Help me understand why my 30 year old boyfriend wants me to think he's cheating on me?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Is he accusing you of cheating? Maybe he’s just really insecure or has trust issues, or maybe he thinks you’re acting suspicious or (worst case scenarios) he’s the one cheating and he’s just projecting…

[Asker]

I think you hit the nail right on the head

[Opinion Owner]

Either way he’s acting very childish. If he wants attention from you or he wants you to chase him then he’s doing it wrong. I think he’s the one that’s actually insecure and he’s trying to also make you feel insecure

[Asker]

I totally whole heartedly agree with you
But I dont understand where his insecurities are coming from? I treat this man like a KING. I make sure he's satisfied like I don't know what I'm doing wrong... what I'm missing... like I tell him I love him, I do so much and vice versa. I don't know what's going in his head and I'm not sure he will tell me... yet. we fucking live together and I was about to get off my birth control... what more does he want?

[Opinion Owner]

I think it’s coming from within himself. Maybe he was hurt in the past and it made him feel unwanted or that he’s not good enough for you and that’s why he wants you to chase after him.

Do you know what his love language is? Maybe you guys have a different way of showing love and things could get lost in translation.

Also, how is he trying to make you think that he’s cheating? Is he purposefully talking about other girls in front of you and stuff?

[Asker]

I found a clean pair of my nike pro shorts in my dirty hamper. I didn't put them there. ALSO, I had my sexual eatable gel on my dresser when I know I put all of those away🤔... that's why I'm confused. Either a girl is wearing my shit or he is or he put that there to make me think he's up to something. He does little shit for me to notice too I don't know I believe he's trying to get me mad or freak out to be honest...

[Asker]

Has playing mind games with me but I was about to get off my birth control to have this mans baby. Now I'm deff re considering and just took a plan B smh I love him so much but I think I should leave

[Opinion Owner]

Ohh okay, that is kinda sus (especially about the edible gel part) but at the same time he could’ve just misplaced them. Have you confronted him about this? The way he reacts to it might give you a hint.

[Asker]

I can't read him ever. I dont know when he's lying and when I accuse him of lying he proves to me he's telling the truth. Maybe I put the gel there. But I did take a photo of the gels so if one comes up missing or misplaced I'll know he or someone else did it. I won't be touching those gels. I just found my nike pro shorts in the hamper like 2 hours ago when I was supposed to meet him at this party lol I ended not texting him back and I'm not going

[Asker]

I'm gonna wait until he comes home. I don't know if I should bring it up or not. But I did leave my shorts on top of my hamper so he will see that I found them

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe you can just bring it up casually, like “hey I was looking for my gel/shorts, do you know where it is?” “Huh pretty sure I didn’t leave it there” stuff like that.

I saw that he used to do things that makes you feel insecure, what did he do exactly?

[Asker]

He would purposely look at other girls infront of me AFTER he's witnessed other men gawking and staring at me...

[Asker]

But idgaf now if he's looking at other women. I'm totally fed up at this moment

[Opinion Owner]

Oh lol he’s just being petty then. The best thing to do is to not react. Hope everything works out for you!

[Samantha_Kim]

1- he wants to make you jealous so you'd be more into him
Or
2- he wants you to end the relationship

[Guy13]

Damn that makes no sense... making the girl insecure usually does not help the relationship. Did he receive an Unknown bump on head?

[Asker]

You know... the beginning of our relationship hed do things to me to make me feel insecure, but I domt get that. Is it so I domt go anywhere? Is he jealous of me and my confidence? What is it?

[Guy13]

I mean really... no clue. I'm not one of there wimpy guys BUT I don't go looking for things to create craziness EVER

[Asker]

Well I was looking for my nike pro shorts and I found them buried in my dirty hamper. They didn't smell like b. o and those were clean i remember them in my drawer last week. Most things just pop up for me i domt go snooping
My moms raised me on this saying and I truly live by it. "What's done in the dark ALWAYS comes to light"

[Guy13]

Yep and that saying comes from Numbers 32:23: "Be sure your sin will find you out?"

[Asker]

What does that MEAN? lol

[OlderAndWiser]

It would REALLY be helpful if you gave some background facts to put this question in context.

[Birdlegs]

Probably so you’d break up with him and he won’t be the bad guy

[Asker]

I think that too. But he's text me right now begging me to go to this party and be with him. So I don't know what he wants..

[driven159]

maybe he wants you to break up with him just he is too chicken to do it himself

[Anonymous]

How would we know? lol

My guess is to end the relationship? Too chicken to just end it or doesn't want to hurt you? (the "logic" in his mind) lol

[spartan55]

Could you explain a little more?

[Twalli]

How is he doing that?

[jahaims]

Immature