Would you ever continue with a cheating partner that you're still in love with?

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I've caught my so cheating on me 3 times now.. each time she keeps apologizing.. I'm so heartbroken and wish I could move on but I love her so much.. I'm so attached moving on seems to be difficult but still can't get rid of the thoughts that she cheated on me when we're together.. I need y'all opinion

PrettyPriya · Accepted Answer

Not a chance in the world would I go back to someone that cheated one time, let alone three times. She obviously is going to keep doing it if she has done it 3 times at this point. You are enabling her because there are no consequences.

She knows all she has to do is apologize and you will take her back. You need to really think about how you have felt (heartbroken) and ask yourself how someone that cares about you could do that. They can't.

Best you realize this now before three times becomes four and five. She has no remorse. That is abundantly apparent. If you don't make her pay for her actions, she will just continue to do it. Best of luck to you.

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

Three times? What are you waiting for? A 4th one? Listen. She will never change. You can’t change her either. Forgive her but forget her. Love yourself and walk away with your head held high. You deserve better. It will hurt like a mf but it will get better. Holding on will hurt you more. She will do it again because you allow it! So go now.

Whatever2929292 · Accepted Answer

I don't think I would no. It is not worth it. I think that it is time to put your boundary up that you will only be with a woman who is only interested in you. She sounds like a piece of shit and I think later down the road when you find someone better you will be glad you broke up with her.

This is the THIRD time now!!! THREE TIMES... Imagine if you married her and she kept doing it.

Yea moving on might be hard. You might cry a little. You may even need mental, emotional, and spiritual support from a professional. But I think it's time to call this over if I was you anyways

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

I've been in that situation... it doesn't stop until she gets old and it's not as easy for her. Raising your own value slows it down, but just being real it's never going to stop. I got buff, ripped, with six-pack abs... she cheated with a dude that's shorter than her with a tiny pecker. Real advice, wouldn't you rather be single than dealing with that kind of bullshit? I know it is hard...2 kids and a military overseas situation kept me dealing with it... it will not stop. If you can leave, it's just best to take that leap.

Graci_e · Answer

I would never stay with someone who cheated on. That’s unforgivable. They would be gone the second I found out.

I understand you love her and it hurts. But she’s not the only girl in the world and if you break up with her, you’ll be greatful in the future. It may hurt at first but you won’t regret it. Trust me.

You’ll look back and start to realise how awful it was and how glad you are that you left her. You’ll be saving yourself a lot of heartbreak and tears.

You’ll one day meet the most amazing girl that will put your girlfriend right now to shame. You’ll be happy, I promise.

Respect yourself and know you deserve more than that. You deserve to feel loved, safe and respected in a relationship. She doesn’t give you that so it’s time to move on. Respect yourself because you deserve so much better. You will find better.

EvilAngel114 · Answer

No I wouldn’t. She’s going to keep doing it because you allow her to. She knows you’re going to keep forgiving her and she knows how much you love her and in her mind you’re never going to leave. I know it’s easier said than done, but you need to tell yourself that you’ve had enough. And walk away. She doesn’t deserve you. So leave, pull yourself together. When you’re ready, find you a girl that loves and respects you the way to deserve to be. This current situation doesn’t love you nor care about your feelings.

KarinMcDonald · Answer

I guess it all boils down to how much you really love her. My husband and I have made a transition in our lives which includes me enjoying the physical pleasures of other men on occasion. It's not all the time, just once or twice during the month. He's in on it, so in a way it's something we enjoy together. I know that's a lot to wrap your head around. It's not the way I was raised either. But that's how we (as a couple) have evolved. If you can't embrace or accept her infidelity, you've got a tough decision to make. Good luck.

SaartjieJane · Answer

I wouldn’t stick around. You’re wasting your time when you could be moving on, healing and possibly finding your person.
People like that almost never change and if I were you I wouldn’t counting on her being someone that will change. Her actions already show she won’t.
Moving on can be so damn hard, letting go of someone you love so much is painful as hell but I swear once you do and once you’re healed, you’ll be so thankful to yourself for making that first step of letting them go.

RobT312 · Answer

No one is perfect, so I’d be able to forgive a mistake like that once.

3 times... I’d be done... because chances are there will be a 6th, 10th and 20 th time.
I wouldn’t be able to get over being used, and it’s obvious she doesn’t love you the same way.
id move on and not look back

bones_20 · Answer

Come on dude. You gotta have more respect for yourself and leave. She clearly has no respect for you.

letuswaltzforthedead · Answer

If it's a woman doing the cheating, in my opinion, just move on. I can't see why a woman would cheat on someone she actually loves so if I'm being cheated on, I'd assume she just wants out. Especially after 3 times. If she keeps lying about stopping, who knows what else she will lie next about.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

Oh hell no. I'll leave instantly.

When they continue to do it, they won't stop, cause you let them. It's manipulative and it gets easier for them to cheat.
I hate cheating to my very core, and if I have a partner who does that, then they have shown me how little they respect me and our relationship.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

Move on, she is manipulating you.

She is staying with you because you're the "safe" option who will keep taking her back even when she betrays you.

You need to heal, and to raise your standards. And you DESERVE someone who will respect you, love you wholeheartedly, and NOT cheat on you.

You deserve to be treated with love, kindness, and respect. And she is trampling on that.

Move on. You're worth it.

Guy13 · Answer

Forced move-on. “How many times I’m going to have cheat on him until he’s done. I can’t look him in the eye…”.
This been over one year? She should have her assets together for life change. One day, you’re going to come home to an empty house OR an order to vacate OR attorney letter “time to sell and part” with option to buy her out.
—Kids?

Andres77 · Answer

It was more than three in a four month period. She wouldn't stop. I divorced her.
25 years later she called me crying and apologizing... but it was too late.
I was willing and she just kept messing around.
It was too much.
At some point I had to realize that it was intentional and not mistake. I had to love myself enough to no longer tolerate cruel behavior.

DivineZero · Answer

First super sorry that happened to you but as a man I have to tell you to sack up and leave. You don't love her you love a fantasy and for some reason you don't think too highly of yourself at all. Leave block her on everything and don't talk to her again. You're welcome and God bless you

Crankor · Answer

Well your life together is over whether you want it to be or not. You can't ignore the emotional tear her cheating has caused. That will forever prevent you from ever having a genuine emotional connection. Your having a hard time because you are used to being around her.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Are you sure? because I don't think you REALLY want opinions, you want us to tell you everything is going to be alright.

hellknight666 · Answer

Fool me once shame on yiu fool me twice shame on me 3 times is no longer fooling its a pattern the partner won't be broken no matter how many times apology come ur better to feel the sting of the heart ache for a short time then to continue living the lie and the pain that is there

SlickRick24 · Answer

To me that is the biggest betrayal it would break my heart into pieces if I was cheated on man I can’t imagine what your going through. I would give her a chance once but she would have to come to me hat in hand and be genuinely apologetic but still things would never be the same. If she did it again I couldn’t hang would break me to much.

miadee · Answer

If I'm truly in love with a guy, I cannot even think about other good looking dudes I'm interested in. If I'm dating a guy and I see him as an opion or place holder yeah I would cheat

She most probably sees you as an place holder

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Maybe after a long time if she's changed as a person, I might be willing. But that's a hard line for me. Loyalty isn't the kind of thing I'll give you too many chances with.

HighValue · Answer

I hope you aren't married, otherwise if you are you should start transferring your car title, home, savings, etc. into your parents' name before a divorce.

AJbabez · Answer

A cheat will always be cheat.. stop wasting ur time.. the right person will love u only bcoz that person will never think of hurting u😉

Starlight007 · Answer

Never no continuation, if you cheat on me I will forgive you then I will leave and never ever return again.

shaysh87 · Answer

I think you're just a weak coward. Sorry for my language but its true.

spartan55 · Answer

Dude, this is all within yourself now. It's about dignity and self respect. There is nothing wrong with you, don't blame yourself.

LilyoftheLake · Answer

Should you? Heck no. Would I? Against my better judgement, I probably couldn't bring myself to leave.  Get out of the relationship!

mermaidcancermoon · Answer

No. Because its clear theyre not happy in the relationship, theyre just too codependent to leave.

boggboss · Answer

What are u actually asking for tho u know yourself that what your down is counter productive and stupid so my man wake up

jahaims · Answer

No I have self respect. Also my love would stop instantly if they cheated. That means they aren't who I thought they were therefore the person I love doesn't exist.

dustybiker · Answer

Why would someone have such low self worth? That person already choose to leave you.

Adronicus · Answer

No, a man's power is in his ability to walk away once well stated boundaries are continually crossed.

xBarbiex · Answer

Maybe next time you'll get more than you asked for like someone else's baby, or how bout a incurable s. t. d or maybe your just down to share your pussy?  Leave her you'll be free an available

Anonymous · Answer

What are you trying to do, collect STD's with her? Get away from that community cum dump before you become an infected Cuck with no options at all.

Straight2thepoint · Answer

Don't waste ur time. Don't degrade urself like them. Someone else will take that place and even better, they will replace what was once empty.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Never. You need to leave her ass, dude. Find someone better.

Coolcat99 · Answer

I’d love to say no but currently I’ve done it continued wanting my cheating ex lol

Zolly99999 · Answer

Nope.. it's hard but cut her loose. She is going to keep doing it.

CaptainCh · Answer

You need to read codependent no more and go to a coda meeting asap

exitseven · Answer

Rip off the band aid. Get it over with.

msc545 · Answer

I would NEVER do this.

noohair · Answer

Forgive one time. I could not stay.

Anonymous · Answer

No, i am not a cuckold. Are you one?

Jouth · Answer

naw bro poop on her head instead

LavLavLuv · Answer

Yuck

In_Trance · Answer

never

Slim57 · Answer

Never

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