Why do I have a feeling my boyfriend is cheating on me?

[Anonymous]

He was texting me at work and after work, he just stopped and I haven't heard from him for 6 hours. Our relationship has been rocky and he's been mad at me... and he's been not as nice to me either.

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+1 y

Thank you everybody for the help, he’s back to his normal loving self again

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+1 y

He didn’t reply the entire night also and today he didn’t text me

[ShellyB]

From reading what you said in other places, I don't really think he is cheating, I think he is annoyed or angry about being accused of cheating and maybe there are some other things involved like he might feel the relationship is clingy or something, that would explain (for example) him going to his cousin's house and not texting, he might have wanted a little break. Now I will say he MIGHT be cheating but I have not read anything that makes me think he is.

If you ever have a feeling he's cheating (or doing anything else really wrong) my suggestion is not to accuse him of it but instead to do a little investigating or snooping first to see if there is any proof you can find. The main way I do this is by having him tell me in detail what he did during a time period I am wondering about, for example if he says he met friends to eat where did they meet, what did he eat, who was there, what did they eat, was the server friendly, was it crowded, or that kind of details. Not a barrage of questions it has to be in conversation form so it is not obv. what I am doing. Then a day or two later I ask similar questions and sometimes I will deliberately misstate details like if he ate a burger I might remind him of the PIZZA he ate, and see if he corrects me. Also if you have a chance you can ask someone he said was also there similar questions again not like anything is wrong just conversation, and see if it matches up. Sometimes it honestly may not completely match, memories aren't perfect but you will know if there is something weird going on by this point. JMO good luck!

[Asker]

I don’t know what to do or say anymore, every time I reply he is kinda mean. And I don’t wanna lose him because I feel like we really like wxchother

[Anonymous]

Honestly the relationship might be coming to an end. I’d say it’s just him being angry with you but being mean so much to me is a sign of resentment. If he’s uninterested in talking and irritated/mean when you do, that’s not healthy. Maybe some time apart will bring you two back together at some point in a healthier way.

[Asker]

yeah he was mad because I was accusing him of cheating like a week ago and also I was late in meeting him due to miscommunication and then he asked me about my ex and I told him

[Asker]

So should I just only reply when he talks?

[Opinion Owner]

Well what’s making you feel like he’s cheating? The thing with such a big accusation is you need to come with solid proof, and if you didn’t have anything other than weird feelings or insecurities then it’ll look bad on your end, because what if he’s innocent? Then he may think you’re the one cheating which may be why he asked about your ex.

[Opinion Owner]

As for if you should only reply when he talks, this is your boyfriend, not someone you’re dating casually. If there’s an issue it needs to be addressed so you can take the proper next steps. When you’re waiting for him to respond, then bigger gaps of time are passing between when you talk then it’s like what’s the point of the relationship, you know? There’s no need to play that game, just figure out where you two stand and where you are going.

[Asker]

I don't know there was one night he said he went to his cousins house, and then he didn't text me the entire night. And then the next day we were messaging, his texting style was really different. So I thought he was up to something bad. Yeah you're right he did think I was because I accused him. And also the last time I saw him, I saw him double taking a girl. Which made me kind of uncomfrotable.

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe now is a good time to learn the difference between your insecurities and your gut feelings. Don’t get me wrong, I think women are blessed with intuition for a reason, but sometimes when things aren’t going right with our men and they aren’t doing a good job at reassuring us, those intrusive thoughts get in the way, causing our insecurities get the better of us. Until you have proof there’s no way to know that he’s cheating, so to flat out accusing him just wasn’t the best move at all. Unfortunately you may have done some irreversible damage, I know my current boyfriend left his girlfriend of 8 years because she was accusing him when there wasn’t proof. I’m sorry, that’s not reassuring for me to say but it’s a real truth. Give him some space, but in the mean time get your thoughts in order. If you genuinely feel like he’s cheating then don’t wait for proof and just end it. But if you know it was you in your feelings, then explain that when you get a chance and go from there.

[Asker]

Yeah, I understand that is very true. I feel as though I will never know if he actually cheats though unless I purposely go through his phone, which I never do. He has went through my phone on the first day before even being in a relationship. Good that it was locked but he went through notifications. Yeah i'm going to give him some space. I'm just worried because our relationship is starting to get boring too

[Opinion Owner]

If it’s to the point that you have to check it’s phone, I’d say let him go. You need to be able to have peace of mind and trust him. What do you think makes you stay?

[Opinion Owner]

Besides love, we know that’s the obvious thing lol

[Asker]

Hmm well it made me stay because he was so nice, chivalrous, he paid for everything and woke up early to drive me to work and made sure I was home safe

[Asker]

He said he didn’t have to do that for me but he liked me and wanted to show me

[Asker]

He didn’t message me since yesterday morning

[Opinion Owner]

Well one thing I’ve learned is that his past actions shouldn’t dictate your current-time decisions. Sure he could’ve been this or that in the past, but that’s irrelevant when he’s acting how he is now along with what you’re experiencing. He’s no longer that person and who knows when or if he ever will be (at least towards you) again, so if you break up make it because he’s shitty in present time. Also, that whole ‘He said he didn’t have to do that for me but he liked me and wanted to show me’ is such a big fat red flag. Fake men putting on a mask to win you over say bs like that.

[GreenLanternI0I]

This advice comes from a Hardcore Man. Give him a cold shoulder for three weeks. Three weeks of no sex and no speaking to him, will tell you absolutely everything about his True feelings and thoughts about you. The question is are you strong enough to do so? are you strong enough to test him?

[Asker]

No speaking to him, as in no texting also?

[Asker]

he's saying i dont text him enough though

[GreenLanternI0I]

As in Nothing, no texting, no calls, no Nothing. Let him feel the pain, the confusion and the doubts that you are experiencing right now. 3 weeks is all it takes. If he will bring flowers to you or take you and your entire family out, that means he really likes/loves you and does have a serious consideration of having a family with you, if not, he is just another waste of time type of guy.

[Asker]

What if I just reply with not that much interest?

[GreenLanternI0I]

That would work too. Listen, when it comes to men, everything is logical and mathematical. If he wouldn't be getting anything (sex) from you for the next 3 weeks and he still be talking to you like nothing is happening you should be suspicious. OR I would give you an advice that I'm not really proud of sharing, but I'm here on this website to help people. Get him drunk, like drunk Drunk ( NOT yourself) and asking him all the questions that you would like to know the answers to and he will tell you most of everything that you need to know.

[Asker]

but he will tell me he just jerk off

[GreenLanternI0I]

Choking your own snake VS having sex with a real girl has no comparison lol. It is like driving a virtual reality car in PS5 VS driving a real car in a real world.

[Asker]

LMAO yeah im so worried, the last time I saw him, he was acting wweird

[GreenLanternI0I]

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[Asker]

So hard to find somebody I love that loves me back. And also he treated me so nice and cute. and i'm also getting old im 27.5 so when i'm 30 it will be hard

[GreenLanternI0I]

Never lose hope and if, IF things won't work out, just be honest with your next man, tell him exactly what you want. At your age and at the age of a man that you would be dating (hopefully not) be honest and straight forward, tell him exactly what you went through and want you want.

[Asker]

Omg I’m so sad he hasn’t texted me since yesterday morning

[GreenLanternI0I]

I'm replying to your last update. Before he will start respecting you, you have to start respecting yourself, until that happens, you are just a fun game to him and a sex toy whenever he needs it. The way I see it, he is not a good guy and you won't change him, because people don't change. At this point you have 3 options. 1. what I said in my very first comment give him a cold shoulder. 2. Start looking for a new B. F or 3. keep being miserable and all negatively emotional and holding on to a false hope that he will change or you will change him, which won't happen.

[Asker]

Yeah he was back to normal again yesterday then he stopped reply at 7

[Asker]

Till now

[Asker]

He was mad because I didn’t take a pic outside

[GreenLanternI0I]

Your a so called ""B. F."" is weird and too secretive. If you want to improve your life you know what has to be done.

[Asker]

Yeah I’m honestly so sad 😞

[GreenLanternI0I]

This is life, you cannot succeed and be truly happy if you never failed or struggled. You live, you learn, you adapt and then you move on. The amount of time You are willing to feel sad, depressed and angry depends entirely up to you. Good Luck Asker.

[Asker]

He made it seem like he loved me so much

[GreenLanternI0I]

How else would he be able to have sex with you? I know, men Suck and big time too.

[Asker]

No wonder he doesn’t talk to me during the weekend

[Asker]

I’m in so much pain

[Asker]

I need your help, I think I just saw him hanging out with another girl buying food, in a sweater and hat

[GreenLanternI0I]

No, what you need is to confront him directly face to face. That is the only true solution that would actually help you.

[Pyrofox]

The relationship could be coming to an end or maybe he just passed out in the shower or bath🤣.

[Asker]

I really don’t want it to end, what do you think I should do? I still love him. He still says good morning everyday but it’s like since the last time we hung out he’s been meaner. I asked him why and he says he feels emotional about me

[Pyrofox]

Just be an upbeat little teddy bear and just hug him tightly. 😉 The fact your not also miserable I think might be the "icing and cherry on top." He needs to keep going.

I don't think he's mad with you so much as he's just getting a little frustrated with all the curve balls he's been thrown. Sometimes in life all it takes is a little reassurance your doing the right thing.

[Noahzaid]

Cheating takes less than 6 hours so.. there must be something else making you think he’s cheating.

[Anonymous]

Either you have cheated or have a cheating past or he's cheating

[Danny_dan92]

Pay attention to other cues