What's the difference between love and lust?

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ztriple3 · Accepted Answer

I don't see anyone saying what I feel, so here goes. Lust is where you want to be with the person. There's some kind of barrier between you, but you want them. Sometimes more than anything else in the world, and it can really feel like love. Or you can be telling yourself it is because you want it to work. But something's off.
Love? This is practically conjecture as it's based on hopes, secondhand information, and... I don't even know what, but I think I'm right. Love is where the person makes you feel like there's another being that wants the best for you, and you want the same for them. Love is knowing who a person is at their core, wholly appreciating them, and trusting them enough to be nothing but excited to see who they grow into next. Love is where you would see them hurt you, or be with another, or would give up anything of yourself, just to see them happy, and know they'll never make you. Love doesn't hold back. Love doesn't demand conditions. Love asks for understanding, and gives it. Love has patience, and gives it. Love is Truly having someone and giving yourself to them, and growing into something bigger together.

Browneye57 · Accepted Answer

Everyone knows what lust is.
Love has many varying levels and types - for example many men never come to the realization that their woman will NEVER love them like their mother did, and waste some or all of their life hoping and pining they can find one that will. Ain't never happening - romantic love and maternal love are very different.
For most people, love happens when the NRE wears off - new relationship energy or emotion. When the dust settles the relationship should mature into something deeper and more meaningful, or it simply fails.
And really, love is about GIVING, not what you'll GET. Too many are really confused about that as well. Family, marriage, children, is about being in a place in your life where you have SO MUCH life force you're ready to GIVE. To love and nurture. It's not about what kind of benefits you'll get out of it - that's a losing proposition.

LuvAsh · Accepted Answer

This is so obvious. Most people won't die for those they are just lusting after. Lust doesn't last and you are never content with lust and that is why cheating exsits. But people will die for someone they truly love. If someone loves you then they will feel like they don't need anyone else and they are fine with just you. In other words, they are content. Love lasts forever and if you were in a relationship with someone you loved, you probably don't love them romantically, but you probably still love them as a person and still want the best for them.

PrincessGrail · Accepted Answer

Lust is sexual. Love is romantic. Ideally they go together.

ghostqueen · Answer

One is physical infatuation and the other is emotionally driven.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

If I am motivated solely by lust, I am thinking of my physical pleasure in the moment and not thinking about any long term consequences for us as a couple. If I am making love, I am thinking about her pleasure as well as my own and I said trying to connect with her emotionally as well as sexually.

Apope16 · Answer

Love is the affection that remains after 2 months of steady sex.

AmandaYVR · Answer

The amount of knowing the person?

JKingOff · Answer

You got the f****** meme up and I don't understand why you're asking... It's pretty simple, lust is the physical attraction, love is the emotional connection. Lust comes first. sorry ladies but you got to get your foot in the door, looks are important but they are not the end-all be-all. Once you actually got the guy where you want them now it's time to turn on your charm, AKA personality. if you don't have any then guess what your foot in the door just turned into a one night stand he's gone the next day. Hope this answers the question for you.

Anonymous · Answer

From an 'occult' perspective: lust is purely carnal and it's also objectifying, in the sense that it drives you to use the other person to satisfy animalistic sexual impulses. Lust is purely hedonistic and even transgressive. That's why it's one of the seven deadly sins.

Love is an untainted feeling and needs to be cultivated. In ancient cultures, it was done by trying to keep the mind and emotions 'clean'. In a nutshell, love is not animalistic. It's sacred. Consequently, sex needs to be treated the same way.

jadelaid · Answer

Love is long time commitment etc
And lust is ok.
But greed and materialistic plastic fakes
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Grond21 · Answer

lust originally meant a disordered sexual desire where you view the other person as an object. Recently, it has been degraded to you only mean sexual desire. Which is a shame, because the more you can distinguish truce with your words the more you can understand reality.

Love on the other hand, is desiring the good of the other person, for their own sake.

So using the original definition of lust, it was only about selfish desires and satisfying those. But love is the opposite, because it's all about the other person.
Using the new colloquial definition of lust, is clear that it is only biological interest. But love is far deeper and far more lasting

NightFlirt · Answer

Think of yourself and your SO living together only having sex once a month, but quite happy together laughing, talking and having fun. This is LOVE. If you fell like you have to have sex every day or the relationship is doomed to die a horrible death, You don't love them it's LUST plain and simple,

HereIbe · Answer

She went out drinking with her girls and comes home. You clean her up (as in give her a shower), put a nightgown on her, send her to bed, clean up the bathroom, including toilet, sink, floor, walls. She gets up in the middle of it to cry on you and beg forgiveness for how "mean" she's been and how she never appreciates you (amazing how a night of her listening to her female friends bitch about men readjusts her attitudes for me), you send her back to bed. You get back to the bathroom. She gets up again. You send her back. Bathroom's clean. You get into bed and make sure you have earplugs, because she's snoring like ten boxer dogs. You only care that now she's safe and un-harmed.

needhelp777 · Answer

Love is when u truly love someone and u will never give up on that person and u will do all what it takes to keep a relationship with that person

Lust is when u don't want a relationship. And u just want sex or it is when u want a relationship just for that person body

Lliam · Answer

They are completely different things. Lust, or rather, wild mad sex, is absolutely fantascic. And it's wonderful when it exists within a loving relationship. But love is much, much deeper. Love is when you know all of a persons quirks, annoying habits, faults, and frailties and you love them more than ever. Love requires total trust and commitment. Love grows. Lust is more like infatuation that almost inevitably fades over a period of a few months.

markscott · Answer

Love is driven by the desire to do what is best for the other person. Lust is driven by the desire to get in her pants, or to fill some emotional need of your own, at her expense. Love likes to see the other person succeed, to do well, and to have her reasonable needs and wants met. Lust likes to take control, to have the person.

Anonymous · Answer

For me personally, feelings develop over time and eventually love starts to grow, but only when I know them on a deeper level.

Lust is superficial. I can lust after a guy and feel a longing for him even though I don't know him very well.

ShadowofRegret · Answer

Love is selfless, while lust is selfish.

When you love someone, you care about them in a selfless way and are willing to sacrifice for that person.

While with lust, it is a selfish desire to sleep with that person without any real care for them as a person.

jojouzumaki · Answer

Love is when you learn how to respect, trust and forgive him not because he is your partner neither because he earns it... simply because he exist. both of your intention is to build something wonderful that grows each day.

Lust is temporary in which the person don't grow since he/she only want something temporary.

Anonymous · Answer

Lust is superficial. A lot of people confuse the two especially since it's easy to get infatuated with someone you lust after but infatuation also isn't love. It's the same as having a crush on someone and you can have a crush on someone you barely know, however you cannot love someone unless you know them pretty deeply and have seen all sides of them and you still think they're the most amazing person AND you still feel lust for them.

Moonchild714 · Answer

Lust is phsyical sex driven and Love is emotionally driven. With love you want more and put up with more. With lust once you've had enough sex you're done no longer need the BS that comes with that person...

robertKugler · Answer

Lust is party sex.. love is slightly more personal think of it like a tree main trunk is man and woman but the branch is secondary love for ones family.. other branches relatives close friends partners then love for pets and all encompassing love our world as a whole..

bimmy5000 · Answer

Lust is temporary, a drive to settle a fixated urge. Love on the other hand is lasting. Maybe not infinite in some cases but certainly ongoing, either for a person or a passion, despite the flaws that come with it.

GhettoGirl · Answer

"Love"- imprisons the mind, encapsulates the heart and is detrimentally afflicting to the soul and puts the course of ones life in the fragile hands of another mere human.

"Lust"- is exciting and sweaty wild, leaves one in breathless embrace but when your done you can simply wash those sheets.

MajesticTwelve · Answer

Pretty much the picture says it all. If you love them, you want them to stick around after sex, if you just lust after them... you're good with them leaving.

R_Cakes91 · Answer

If it’s love, the person will probably still around longer. If it’s lust, they will kick it after the attraction is dwindling. Hence, the reason for so many divorces.

Xyline789 · Answer

Lust is only sexual attraction and many can't see past it to realize it's not love. In a relationship, there should be sexual attraction so it gets confused for love. Love is when you would give your life for them if given the choice and be happy to do it.

ImagineSketchy · Answer

Love is a chemical process that compels a being to want to breed. Lust is more for the act rather than what follows it.

Love is more long term and actually caring about someone rather than just liking them for their body or the short term.

Skelmir_Nathair · Answer

Lust demands things from others.

Love does not. Love is, no matter what another person does. No matter what pain someone causes. Or even if you have to take harmful action against them. If you truly love someone. You love them no matter what.

sage969 · Answer

To Love you must know the person so well and know for sure that you do, not think that you do, you should understand, accept, appreciate all what you are inside out, you'd fight the world for the person you love, sacrifice, be nice, be modest, be honest, and most important is trust, nothing would be able to break you apart if you truly love each other, you'll always find a way together, lust is a physical attraction and satisfaction that you get because you are physically close to the person or feeling, imaging that you are

bbyboi · Answer

Lust is within love but lines cross when those are two for instant you have lust towards one that you love but when it becomes nothing there but sexual encounters tis all there is there now if you "make love" to said person you one time or maby two times a day it is a different story you love that person and are not there for sex says she refuses and you just respond with an ok and hold her now trying to turn her wits on not only technically rape but it also shoves a gab between you two and those couple will than start to drift into the lust angle

jcto21 · Answer

Well lust has to do with the person being selfish. It's about that person and that person only. Love is about the relation ship of respect. Think about it.

cadehendry · Answer

Lust and love are two different goals lust the goal is to convice you for e. g the most commom one is sex lust is using whatever it can to get what it wants love is to make the other persin happy loves goal is to make sure the other persom gets what he or she wants

SergeantSmoke · Answer

Actually, your pics send the message perfectly! Lust is focusing on the outside, finding areas that are pleasing to your own eyes. Whereas, Love is to the heart, personality, actions, the desire to satisfy, and not to take.

Stoner710 · Answer

Lust is when someone doesn’t know someone and wants to fuck them.

Love is when a relationship develops between two people over a short or long period of time and (hopefully) never be apart. There is also the benefits of sex but there the difference.

Girls what do you think?

lightbulb27 · Answer

I think Lust is a drive to be inside the other, love is emotional sense of having connection, well being and security making one open, vulnerable to and wanting to give.

englisc · Answer

Love is basically where you care for someone as a person, and you feel an emotional connection with them. Lust is where you just feel strong sexual attraction.

SixFootSexy · Answer

This is a woman's opinion on what love is. The American ideal for a woman is she could be a 300lbs gorilla, not shave her legs or practice any maintenance she doesn't want to do and somehow land a hunky/rich/vampire/bad boy in her bed and be solely committed to her.

Chipotle in bed is love though. If she doesn't share, kick her out and get you a partner that will.

VikingWarLord · Answer

Typically about 6 months, max 1 year.

Then you'll see how much 'love' was really there.

Romantic love is a biological trick to get you to propagate more progeny. This is why there are so many divorces and infidelity. You are a polyamorous creature by DEFAULT. But you've never been taught that, so you'll continue jumping from one relationship or marriage to the next, thinking you've not found the ONE (when there will never be just ONE perfect mate for you).

proteus912 · Answer

I think you lust for someone you can't have and you love someone you have formed a strong relationship with

leahzrc · Answer

Lust is mindless and hormonal motherfuckers while love is accepting a person in every single way no matter how many quirks or oddities that they have

GD360 · Answer

One is motivated by sex and the other is not. Lust is about yourself and what you can take, and love is about what you can give, motivated by their happiness

LowSelfSteem · Answer

You could lust of your partner if you haven't seen them in a long time. But Lust is sexual driven where love is a emotion.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Lust is: you just want to fuck someone without having a serious relationship with them. Love is: you want to fuck someone WITH a serious a relationship with them.

henju · Answer

Love is a strong emotion which creates, enhances and bonds a relation. It's usually selfless. However lust is the physical drive to satisfy ones sexual hunger. If it's not with love it tends to be destructive.

Renee93 · Answer

Love is wanting the greatest good for someone else.  Lust is desiring a person for your own personal pleasure. And not wanting their best.

straightshooger · Answer

Love is laughter and happiness, Lust is like that except it’s usually coming off as sexual.

EpicDweeb · Answer

... Why even answer when this picture literally describes the difference perfectly.

xkildy · Answer

Honestly it's about Age , maturity , and what you want.

FakeName123 · Answer

Rub one off. If you then still want to be with a girl despite being sexually satisfied, then you are on a good path.

Savage_Wisdom · Answer

Lust is I want to f*** you. Love is I want to be with you.

nerms123 · Answer

Love means you care about their happiness and lust means you just want their body

DizzyDesii · Answer

Love will marry the pussy. Lust will leave it soon after

Anonymous · Answer

Let's put it that way your bitch ex only wanted you for sex, money and to control you. That's lust. Your current girlfriend still pushes after you and you are a wreck, that's love.

MinaSuzy97 · Answer

Love can easily be seen in the eyes it maybe not be logical but it's true

Clinton321 · Answer

Just like well you see a girl that got a bid Boob's and well u get it u get u got lost🏃.. but love can't run away because he Love's what inside you not what outside

Kezzz · Answer

Lust is physically being attracted to someone and thinking about that someone in sexual ways. Love is more of an emotional attachment and desire to be with someone. Love includes in itself lust.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Love:Both of you can do stuff that lacks getting physically intimate. Lust:Your relationship revolves around sex and you don't enjoy doing other things together.

KacchanExplosion · Answer

Honestly you'll know the difference. You'll feel like you want to get to know them genuinely or if you wanna smash just think to yourself when you start thinking you have a "crush"

Dav1ss · Answer

You love someone forever you lust someone's temporary looks

Avicenna · Answer

With love, you want more than just sex, you want the emotional connection as well.

Daniel3035 · Answer

Lust is usually defined love that comes from appearance love is the same but dependent on both looks and personality.

ZeussLightningBolt · Answer

Mmmmmm Love is like you want her for companionship/affection/ you actually care about her Lust, you just wanna have sex with her

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