Why Are You a Single Mother? Part 1: Relationships?

[Apope16]

I truly am trying understand. I want to know if you ladies chose to go through the months of labor and have a child within a marriage or outside a marriage.

I had my child outside of marriage

I had my child within a marriage

I am a man curious about the results or will comment below.

[APrettyLittleLady87]

You can break women - and men - into two categories. Children trapped in adult bodies & legitimate adults.

Children trapped in adult bodies think they're adults but they lack the sense of responsibility, respect for others, etc. that legitimate adults have. Most CTABs are insecure, inferior (they have bad attitudes, bad reputations, low to no standards, etc.), and if something goes wrong they typically blame everyone else except themselves.

Single mothers outside of marriage are CTABs.
They do not comprehend, or do not care, that unprotected sex can lead to pregnancy. They do not comprehend, or do not care, that joe dick stranger from the bar that got them pregnant doesn't want them or their child.
They do not comprehend, or do not care, that their low to no standards - screwing anyone who will have them - is why they got pregnant in the first place

Or they do comprehend and they go on welfare overburdening the system with their bastards - oftentimes not knowing who the hell the father is - and becoming a leech / a drain on society. That doesn't sound like a responsible adult, does it? It sounds like a child expecting the parents (the government) to cover for their fuck ups.

[Apope16]

very fascinating philosophical take!

[GatewayRealm]

So I’m curious You say you wanna know but then go on and say they waited and went through months of labor. I Don’t have to go outside I could choose to commit suicide through an effective means of suicide that requires no medication nothing and it wouldn’t even be painful. I know a few Non painful ways of Death. Everything is a choice I don’t have to live and I don’t have an emotional connection to Life so it would be Easy to just say I’m done.
Those females you speak of Could abort and It wouldn’t matter as everything is Pointless and doesn’t matter Human life means nothing just like every good bad thing they’ve done means nothing in the end. So go on Introspect know that every damn thing you do Is your choice not anybody else.
You can Lay in bed all day and not get up and not eat and choose to not drink anything and you could choose to keep the AC on 80 and could just wait you can choose to keep some sleep pills next to you and swallow them with no water 💦 but just you throats ability to swallow. You could choose to lay there and you would sweat and be hot eventually You would Go Unconscious and die shortly after. And could speed up the process by Doing squats and running around. The more water loss would make it a faster death.
Everything is a choice so make your choices and live your life the best way you can.
And It’s a gift we can choose To die
Because It would really suck if We could never Kill ourselves if we Were experiencing Pure Un escapable Horror.


That death I explained is A non painful death. There are certain Brain 🧠 Chemicals that flood the system that Prevent Any pain.
Good luck to you.

[GatewayRealm]

The sleep medicine would be Just a way To make a person comfortable so they can sleep and still wake up and lose the water in the body. Everything is a choice
Things can be Forced upon people but past choices can make a person unable to defend themselves against another because of being physically weak. Which would mean the person would need to run away from the attacker.

[SkyCastle90]

I don't have children yet.

From watching my family, it's either accidental or under unfortunate circumstances, and the decision to keep the baby is either a choice/pressured by family/religion or too late to abort. Why even put yourself in a position to become a single mother? Well, you have those who have sex to feel loved, wanted, and needed and not thinking about the consequences; or making a baby to keep the guy from leaving, which failed. Then there's rape.

There are women out there who willingly become single parents via surrogate, sperm bank, or adoption, but their reasoning for wanting to be a single parent may differ, let's just hope they can provide they child with everything they need to become a functioning adult.

[Anonymous]

Pregnancy is a natural consequence of pregnancy. Many women choose to be single mother's for child support, a cousin of mine somehow has 5 kids to 5 different fathers with good income and lives very well.
Many women who were married with kids are single because the marriage didn't work out for whatever reason.
There's a difference I believe between a single mother who was in a longterm relationship or marraige that ended and one that got pregnant on purpose for welfare and child support.
Also Many single mother's won't let the baby daddy have joint custody because the more custody the baby daddy had the child the less child support they pay.

[APrettyLittleLady87]

Your cousin sounds like welfare trash. The reason why people who legitimately need help struggle to get it because the system is overburdened by people who contribute nothing to society & never have.

[Opinion Owner]

@APrettyLittleLady87 the thing is she actually does work and makes decent money though and pay taxes and all but it's her mother who basically raises her kids. But she's always on Facebook and Instagram on holidays or fancy restaurants, she lives high on the hog partying twice a week but her kids see little of her earnings or child support payments. She gets also welfare somehow. She got a child support payment and was boasting about how she was treating herself to a spa day with it. Sickening but eventually provided she doesn't have anymore kids everytime a child turns 18 that's one less child support payment and eventually the youngest will turn 18 so no more child support to party on.

[APrettyLittleLady87]

Asker - ROFL. Your cousin doesn't work. You said yourself that she had multiple children from different fathers for child support and makes a good income. Don't backtrack. She's akin to welfare trash living off the money of others instead of contributing to society.

[Opinion Owner]

@APrettyLittleLady87 yeah she gets a good income from her 5 baby daddy's who make good money, like she wasn't getting pregnant to broke guys.

[APrettyLittleLady87]

Like I said she's trash. You admit she's getting child support, on welfare, etc. She should've been sterilized when she was 16. Contributes nothing to soceity. Never has, never will.

[Avicenna]

@APrettyLittleLady87: The men dumb enough to have unprotected sex with a woman who already is a single mom also deserve a lot of criticism, especially the ones that fathered #4 and # 5,

[Opinion Owner]

@Avicenna men don't think with their brains...

[Apope16]

You cousin is using men and the system. very disturbing. but i posted this question because as a social worker it is something that i have seen. it very unfortenate. Does you cousin realize what she is doing? Have you asked her why she has so many baby daddies and why she has the kids? I feel like she just pops out kids but nobody has a discussion of accountability with her.

[Opinion Owner]

She knows exactly what she is doing and she's financially doing very well out of it. Though I may think it's immoral.

[Aerissa_Jade]

I almost had a child outside of marriage, not by choice but because I was raped... but I lost him a few months in.

The next one is going to be within marriage.

[Apope16]

I hope you are doing okay. no words. very sorry that happened.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Thanks

[EmmaMary]

Both our first child and the one I'm carrying at present will have been born within an extremely happy and very stable marriage... Thank You.

[JustinTheGreat]

so do you not want to hear from single dads