If your partner got locked up for a long period of time, would you wait for them or would you move on?

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The_Shadow_Dweller · Accepted Answer

Depends on what you decided.

There is a K Drama in which the girl had killed a man, of course accidently, and the guy had taken the blame.

They had mutually decided for her to wait till he came back. He comes back, and then finds that she's moved on. And does not even acknowledge him.

He gets mad and the whole series he takes revenge on her.

So what have you decided between yourselves? Is he understanding or anything else? How deep is your relationship.

Whatever the case maybe, visit him regularly and update him on things. Do not keep him hanging onto the feelings. Be clear with him.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Wow that is tough. Really depends on what he did. And what he does.
I had a friend who did something horrible and got away with it scott free. But his conscience bothered him after he started studying the bible. He turned himself in. He went to prison for several years. He had the respect of both sides of the gangs on prison and no one dared touch him.

Not all people in prison are "trash" Some dam good people in there deserve some sacrifice from those on the outside. Especially those who are there for taking a stand for what is right.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

He's in jail and a criminal: move on. I would obviously break up with him as soon as possible to avoid giving him any ideas, or having him think I'll be waiting on him when he gets out (if he gets out that is). I'm not attracted to criminals.

The only exception would be if it was out of self defense/justified (ie: he killed someone defending himself or a loved one)

Vesuvius87 · Accepted Answer

If it's a good reason and they're truly guilty, I'm moving on and giving him rotting in prison. If he's really innocent, I could fight for it but it's going to likely take too long (time isn't on my favor) so we would remind as friends and I'll find someone else.

SecretsofKB · Answer

A long period of time infers they did something very illegal, so I'm not sure I'd stick around for them.

DizzyDesii · Answer

If he’s innocent, i’d stick around. Otherwise no. Plus ain't no tellin who he may have to give his booty to in jail. He may not come out of it the same “straight” man that i preferred to be with

lillucy · Answer

When I was a young warthog my boyfriend disappeared suddenly and according to his friends he got locked up. I called some jails and his family but nobody knew where he was. I waited for about 1.5 years and one day he messaged me on Facebook wanting to talk. Long story short I don’t really think he was in jail he was just a narcissist

Whatever2929292 · Answer

NOT for things like robbery, killing, or selling drugs. If say she killed someone in total self defense and I knew in my heart that that is what it was then yes. I would stay if we were committed.

But now for stuff like that no. For smaller stuff yes I would but if it kept happening then no

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

Move on, unless they were wrongfully convicted or convicted for something I can't abide by.

But if they legit just committed a crime bad enough to be locked up and are guilty of it, I'm outta there. Byyyyyyeeeeee.

MrOracle · Answer

If I knew they were innocent, or if they'd made a horrible mistake and were upfront about it, then, sure. If they just chose to commit a major crime with no justification, we would be through.

hellomellow7 · Answer

It depends on the crime he was locked up for. Murder no I’d move on because I’d never feel safe around him. DUI I’d wait for him because maybe he learned his lesson.

nachosaresexy · Answer

Depends on the circumstances, obviously. Are we married? Dating? What type of crime? How long is "long"?

Avicenna · Answer

If she actually did the crime and was tried and sentenced fairly, I'd be gone. If she were innocent, no.

NotGuru · Answer

If she's guilty and unforgivable, I'd move on... If she isn't guilty, I'd fight for her, do everything to release her. If I could do nothing, I'd ask yhe authorities to lock me up with her 😊

Panzer21 · Answer

No, the only criminal act I would accept is minor drug use (weed if it was still illegal where I live, mushrooms, lsd) or illegal gun ownership. Besides that I won't be with a ciminal

GatewayRealm · Answer

Haha
Depends why they did the Killing
If She Killed someone and I believe it was the right thing for her to do.
Then I will bail her out.
And I will be giving her a Talk About how Stupid and senseless it was to get caught.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

If they actually did any of those things, I'd move on. Even if they got out the same day, I'm not dating a murderer, thief, or drug dealer.

libsaretards · Answer

For the crimes listed in your update I would leave them (assuming they are guilty and not just railroaded by the legal system)

1GoldTwins · Answer

Depends on the crime! Give me three different scenarios?

CarolineW · Answer

Move on. If he got himself locked up he's obviously a loser

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

If my girfriend committed a crime and got herself locked up for a long time I would move on. I could possibly end up losing friends, family, my job etc if I was to stick by her.

Lostpearl · Answer

Leaving his ass PERIOD. If it’s a husband it’s different, but a boyfriend? Adios buddy I’m out😂😂😭

AviatorTom · Answer

I'd probably move on, but it depends on how long a period of time and what crime did they commit.

Redstang88 · Answer

I’d say the more important question is how she wound up there

mrkdvsn · Answer

If my wife ever got "locked up", it would either be by mistake, or it would be deliberate Christian persecution. Either way, I would never "move on". I would try to help her in any way I could.

exitseven · Answer

I would wait for her or else break her out of the big house.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

If they did something stupid that got them put away like murder or robbery or rape or whatever, then no.

genericname85 · Answer

i'd move on. they decided to waste their life. i won't waste mine for them.

ZSean · Answer

100% no for killing someone unless it was clear self defense. In which case they should not be in jail

Anonymous · Answer

Move on, if their dumb enough to get caught they aren’t my partner anymore.

EmyOnFire · Answer

It depends his crime. If he killed or raped someone... I would definitly move on!

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on my investment in them. At 22, not much i'd guess.

EmmaMary · Answer

I would looking for an immediate divorce.

Espresso-Grande · Answer

If I still loved him, I'd wait for him

Wise4myage · Answer

I sure as hell wouldn't.

OddBeMe · Answer

Guess it depends on what they did. Serial murder?

Slim57 · Answer

I'd move on if they got locked up for a bad reason

Agape93 · Answer

Move on

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Women do love thugs.

Jackson619 · Answer

Move on

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