If you dislike a person, do you hide your dislike for that person?

[Cherry234]

Yes

No

It depends (explain please)

[ohshee]

If I dis like someone I probably will never see them again. If its has something to do with close friends I just stay away from them

But I do have to say I don't really know anyone that I dis like to that extent as I have gotten older I kind just let it all go.
And for whatever reason made me feel that way did I just like them I just won't give them the opportunity to do that extended LOL I won't put myself in a position to do that

And I always try to look at things has everything has two sides to it just because something happened it might not have been something that they could have stopped from happening as long as you're honest with me and that's all I care about whatever happened happened and in many cases is not what happened it's the bull crap that comes with it the lie to try to get out of it or the blame of somebody else instead of just Manning up and owning it saying look up fucked up I apologize but if you try to lie or cheat your way through it that's what makes me mad and if I can't trust you that I can't trust you

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I like all people and If I dislike someone, it's for a real reason but I usually hide my dislike I will admit I feel hurt and sad inside when I dislike someone, all my life I tried to help people and befriend them but something inside tells me to stay away from them cause their bad for my mental and physical health, If I dislike someone I try to avoid them I had a great uncle who talked about my weight when I was a small child so I never forgot his hateful comments and I had another great uncle who belittled me about the house I use to live in well I couldn't help it , So I been down a rough road

[Cherry234]

I don't feel sad or hurt if I dislike someone. In fact, there are many people I dislike for various reasons but there are also people I genuinely like. Whether I hide my dislike for someone depends on who the person is. If the person is an elder like an aunt or an uncle or if I have a boss I dislike then I'm definitely going to keep my feelings to myself and just remain civil. However, if this person is some random person online who's being rude or is being unreasonable then I'm not going to hesitate to express my dislike if that person is also giving me trouble.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@Cherry234 Yeah, well my two great uncles were terrible to me and I disliked them a whole lot I won't use the word hate but let's just consider it for these two, God forgive me

[Cherry234]

@GoodGuyBreakingBad It's okay. I think everyone or at least most people have at least one family member they dislike.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thanks for Most Helpful Guy :)

[Cherry234]

Yw 🙂

[Smoke-n-Growls]

It depends.

Do I work with this person, or otherwise share an organizational affiliation?

Is this person simply annoying, but not harmful?

What do I have to gain from masking or reducing outward appearance of my dislike? Is it worth the effort?

Likewise, what will the consequences be for not masking my dislike? Is it worthwhile to not hide my dislike?

I'll generally choose to mask or try not to be obvious in my dislike. Most times people don't really need to know I don't like them, because we're just passing by. In these cases, I feel it's polite to just be cordial. We won't be friends, but they might not need to be antagonized.

I'll show clear dislike if someone is being harmful or is actively infringing on a value or boundary of mine, and the consequences for doing so are something I can accept.

[Noreason432]

Generally, yes, but only because the idea of hurting someone’s feelings by them seeing that I don’t like them hurts my heart more than my general distaste for hypocrisy. Caveat: I won’t be fake nice to them though. I won’t pretend I do like them. I won’t go out of my way to talk to them. But I will be polite. I try very hard to keep my dislike from showing through. Cause their feelings matter too- unless they genuinely suck as human beings, then fuck em.

[Iwant2kno]

If for any reason I dislike a person, I will not hide it. I will make sure my dislike is shown in my attitude, actions and distance. If that person continues to attempt to get close, then I will have a talk with them and tell them what I think and why I think the way I do…most likely, they will avoid me after that ☺️

[NathanDavis]

it actually depends, yes...

if I do not like someone, I just try to avoid that someone... but if they are someone I have to work with, friends of my friends, or relatives, then I just can get along with them just fine just for the sake of civility, lol

now, in the cases in which I dislike someone because of the things they do, which would be wrong things... and it starts to get personal, especially against someone I like, then yes... I might make it very clear that I do not like what they're doing and I will put a stop to it and then it is up to them what happens next... and then they usually back off and keep their distance, which works for me very well

[hahahmm]

It's rare that I "dislike a person". Usually I'm conscious that it's about what they're doing. Once I am convinced that they enjoy doing what they're doing & they won't change then it could switch. I had to disown some relatives & I don't care what anybody thinks about it.

[Cherry234]

If you really had to disown some of your relatives then that's fine. You shouldn't have to put up with toxic familial relationships just because you share a bloodline with those people.

[foxsquirrell]

I usually avoid them when I can't stand them. It would make me feel so bad inside when I strongly dislike certain people that it feels like I am being eaten by acid from within. Even if they are at a distance. I guess they can guess that I hate them.

For example when I am coming back from work I opt to take a longer route to avoid going through the town center where there are always a bunch of disgusting men in there 50s on average, very ignorant and practically apes. Otherwise if I pass from there I feel an intense surge of a super bad feeling like I described above.

But to answer your question as to why I hide it when I do, it is to fend off any negative reactions/trouble that might come my way because they know I hate them. For no other reason.

[Anonymous]

I hide it but show disinterest. I don’t like my friend’s new friends and girlfriend too much, and I already am a quiet person, so I mostly just stand there. I’m not sure if she can tell I don’t like her because I don’t dislike her as a person but that I lost time with my friend. I had a better time when one friend was gone from school for a month.


I chose it depends. I also don’t have too much experience with people on ways like this, this is all I have for dislike of people in my life.

[Anonymous]

You got to ask yourself WHY you dislike that person. If they did something to intentionally harm or antagonize you sure then you should by all means let them know.

But if you just don’t like their appearance, personality, etc. than it’s best to shut up. Do your best to avoid them. If you do end up saying something nasty to them that makes YOU the bully and/or antagonizer in that situation.

Hate to bring in gender issues but I more often than not see women being nasty to men and other women just because they don’t like them vs. what the guy or other woman actually did to them. Men who act that way to other people are instantly labeled bullies. But woman get more of a “pass” on this because of the negative “feelings” they have about the other person.

It’s not cool.

[ArrowheadSW]

I like most people. There really aren't that many people who I don't like. I usually try to still be polite if I run into that person. I don't see anything positive in showing them that I dislike them. If I can't stand them to a greater extent, I would try to avoid them.

[Screenwriter]

IT's according to what the situation is: If it's personal, you can choose. If it's a work situation and you have no control over the fact that you have to work with someone, you have to adjust yourself. And then there's the issue if it's a boss or a colleague.

If it's someone you only see occasionally who makes little difference in your life, why waste the time or energy in a confrontation?

[amandat94132]

You have to not let anyone know you dislike a person

I worked as an Accountant in North Bay San Francisco, a very cliquish nurse didn't like my friend , another nurse, in situations where you see the same people everyday you have to be careful saying things about other people

[Cyberfoxx]

I do hide. Someones like me never disclose the matter, if we likes or dislikes a person. I didn't get the logic behind publishing our feelings to everyone who come into our life. Even if we didn't choose to say "i like you" or "i didn't like you", it could be easily visible through our actions, we can keep our mouth shut, but not actions everytime even if we want.. Cuz some sudden reactive actions are made unconsciously, back to the point, if i really dislikes a person, i will keep staying away from their vicinity and put off their every tries of communication with me, i don't want to waste my energy explaining the root cause of the dislikes even if they read my behaviour towards them through my action. But most of us can't mask our dislikes and communicate with the hated ones, if we are actually fed up of them ( from my pov)

[Espresso-Grande]

It depends on who it is and my situation

There's certain individuals who I don't like in work, but I tolerate them for the sake of my job. I just act superficial around them.

If I dislike someone, I generally just ignore them and I don't associate with them at all.

[BrookeAZ90]

It's a lot less confusing for everyone if everyone knows EXACTLY how you feel. I don't necessarily need to tell people I don't like them, but I think I make it clear by how annoyed I look having to talk to them or how short and irritated of a response I can give when I'm forced to talk to them. I'll be cordial enough with co-workers I don't like, but no one at work's ever had to wonder how I really feel.

[SynthKobra]

I really am incapable of hiding my dislike for a person. I can work with them if it's a work situation but it will come out. This behavior of mine is pretty much reserved for incompetent people who refuse to listen or work as a team. If I dislike someone in a social setting I'll make the most of the situation but I will never hit them up.

[Andres77]

If it's at work then liking them is irrelevant. There's a job to be done and there's a level of professionalism that must be maintained.

If it's social then I just ignore them or minimize my time around them.
I won't be the instigator of drama in the social scene.

[Blueeyes81]

I don't. I'm incapable of hiding it. What really annoys me about that is some people try even harder to win me over which makes me dislike them even more. There are a few coworkers of mine that do this. Its a never ending cycle until I finally go off then they get all butthurt because they made an effort to be nice. They can shove that nice up their ass if it means they'll leave me alone. Some people have to be liked by everyone.

[Alex8736]

Like the saying goes "keep your friends close and your enemies closer" if someone has done you wrong their first instinct is body language by means of retaliation but if you show kindness if they come in contact with you it will completely throw them off and you can observe the warning signs of their past screw job on you to prevent a future one 🌹

[dustybiker]

It depends. Some people need to hear or see it perfectly displayed. Others that are looking for a reaction learn better not getting one.

[Jabberjaw]

I don't pretend, but I also don't spend my time around them. So I'm not in the position to where I deal with them at all. If I like someone, they know it. If I don't like someone, it's obvious.

I don't do fake

[Emiliamazing]

I think in a professional situation there are times when you must show restraint in your dealings. If it’s purely a friendship or casual acquaintance, there is no need for you to give someone you don’t like any of your precious time.

[EmbraceThePain]

In what context? Within the workplace, it really depends on the situation and environment.

[Cherry234]

It doesn't have to just be in the workplace. It can be in any context or situation.