How long would you stay in an abusive relationship?

[Sparkie460]

If your boyfriend husband was physically abusing you how much would you take before you had enough and leave him

[WhereIsMyMind]

I was with my ex for a year. He'd go in to fits of jealous rage and on a couple of occasions he would push up in to my face to intimidate me, grab me by the throat, pull me across the room by my hair.

One particularly memorable incident was when he was convinced I was cheating on him with his brother, so he started chasing me with a kitchen knife and telling me it was going to be stabbed through my heart.

I would've dumped his ass sooner but he had stalker tendencies so I had to choose the right time to leave him. It took some work to get rid of him for good, but I got there eventually!

I could never be someone who would stick around and put up with that crap for years, I had my experience with a raging lunatic, never again.

[Sparkie460]

I'm really sorry you had to go through that. I hope you pressed charges against him

[Vesuvius87]

As someone that got out of a mental and verbal abusive relationship last year, for the longest I really thought only physical abuse was an abusive relationship. I was getting abused without ever getting hit.
At this point, I won't tolerate horrible treatment from anyone; not even if it were from my family. If I won't put up from my family or friends, why should I tolerate a boyfriend who is really no one?
As for how long I would now stay in any abusive relationship (whether it has physical abuse or lacks it); not even 1/2 a second. Controlling people are take a hike.

[Vesuvius87]

Also, I know some Judo by now. Chances are the punch won't even connect.

[Sparkie460]

Good for you. I highly recommend all women take some form of self defense

[Vesuvius87]

Thank you for MHG

[Sparkie460]

Your welcome

[jennifer_bloom]

I would leave as soon as I get a divorce lawyer

[DizzyDesii]

I’m not going down without a fight so i’d fight back and use furniture as weapons if need be. I’d try to get him on video in the act. I’d have my fam help me escape. Basically i’d try to get out by the next day or that same week. I dont think i’d want to wait around to see if he's “changed”

[Sparkie460]

I knew you would go bat crazy on him. If I was near you I'd go after him too.

[Anonymous]

Ideally I’d want to leave asap but I’ve never been in a physically abusive relationship so I wouldn’t know how I would react. I know a lot of domestic violence victims find it difficult to leave their partner even though they’re fully aware of the toxicity and it’s mostly bc of the vicious cycle of abuse where the highs are high and the lows are very low.

[Sparkie460]

It's really sad how many women tolerate the physical abuse from their partner.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah and I’ve seen guys (like my cousins) who tolerated abuse from their girl way longer than they should’ve. I hope no one has to go through this

[Sparkie460]

I hope so too but there are men and women who are being abused by their partner right now. I wish I could be in a million places and stop domestic abuse

[mermaidcancermoon]

I dont believe in being 100% financially dependent on others but even so id leave relatively fast and just go to a shelter. I've broken up with 4 exes so im not someone thatd stay in such a dynamic.

Those that do are isually people pleasers, think they can fix him, or are so scared theyll get m*rdered if they leave. Especially if he's a chronic stalker.

[Blackcosmo]

I'm a really submissive person so naturally I'd just let the guy step over me all the time. I think the only way I'd get out is if other people get involved like my family or friends.

[Sparkie460]

Submissive is one thing but if he was beating you you should get out as fast as you can. No woman should tolerate abuse from men

[Blackcosmo]

I'm the type that just lets it happen and it's so hard to change.

[swettannie]

would you want that?

[Blackcosmo]

@swettannie No but I wouldn't be able to make myself leave.

[Sparkie460]

Please try really hard to change. I was talking with a woman yesterday. She was seeing a guy for 5 years. As soon as she moved in with him he started beating her. He beat her so bad that the last time she was unconscious and ended up in a comma for 2 months so the swelling in her brain can go down. She could have died if her sister didn't check on her. The boyfriend decided that after he beat her he would go on a fishing trip with his friend and leave her to die

[Blackcosmo]

Is she alright? Yes I will definitely trying to change.

[swettannie]

i understand that, believe me

[Sparkie460]

She is ok but she still has a lot of recovering to do, physically, emotionally and mentally.

[Sparkie460]

@swettannie have you been in a similar situation

[mandyfire98]

It would be over immediately. Plus he might have ruptured testicles.

[Sparkie460]

You go girl 👏

[cth2188]

Never the first red flags I’m out.. no if’s and butts about it

[cth2188]

I won’t let a man disrespect me..

[Sparkie460]

Good for you

[Ms_Facesitter]

1 hit and I'm GONE.

[Sparkie460]

Good for you

[Ms_Facesitter]

If he has to get physical to get a point across, he's not the right man. If you are the right person, and I did something that upset you, and you tell me, I will feel miserable.

[Sparkie460]

A real man doesn't hit women. He doesn't even have to yell. Communication is key in a relationship

[Ms_Facesitter]

If she's threatening you or your family, I wouldn't have a problem seeing a man hit a woman, a threat is a threat, But that's a whole different topic. This is abuse. People shouldn't hit people.

[Sparkie460]

I totally agree