She doesn't want me to meet her baby daddy?

[Benthegreat]

My girlfriend of 9 months and I just moved in together. She has a kid and things with the baby daddy don't seem very good. She says he was horrible to her and she had to move out. Thing is I walked in one day and she was talking to him and he was actually yelling at her telling her to not call him anymore. My girlfriend got mad and said it was just about the kid and then he said that she still calls every day and it was annoying him. He comes to get his kid on the weekends and she always wants me to stay in the house and out of sight. She also doesn't want me to talk to him when she will call him about issues with their kid. I just get the feeling she is almost hiding me. Is this an issue?

[Anonymous]

Maybe she calls every day because nothing ever gets resolved during any of the calls?

I dont think it would be good for you to be interacting with him either, especially as the situation is hostile.

You say 'He comes to get his kid on the weekends and she always wants me to stay in the house and out of sight.' this is potentially very misleading.

Does she ask you to be there specifically or are you there for your own reasons? Because those are very different things.

Single mothers dont need their boyfriends posturing and spraying territorial man skank on already difficult situations. Presumably you have some ridiculous testosterone fueled fantasy about you setting this guy straight and making all things right with the world, well it doesn't work like that.

You want to be in this woman's life and her child's life, ok, great but right now you are nothing to do with this situation beyond the role that anyone would be playing, whether it were her parent or a friend etc and is to be there for moral support and the inherient feeling of greater security which is felt when you are not alone (you aren't a bouncer, you aren't there to be knocking anyone around).

So time to grow up kid, this is man stuff now.

You are her boyfriend, not her husband.

[Anonymous]

This is definitely a bad sign.

For one if she’s got baby daddy issues are you willing to deal with that for the foreseeable future?
She doesn’t respect the father enough to introduce the man that will be spending time with his child. Instant red flag.
If she talks shit about the father to the daughter And hides you for fear of what? Get out before you get to deep.
Sounds like she could be using you for cheap housing so watch your wallet.

[BDead21]

Sounds to me like she's not over him yet. If there's going to be a future with her, she's going to have to introduce you to him. Just ask her what the future looks like. If she says you're in it, then start setting boundaries and say 'OK, if I'm in your future, then you need to introduce me to X within the next month or we have to start planning for you to move out.'

[WhitneySnow]

That might be a red flag. She might not be over him yet.

[garykingg]

Probably she is concerned that he might hurt you, or still has feelings for him, and wants to get back with him, and the chances would be ruined if he sees you.

Dude, seriously just move, find someone else.

[boggboss]

Because she dont care to let u see hum more did u guys have a bad history

[spartan55]

She knows if you talk to him you will learn that her story isn't true.

[Guy13]

She’s afraid I’d fe sees you he will eventually hurt you is my guess.

[Jamesshinobi]

the drama is not worth it. there is a reason she does this amd no mater what reason it is you would be a fool to accept it

[maximumpower]

does she know you consider her your girlfriend?
from the sound of it she's still his and you're a convenience.

[Anonymous]

you retard

https://www.youtube.com/embed/mICWFTmE440

[Iron_Man]

Then don’t do it then

[In_Trance]

It's an issue if you make it an issue

[Anonymous]

Dude you have a duplicate account. Reported.