me about the house I use to live in well I couldn't help it , So I been down a rough road

Smoke-n-Growls · Accepted Answer

It depends.

Do I work with this person, or otherwise share an organizational affiliation?

Is this person simply annoying, but not harmful?

What do I have to gain from masking or reducing outward appearance of my dislike? Is it worth the effort?

Likewise, what will the consequences be for not masking my dislike? Is it worthwhile to not hide my dislike?

I'll generally choose to mask or try not to be obvious in my dislike. Most times people don't really need to know I don't like them, because we're just passing by. In these cases, I feel it's polite to just be cordial. We won't be friends, but they might not need to be antagonized.

I'll show clear dislike if someone is being harmful or is actively infringing on a value or boundary of mine, and the consequences for doing so are something I can accept.

Noreason432 · Accepted Answer

Generally, yes, but only because the idea of hurting someone’s feelings by them seeing that I don’t like them hurts my heart more than my general distaste for hypocrisy. Caveat: I won’t be fake nice to them though. I won’t pretend I do like them. I won’t go out of my way to talk to them. But I will be polite. I try very hard to keep my dislike from showing through. Cause their feelings matter too- unless they genuinely suck as human beings, then fuck em.

Iwant2kno · Answer

If for any reason I dislike a person, I will not hide it. I will make sure my dislike is shown in my attitude, actions and distance. If that person continues to attempt to get close, then I will have a talk with them and tell them what I think and why I think the way I do…most likely, they will avoid me after that ☺️

NathanDavis · Answer

it actually depends, yes...

if I do not like someone, I just try to avoid that someone... but if they are someone I have to work with, friends of my friends, or relatives, then I just can get along with them just fine just for the sake of civility, lol

now, in the cases in which I dislike someone because of the things they do, which would be wrong things... and it starts to get personal, especially against someone I like, then yes... I might make it very clear that I do not like what they're doing and I will put a stop to it and then it is up to them what happens next... and then they usually back off and keep their distance, which works for me very well

hahahmm · Answer

It's rare that I "dislike a person". Usually I'm conscious that it's about what they're doing. Once I am convinced that they enjoy doing what they're doing & they won't change then it could switch. I had to disown some relatives & I don't care what anybody thinks about it.

foxsquirrell · Answer

I usually avoid them when I can't stand them. It would make me feel so bad inside when I strongly dislike certain people that it feels like I am being eaten by acid from within. Even if they are at a distance. I guess they can guess that I hate them.

For example when I am coming back from work I opt to take a longer route to avoid going through the town center where there are always a bunch of disgusting men in there 50s on average, very ignorant and practically apes. Otherwise if I pass from there I feel an intense surge of a super bad feeling like I described above.

But to answer your question as to why I hide it when I do, it is to fend off any negative reactions/trouble that might come my way because they know I hate them. For no other reason.

Anonymous · Answer

I hide it but show disinterest. I don’t like my friend’s new friends and girlfriend too much, and I already am a quiet person, so I mostly just stand there. I’m not sure if she can tell I don’t like her because I don’t dislike her as a person but that I lost time with my friend. I had a better time when one friend was gone from school for a month.

I chose it depends. I also don’t have too much experience with people on ways like this, this is all I have for dislike of people in my life.

Anonymous · Answer

You got to ask yourself WHY you dislike that person. If they did something to intentionally harm or antagonize you sure then you should by all means let them know.

But if you just don’t like their appearance, personality, etc. than it’s best to shut up. Do your best to avoid them. If you do end up saying something nasty to them that makes YOU the bully and/or antagonizer in that situation.

Hate to bring in gender issues but I more often than not see women being nasty to men and other women just because they don’t like them vs. what the guy or other woman actually did to them. Men who act that way to other people are instantly labeled bullies. But woman get more of a “pass” on this because of the negative “feelings” they have about the other person.

It’s not cool.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I like most people. There really aren't that many people who I don't like. I usually try to still be polite if I run into that person. I don't see anything positive in showing them that I dislike them. If I can't stand them to a greater extent, I would try to avoid them.

Screenwriter · Answer

IT's according to what the situation is: If it's personal, you can choose. If it's a work situation and you have no control over the fact that you have to work with someone, you have to adjust yourself. And then there's the issue if it's a boss or a colleague.

If it's someone you only see occasionally who makes little difference in your life, why waste the time or energy in a confrontation?

amandat94132 · Answer

You have to not let anyone know you dislike a person

I worked as an Accountant in North Bay San Francisco, a very cliquish nurse didn't like my friend , another nurse, in situations where you see the same people everyday you have to be careful saying things about other people

Cyberfoxx · Answer

I do hide. Someones like me never disclose the matter, if we likes or dislikes a person. I didn't get the logic behind publishing our feelings to everyone who come into our life. Even if we didn't choose to say "i like you" or "i didn't like you", it could be easily visible through our actions, we can keep our mouth shut, but not actions everytime even if we want.. Cuz some sudden reactive actions are made unconsciously, back to the point, if i really dislikes a person, i will keep staying away from their vicinity and put off their every tries of communication with me, i don't want to waste my energy explaining the root cause of the dislikes even if they read my behaviour towards them through my action. But most of us can't mask our dislikes and communicate with the hated ones, if we are actually fed up of them ( from my pov)

Espresso-Grande · Answer

It depends on who it is and my situation

There's certain individuals who I don't like in work, but I tolerate them for the sake of my job. I just act superficial around them.

If I dislike someone, I generally just ignore them and I don't associate with them at all.

BrookeAZ90 · Answer

It's a lot less confusing for everyone if everyone knows EXACTLY how you feel. I don't necessarily need to tell people I don't like them, but I think I make it clear by how annoyed I look having to talk to them or how short and irritated of a response I can give when I'm forced to talk to them. I'll be cordial enough with co-workers I don't like, but no one at work's ever had to wonder how I really feel.

SynthKobra · Answer

I really am incapable of hiding my dislike for a person. I can work with them if it's a work situation but it will come out. This behavior of mine is pretty much reserved for incompetent people who refuse to listen or work as a team. If I dislike someone in a social setting I'll make the most of the situation but I will never hit them up.

Andres77 · Answer

If it's at work then liking them is irrelevant. There's a job to be done and there's a level of professionalism that must be maintained.

If it's social then I just ignore them or minimize my time around them.
I won't be the instigator of drama in the social scene.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

I don't. I'm incapable of hiding it. What really annoys me about that is some people try even harder to win me over which makes me dislike them even more. There are a few coworkers of mine that do this. Its a never ending cycle until I finally go off then they get all butthurt because they made an effort to be nice. They can shove that nice up their ass if it means they'll leave me alone. Some people have to be liked by everyone.

Alex8736 · Answer

Like the saying goes "keep your friends close and your enemies closer" if someone has done you wrong their first instinct is body language by means of retaliation but if you show kindness if they come in contact with you it will completely throw them off and you can observe the warning signs of their past screw job on you to prevent a future one 🌹

dustybiker · Answer

It depends. Some people need to hear or see it perfectly displayed. Others that are looking for a reaction learn better not getting one.

Jabberjaw · Answer

I don't pretend, but I also don't spend my time around them. So I'm not in the position to where I deal with them at all. If I like someone, they know it. If I don't like someone, it's obvious.

I don't do fake

Emiliamazing · Answer

I think in a professional situation there are times when you must show restraint in your dealings. If it’s purely a friendship or casual acquaintance, there is no need for you to give someone you don’t like any of your precious time.

EmbraceThePain · Answer

In what context? Within the workplace, it really depends on the situation and environment.

Squaresquirrel · Answer

I try. We are flatmates and co-workers too. I need to hide it.

TheLoneTerran · Answer

Depends on what I dislike about them. If they're an outrageous asshole, then no. But if I dislike them for something smaller or more subtle, then making it known is just going to make things more difficult for everyone involved.

Juxtapose · Answer

It depends on how justified I am in disliking them and how they have treated me. If I don't like them and they treat me well enough then I'm not going to be a dick you know?

t-8900 · Answer

I work for mutual cooperation in a workplace and I dont turn down people in need just because I dont personally like them. But if it's adversarial or confrontational I'll make it well known and tell them to their face.

TheAfrikan · Answer

It depends at my tolerance level to that person, if it reaches high on my gauge aw show signs to them that i really hate there shit to bits and guts, I am that is, i they smart they can tell am longer feeling them. Soon am be like '' yo man i dislike you'' @cherry234

NawfZumbi · Answer

For the most part yes. If I feel like I'm being tested or treated differently I'll have a 1 on 1 and describe what the issue is. If no agreement can be made or no understanding reached. I dont care ill be straight up everytime. I dislike holding back, because I hate talking to people who are clearly holding back, when it could just be said.

Emilyis · Answer

No! I pretty much make it known that I don't like someone but I will still be nice to them as much as I can. I will do my best to not act like a prune.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

My approach here is ''passive'' - I won't pretend to like these persons. Rather go into non-interaction; even when this person is present. I also make an exception about exceptionally shitty people.

Cathy7734 · Answer

I try to be nice and polite to everyone, including people I dislike. Many times when someone is nice and kind to me it's like sunshine. So that's what I like to be with people.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

That is something I've NEVER been able to do. Obviously I wouldn't walk up to them and just punch their lights out, but I just can't bring myself to be nice to someone I hate.

ChooChooHaha · Answer

I don't throw it in their face or make it known, I try to keep it cool even with people I don't like. But if they get me all wrong, ask me, or something of the kind, or someone asks, I won't lie.

bakajana · Answer

I'm just honest so I could never go to them and act all friendly like some other people do. Just no. But I don't go and offend or mistreat them for no reason, I'm still respectful

Moose304 · Answer

If I don't like a person trust me they WILL know it! I am very selective about who I am friends with. I am also very protective of those friends as well.

DonkeyDan · Answer

I really depends why I don't like the person and what my connection to them is.

DermalPunch · Answer

Yes, there's no need to show a person that you dislike them. Just treat them with respect and don't deal with them.

KarinMcDonald · Answer

I'm generally not outwardly rude to the person, but I'm sure I give off vibes that I don't respect them.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

It depends on why I don't like the person and what our relationship is.  Normally I would just keep it under wraps as well as I can.

CubsterShura · Answer

Let's put it in a way that I don't express my dislike for a person unless I feel the need to or they ask me.

faithgrace4u · Answer

it matters how much i hate them if i hate them a lot I tell everyone and I can be really mean to them of course by accident

possumpi26 · Answer

I'm not one to rub it in one's face, however they can usually tell I don't like them because I avoid them like a plague.

Sour-rose · Answer

If I don't like you, then I'm gonna say it if you ask. You get on my nerves, then I'm gonna tell you now a days.

libsaretards · Answer

Nope. Everyone knows where they stand with me. If you are wondering if I like you or not, I probably have not formed an opinion of you yet. I tend to make it obvious where people stand with me.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

If it's professional, I can hide it. But other than that, if I don't need to work with you, it'll be painfully obvious that I do not want to be around you.

EssenceOfLight · Answer

Yes. I avid this person as I can and don't show I dislike them if they don't confront or provoke me.
Showing emotions to random people isn't a smart move, especially negative emotions come back like a boomerang.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Unless it's a boss at your job or something. There is no need to hide it so nah.

mrlongdongsiilver · Answer

i dislike most people, so its gotta be more than a pain in an ass. sometimes i start gas lighting them so we can throw hands

Bluemax · Answer

Unless their behavior becomes intolerable, I remain civil. So yes.

annabananna · Answer

I usually try to avoid people I dislike with all my being but if I have to be around someone I dislike I try to hide it unless the person REALLY did something bad to me.

Whatever2929292 · Answer

It is mostly pretty clear when I don't like someone

Pink2000 · Answer

My fave says anything before I do… there’s no way for me to hide my dislike. If they ask me why I don’t like them. I’ll tell them.

Account · Answer

I cannot. It is written all over my face, I am too expressive.

Blackcupcake · Answer

I neither show or hide it on purpose. usually what I do is to just ignore the person if I don't care for them.

loveslongnails · Answer

I don't think I ever have to hide it. LOL. Im pretty transparent if I don't like someone, and I rarely associate with people I don't like.

UniquelyBasic · Answer

I just try not to interact with them as much as I can.

beebella · Answer

I usually try to avoid/ignore them as much as possible.

bolverk · Answer

If I have to work with somebody everyday then I will hide my dislike of them just to get along peaceably.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I try to be polite because I'm not an ass but if it's mutual, and they start it, I'm going for it.

Juan_Sheet · Answer

If I dislike someone I just don't interact with them. Why waste my time on people I don't like?

XXblack88 · Answer

No I don't hide it because that would require good acting. And I'm horrible at acting.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

I'm usually passive aggressive with the people I don't like

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