What would you do if your partner said they wanted to be in a polygamous relationship/marriage?

[ffionxjk]

A polygamous marriage/relationship means one partner has multiple other partners.

[Losalt]

One or *both* have multiple partners.
I'd be okay with that and I'd be happy that they brought it up.
But I'd want to make sure that they and I are in the same page and feel comfortable with whoever else we'd involve.

[ChrisBlue2120]

I'd tell her that I'm worth more than that.

I'm nobody's 2nd or 3rd choice, and if she doesn't value me, or think I'm enough, then we need to break up and pursue the kind of relationships that we really want.

[letuswaltzforthedead]

I'd encourage that. It works for me. I'd have someone more helping around the house, who I can talk to.

[Losalt]

You picture yourself as a stay at home mum then?

[letuswaltzforthedead]

@Losalt Maybe unless my partner was fine with taking care of the kids, it would still makes the house easier to take care of.

[Losalt]

@letuswaltzfoethedead
Agreed.
Not often that I see a girl your age thinking about being stay at home though.

[Losalt]

I'm curious about you.
May I pm?

[letuswaltzforthedead]

@Losalt raising a family is harder when you have both parents trying to focus on their careers completely. There are ways but it's still difficult so it's still worth considering the different paths, one being having a stay at home spouse (usually the mom). Is there anything you want to ask?

[Losalt]

I'm curious about what background you have that lead you to that viewpoint.
And I agree, full commitment to a career is difficult for two people raising a child.
In my country women are more likely to work part time or flexible hours as a result.

[letuswaltzforthedead]

@Losalt my mom was a stay at home mom and many of the women I had around me growing up were working moms. They all struggled but for different reasons, having both parents working caused a issues in the marriages. For them, it wasn't necessary to be working but they wanted to at the cost of their relationships so they could vacation more. There seems to be multiple polls and studies showing that DINK couples and having two working parents are becoming more common so I wanted to look in it. Still, I dont blame them, it seems most women are being encouraged to focus on work above all.

[Losalt]

@letuswaltzforthedead
They needed two adult incomes to make ends meet.
It's hard to do so without two.
In my country people have a better work-life balance then in the US, and goverment subsidized kindergartens.
But women often still prefer working part time to get more time for the family.
Another aspect is that the support for a stay at home lifestyle is kind of gone.
There isn't really anyone at home to talk with to maintain mental health in the US suburbs for a stay at home woman.

But I can definitely see pros and cons there.

[letuswaltzforthedead]

@Losalt that's true, I'm lucky that in my area, things werent the most expensive so people were mostly able to afford everything but it's TRUE that for a lot of families, it's harder on only one. I guess there are benefits and disadvantages to everything but family planning is necessary lol.

[Losalt]

That's definitely true.

[Losalt]

Ah, can't pm you apparently.

[letuswaltzforthedead]

@Losalt that's fine, I dont usually do pms but I've enjoyed over conversation here.

[AviatorTom]

In our relationship now, at our ages, that would be fine with me. When I was younger, married and raising a family, I would have been very hurt if my wife suggested that. Things change as you get older though.

[Stevepro68]

I would ask them what makes you really want to stay in our relationship? If the answer was good enough I may consider it. There would have to be much discussion.

[RobT312]

If it was a free for all with new people in and out then no. If it was something very structured like a throuple then I may consider if it worked for me too.

[FilmGuy93]

I'd only be down with that if it was a totally open relationship/marriage.

[Anonymous]

Advise them that that is a road that I am not traveling down and I find it conceptually disrespectful.

[h3ll02u]

I would feel I wasted my time. And I would be grateful of she telling that earlier

[Anonymous]

We have been in one for years and both of us couldn't be happier.

[Losalt]

I'm happy to hear that. :-)
I assume two females and a male?

[Anonymous]

even the bible says "one man and one woman"

I'm not religious, but, then i go out and see all these christians, acting like sluts

[Anonymous]

I would say that won't work for me and if it's a deal breaker then basically it's time to part ways.

[LazerBean]

I'd tell his parents and let them deal with it.

[Avicenna]

She’d be dumped immediately

[boggboss]

Woukd be the end if my relationship

[Kreneman]

Are relationship would end very quickly.

[dudeinohio]

Break up.