What makes a whore a whore?

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like personally people don't hear my story out it really means a lot I went thou a lot of sexual events ranging from when I was 4 to 13 sexual events that were considered sexual assault. then from 13 to-15 the influence faze I always consisted a tomboy so I found myself hangout around guys who were very pervy so all the jokes they made and comments I grew used to jokes from being gay to sexism to just plain sexual. I grew to joke about these things. and during these ages id meet a lot of men and women who were trying to get into sexual relationships, friends with benefits, or just one-nighters. Being so young I didn't always have good relationships with my friends and often felt alone so i grew to agree with some of these offers, to have someone to talk to. to this day I may take offers when I'm not in a relationship or looking into one. Once they've learned about how I acted I get the comment whore and hoe a lot more. this brings back trama with my family. growing up I wasn't really in a family-friendly environment. having never known my mother my father was the only parent I had. At 53 my father was mentally unstable and often informed me of how I was a failure. My sister was the only sibling I had who also grow to degrade me. Nowadays I never really find myself sexualizing myself or doing sexual things but sometimes I do have a little bit of "fun". I often find myself questioning what makes a whore a whore. Having read all of this would you consider me a whore?

Wsx2wsx2ws · Accepted Answer

My definition of you would be STRONG.
Super glad you made it though all that. I know it left scars and chewed you up inside. My life was only slightly better. I was able to avoid the actual molesting. But it was attempted several times.

A whore charges for sex. One definition of slang is some one who has many casual partners. But that term came from the first term as an insult. And that definion applies to far more people today then when it was used as an insult. In fact I bet they take it as a badge of honor now days.

Causal sex does not lead to a strong feeling toward self. I think addressing how you feel toward yourself is critical. How others treat/ed and speak to you is not a basis for self evaluation. Victims of sexual abuse often feel it was them. Their self image is twisted by this illusion. But any kid will do for the pedophile, and likely other did.
If you do what you feel is right to you, stick to your principles and decisions regardless of opinions around you. That is going to make a strong self image that can riposte any vulgar or ridicule that comes your way.

So many have broken this captive thinking and transcended into a bright reality. I am certain you have this same future. You are strong.

Sixgunsound · Accepted Answer

I think everyone has a story and it’s the choices you make about where you are going that matter more. Unless you are selling services then the label for a person who sells services doesn’t apply. There is a lot more concern for trauma-informed care than there ever has been in the past, but many if not most people are too lazy or otherwise uninterested in hearing your story. We are trained in the modern era to make a snap judgement that compartmentalizations people into tribal friend or foe, and people who don’t fit neatly into politically defined boxes create confusion which angers a lot of people. I don’t fit neatly into politically defined boxes either, and can empathize with that even if I don’t have the experience to sympathize with the rest. Doing what you have to do to survive socially sexually etc has no moral position as sex itself has no moral position it is more context based and determined based on your relationships. So long as you aren’t in a relationship what you do with consenting adults is your business.

LazerBean · Accepted Answer

whore hôr noun A prostitute. A person considered sexually promiscuous. A person considered as having compromised principles for personal gain. So to answer your question, yes.

TheMajesticKing777 · Answer

No you sound like someone that never really had anyone to really guide you and that of course isn't your fault a whore I believe is an attitude and way of living, even tho it's possible to make whore or slutty decisions there's a difference between making these decisions and being a whore, a whore makes it a lifestyle and most of them if not all of them know they are whores, you don't sound like a whore, the thing is that you can always choose to make the right decisions no matter what people tell you, I'm sorry you've been through through much but don't let the evil things of society confuse you on who you are.

wolfunknown · Answer

I don't like the term.
In society, if a woman have multiple sexual partners at the same time she is termed as "whore"
At the same time of a man has multiple sexual partners, he is termed as "playboy"
It's just wrong.

I think both men and women should be a little loyal in a relationship. For me personally, number of time sex or number of relationships doesn't matter what matters is being with one person at a time and being loyal.

Lliam · Answer

I don't think you fit the definition of whore. A whore is someone who sells sexual favors for money.
People who call sexually experienced women whores or sluts are primitive and pathetic. They create miserable lives for themselves and others. Ignore them. You're too good for them.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

No you are not a whore etc.

you are more of a victim of your upbringing and not having another person to keep you safe or guide you.

personally I don’t like the words whore or slut, as they are just words to degrade people.

If you have not had it, I would look at counselling.

jshm2 · Answer

Nope, you're broken, is all.

It's a shame you've had few positive friends or influences in your young life. I mean I'm a rich guy yet I started from a middle class background and in gangs.

But I know the change good and positive friends and networks can bring about. You just need to find your positive support group.

Gent207 · Answer

No I would consider you a broken person trying to replace sex with the healthy love you should've recieved. There are many books abd articles from people of similar backgrounds and experiences look up Fight The New Drug.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

If you make money off it, you're a professional. If you just do it as a hobby, you're an amature. A whore makes money off of it and a slut is just a slut.

SeekingVirginWife · Answer

Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. You clearly know what exactly I mean. You better remain chaste until marriage or you become one.

JohnK123 · Answer

Well if u wanna share ur story I’m all ears if u wanna pm that’s fine too but that doesn’t make u a whore unless u just sleep around with multiple guys

whiskeyontherocks · Answer

If there paid for sex  You should probably seek counseling still or some for of mental health professional.

Arwen06 · Answer

When you only fuck guys for money, basically being a prostitute

RuthlessAggression · Answer

money a whore, is a girl who sleeps with men, for money

ComingHere91 · Answer

Not whore but a girl who feels alone and doesn't know what to do... Right?

Anonymous · Answer

Payment. You should report everyone you have had sexual activities with. They are all pedophiles.

Zolly99999 · Answer

A who're gets paid. A slut does it for free

Anonymous · Answer

A whore is a slut who also like money

EnglishEuropean · Answer

Taking money for it.

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