If you aren't sure what it is I wrote a myTake which explains it
https://www.girlsaskguys.com/sexual-behavior/a11552-a-sociosexually-unrestricted-view-of-sex-relationships
I'm guessing you have a very low sex drive that's why. We live in a time of equality, your wallet doesn't have to be empty the girl can pay for herself.
Yeah, it's true, my sex drive isn't really that high. It's not about the wallet being empty. It's about letting the only free time you have just disappear simply because you have to spend like (10) hours just so you can get the benefit of (15) minutes for yourself. That's nuts! I'd rather spend (30) minutes opening up tabs of decent porn, and then (15) minutes getting off, and then enjoying the remaining (9) hours of my free time.
I guess to each his own. I don't really like porn that much since I feel kind of weird watching other people do what I want to be doing.
That reminds me. "Guys go into the strip club and think they have all the power because their wallets be full. But it's the girls with all the power. They get on that pole and make all the guys hypnotized with how they keeps spinning around. That's how I feel when I watch a cake teasing me as it's spinning inside the glass display in the bakery. But at least I get to eat mine."
I think monogamy is influenced by religious values and even though people are becoming more secular they are still keeping most of what religion has taught them.
Actually, traditional relationships has been used as a social tool for many reasons. There is even a school of thought that believes and IMPLEMENTS monogamy as a way of social conformity. Once a man can be free of that suppression, he actually thinks for himself.
You can read up about it. Its not that men should be controlled by one vagina, its more like men and women have the freedom to choose their sexual path without any discrimination. So a person has multiple partners? what is bad about that? My girl has the security of knowing I will never run off with another girl or cheat on her, or even if something tragic happens, where she ends up in a wheelchair and can't give me sex, that I will not abandon her because she has my heart, and I have the freedom to get my recreational kinks through other avenues.
The best book on the subject (which has it all) is: The Ethical Slut, by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy.
I'm against giving MHO to 2 people but I think you deserved it since I would've given it to you had you commented earlier.
There are many types of open relationships and polyamorous ones too. It all depends on the rules you set. I'm glad you agree that it's unreasonable for a person not to be attracted to anyone else that is just one of the reasons I'm poly the other is easier access to sex.
Of course I'm all for her having other boyfriends I'm not selfish. As long as I have other girlfriends.
I've always wanted to have two girlfriends that would know about each other and get along. Maybe even be involved in a three-way.
See mine was a little different. I was with a guy and girl, but they held no romantic inclination towards each other. And I wouldn't want to be in a threesome with them. They were more so Subs.
Oh wow you're bisexual that's awesome.
If I could get 2 bisexual girls it would be the dream.
I'll tell you now, that is harder to get. Both of them to be romantic with you AND each other. It's not impossible, but definitely harder to find than my scenario is.
That's why I'm thinking of starting off monogamous and then once the relationship has become established to bring up my desire for other women. It will be easier to convince someone that already knows me than some random girl I just met.
IF they're open minded enough to try it. My guy wasn't originally, but he would do anything to make me happy and it was something I'd wanted for a very long time.
Is it because of jealousy?
Because different people can have different relationships. You may like one more emotionally while like another more physically.
Jealousy? No, I don't think so. Yes, I wouldn't want my boyfriend being with other chicks, but there's also no way in hell I would wanna be with other dudes. I just want a relationship that's between two people, that's the best way to be for me.
Can you explain why you believe this?
Because all I see is jealousy and insecurity.
A man will find other women attractive and to limit him to one woman is ridiculous in my opinion. A woman can also find other men attractive so why should she restrict herself to one man. Each person would offer something different in the relationship so each relationship would be special.
Seriously? That's just how I feel, as do most people. Are the majority of people in the world jealous and insecure? But whatever works for you buddy, good luck with finding a girl who's ok with that.
Thing is I'm trying to understand why people like yourself who are in the majority hold this view.
Never felt natural to me.
I wanted a polyamorous relationship before I even knew the word for it and girls have always given me weird looks.
I get that it's natural to have a man and a woman to be together in order to raise a child. That makes sense and is the reason I am against gay adoption. However my problem is with the fact that the other partner may not be horny at the same time. I am against rape and don't masturbate (yes I know it's very rare for someone not too) so the only other option is to find someone else that is also horny at that moment and have sex with them.
Relationship - a connection, association, or involvement.
Well friends with benefits is definitely a sexual relationship
Well there are hella lot more girls who would agree to be in a friends with benefits relatonship.
When he's in a relationship with me and tells me that he also has a fuck buddy as well? That is cheating like I said, I would dump his stupid ass.
What if he tells you when the two of you are about to start a relationship that he has a friend with benefits?
Would you have him end it?
Well he can only have sex with you. What if you're not horny, what if you're on your period, so many possibilities.
What if I'm not horny? Ok, he can make me horny then.
What if I'm on my period? I'm not against period sex.
@BreatheMe Other than pointless insults do you have at least one legitimate reason to disagree with me?
Oh I have many. I doubt it's worth even discussing with you.
The 'pointless insult' was directed at your responses to missnowhere.
@BreatheMe Than why don't you act like a civilized person and take part in the debate instead of attacking me?
@BreatheMe Thanks, at least someone else understands how stupid this guy sounds o_o
I give up, I don't think it's possible to get you to understand that by being monogamous you are restricting your boyfriend to only one pussy when he may want many and that making a woman horny is not as easy as you make it seem.
OMG... I can't even... I thought you were an okay dude before this, but my opinion has changed completely...
well let's agree to disagree then.
I like some of your other opinions it's just this one that I strongly disagree with.
What's your point?
It's not that I don't understand why people would be polyamorous, I see the point, I just wouldn't do it myself. You're the one who doesn't get monogamy.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Yes, exactly. Relationships involving more than 2 people aren't even relationships in my world, they are fake and almost always doomed to fail...
@love2run13 its basic biology and physcology. We are not physicaly built for it as I pointed out, but when you want something you generally create lies and cherry pick data in order to justify the behavior so that you can save face and indulge guilt free.
@love2run13 Also as I mentioned at the end of my take, men where expected to do all of that and sacrifice themselves for a woman if, and it frequently was historicly speaking, necessary. I imagine the response after all that to be told that there significant other isn't satisified with just them and wants to spend time with someon else, who most likely is not doing all of this, to be less then understanding.
It's not cheating. Cheating is behind the person's back while polyamoury is the consent of all those involved
Nothing wrong with being promiscuous for both men and women.
@love2run13 I hope this answers your question.
Well person A can have a special relationship with person C and a special relationship with person B.
Nah nah nah I agree with DeltaDanner, it gets WAY too unnecessarily complicated with more than 2 people... I need to focus on ONE person in a relationship and I don't want anyone else.
What about being with other women?
You must find someone other than your SO attractive.
Yes of course. If she wants MMF than she can find 2 dudes that will do it cuz I'm not into that.
OK I just wanted to make sure it wasn't all about you. But to answer your question, no, I would never like that kind of relationship. I feel it cheapens the relationship. The sex I have with my boyfriend is an expression of our love. Its a strengthening of our bond. And it's extremely satisfying. I don't need or want anyone else, and he feels the same way. But I hope you find what you are looking for if that's what makes you happy.
Thanks, I guess trying to convince a monogamous person to be ok with polyamoury is like getting a homosexual to become bisexual. It's possible but very difficult.
I honestly don't think a person that prefers a monogamous relationship and someone who prefers a polyamorous relationship would work out very well.
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