Guys, How can you tell the difference between lust and love?

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From a man's perspective.

libsaretards · Accepted Answer

I wait until sex for marriage. This helps us develop a bond beyond sex. I take my time to get to know her and her values. I take my time and observe everything I can about her. I watch and see if her values line with mine. I have a rule that I will not propose any sooner than 2 years (preferably 3) of us becoming official.

Once we get past the first year mark, I start saving for an engagement ring and the entire proposal event. At the 2 year mark I will take her eye-shopping for her favorite pieces of jewelry other than the engagement ring and use that knowledge to get a good ring. If we should break up before this point, at least I have a savings.

By the 2-3 year mark, I know her well enough on most matters to see if I truly love her. The FINAL discussion I will have (if it has not already happened) is money. I will see where her head is at when it comes to finances, where we agree/disagree and where we can compromise. If that is all good to go, I am probably ready to propose.

JDavid25 · Accepted Answer

Easy, do I want to spend time with her after she helped me release? Does a smile come on my face with the thought of just spending non-sexual time with her? Or do I just get like how she looks and how I would feel inside of her? Love at the end of the day is more than a feeling though.. Lust is all feeling..

Guardian45 · Answer

Probably the same way you can tell the difference between lust & love.

Lust is intense, usually short-lived and about satisfying me.

Love maybe less intense, but it is certainly longer-lasting and less about satisfying me than another.

Love can be sacrifical; Lust never is!

Th3ft · Answer

Lol! By their definitions… that doesn’t change. The only difference is if the guy is smart enough to he able to differentiate between when he is thinking with his brain or his dick… some can’t do that…

BLP11520 · Answer

Love is wanting to know. be with the entire woman. Willing to help her with wanting nothing in return. Being kind and thoughtful and not thinking about your desire for sex. Love is patient, lust is not. Lust> " shuts the brain off" If you love someone you would value their opinions and not force yours on them. Real love doesn't get angry, lust is a brat child> I want it now.

MCheetah · Answer

Lust = You want to f*ck her and f*ck her hard. Love = You don't want to f*ck her, even when you can. (You want to cuddle, watch movies together, do a jigsaw puzzle together, all that sh*t).

Freyke · Answer

Oh that is very easy. Lust is wanting to get sexual with her. If I am in love I want to know you as a person, I want to protect you, I want to share more with you than just my bed.

Grond21 · Answer

Lust is about taking selfishly. Love is about giving yourself for the sake of the other

EaterPeter · Answer

There is a very little difference. Silver lining. Faint line. I had suspicion. And the book I listened recently confirmed that.

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

If it’s about sex, it’s lust. If it’s about other important things, then love.

Twalli · Answer

Do you enjoy being with them in a nonsexual setting.

Noodle_fan · Answer

if he only wants sex but never/rarely take you out or go somewhere together , it is lust

panamared1 · Answer

Love is how you feel about the person with your heart, lust is what you feel for their body from your loins

Anonymous · Answer

easy no Christ no willingness to submit to the king

007kingifrit · Answer

is it still there after i cum?

In_Trance · Answer

You give it time

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