Would You Ever Consider Being In A Polygamous Relationship?

[Anonymous]

Why or why not? (Question inspired by Siren the TV drama series)

"I have considered this... And my short answer is... Yes."

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To clarify, I am currently in a monogamous relationship but I would be open to a polygamous relationship *IF* that's what my man wanted.

[Losalt]

Yes, I would very much like that some day.
I'm both willing to share a girl with others and to have more then one girl.
I'm 100% heterosexual though, so any relationships involving me would be V shaped, Z shaped or W shaped, or something like that.
I don't think that I'd be comfortable with a completely open relationship, so it would probably be a relationship based on polyfidelity.
Although maybe we could occasionally do things with others if everyone consents without introducing them to the relationship.
I'm not sure if I could handle more then 2 girls...
If I did I'd do 3 at the most that I'd be in a direct relationship with.
Although I can see myself being "roommate" with some more in a w shaped situation, where some other girls are technically in a relationship with another guy rather then me but we'd interact, and possibly be friends with benefits.
If another guy or a W rype situation was the case I'd only be able to deal with 2 girls myself, for sure, as I'd need to deal with the other guy and whoever else they where together with too.
It would be a *lot* of relationships to deal with...
(Me with girl 1, me with girl 2, girl 1 with me, girl 2 with me, their relationship with whoever else they're with, and their with that girl, and me with that other guy etc...)
I'm hoping that a W kind of configuration might be a little less demanding then one where everyone is directly connected, although I'm not holding my breath on that...

It's challenging...
And honestly emotionally painful at times.
You care about people.
And you just *can't* completely avoid jealousy.
All you can do is manage it and do your best to help everyone feel better.

I'm not sure if I'm ready for it though.
I've shared someone before.
But maybe it would help if all of us have overcome our mental issues?
I still got some demons I need to wrestle with myself...

I don't know...
It's just...
Challenging...

[Asker]

I enjoyed reading your thoughts on this topic 💭

[Losalt]

@Secret6620
Thank you.
Poly is difficult.
There's no doubt about that.
There's advantages of course, but also disadvantages.
It requires a lot more effort then a regular relationship.
But you also have people available to help you.
Someone who might mediate.
Someone who can step in when the work is just overwhelming.
Someone to turn to when you've been hurt by another.
And you don't have to either make someone you love choose between people *they* love, turning down one, or giving up on someone *you* love just because your partner can't handle sharing you.
On the whole I think that it's worth it for me.

But only up to a point.
If you involve too many people you just can't keep up.
And it can be overwhelming...

[mstbooblover]

Polygamous means many women. Although being a bit suspicious, but assuming the girls really invite and want me, I'd probably give such a relation a go as long as this can last. That's also the only way to know for sure whether this would work for me or not. I guess such a relation to be interesting if the girls also like to play with each other, and the maximum number of ladies not being higher than three. I can imagine the possibilities, among which the pleasure of watching each other having fun.

[Asker]

It could mean many men or women.

[mstbooblover]

Not really (depends of your idea of course), but according the Webster dictionary:
- Polygamy: the possession of more than one wife at the same time.
- Polyandry: the possession by a woman, of more than one huysband at the same time, opposed to monoandry.
But to complete my answer if you meant otherwise: some women at the same time would be worth for me to give it a go, but in no case with another man, safe in case of a foursome with both men being busy each with one woman, which is not really polygamy ;0)

[HippieVeganJewslim]

@mstbooblover The Greek root poly means many.
Gamy means spouse, so polygamy actually means many spouses, whatever their genders be.
Andros means man, so you’re right about what polyandry is.
Many wives is called polygyny, as the root gyna means woman.

[mstbooblover]

@HippieVeganJewslim Thank you for the information about "gamy". I understand what you mean, but I still guess that when the word polygamy was created, no one thought of "any" gender, and therefor the Webster's definition. Sure, customs change... PS: I like that word "polygyny" ;0)

[Anonymous]

Yes, actually I have a secret dream which is to have several boyfriends… the other way around I’m not sure I would like it, but if it’s all in the open and everyone knows what’s going on I could consider it, perhaps as a crazy little experiment, you only live once 🤪

[Losalt]

You should look into guys willing to consider that.
There's a poly community on FetLife.

[RiseofArtemis]

You know what happens usually when several men are with one woman? They start to fight each other. Its not a good idea to leech of several men as you could end up with none.

[Opinion Owner]

@RiseofArtemis I know it’s not a good idea 😂

[Losalt]

@RiseofArtemis
If they're the type that would do that they're probably not good partners to begin with.
Polyamory works best with emotionally mature people that's good at communicating their issues, listening and finding solutions.
And for the record, *I* didn't fight the other guy when *I* shared my loved one.

[Opinion Owner]

@Losalt ohh interesting…!

[Idkwtfimdoing96]

I'm really possessive and protective of the ones I care about, like etc so nah. I don't like sharing. I'm a "you're mine" type and I get jealous lmao

[Asker]

I'm possessive too! I know exactly what you mean

[SolitarySolace]

Hell no. If anything I’d prefer to stay single like I currently am. I don’t believe those who are in a poly relationship truly love their actual partner. If they feel the need to fuck, make out with, watch the sunset with another individual, their actual partner means NOTHING to them. Even if he or she agrees and says it’s fine for their partner to do without them. Doesn’t change the fact that they don’t truly love each other. They’re making memories with someone who isn’t you. True love, at least from what I would want it to be if it were to even exist, is and must be between no more than two loyal individuals. Unconditional. Allowing your partner to be with another person doesn’t express your love for them. It allows them to express their selfishness. Their love for someone who isn’t you. I honestly feel for those who are allowing their partners to cheat on them. It isn’t making your relationship any better. No matter how badly you wish it were.

[byrdman89]

I would try it - every "type" of relationship has upsides and downsides and just like in any relationship honesty trust love commitment etc are what's important if the people involved are happy then it's wonderful - it's strange but to me it seems more "natural" for a man to be committed to one woman and for a woman to have multiple men or lovers if she desires

[Asker]

Thank you for taking the time to explain your answer and share some of the things you're comfortable with.

Very helpful feedback!

[Asker]

Being open minded is a great trait to have.

[byrdman89]

Thank you! Sometimes people don't understand it and get the wrong ideas

[Asker]

So true! They make bad assumptions about the lifestyle and never consider trying it out.

[RavVid]

My short answer is NO. While it appears to be an attractive concept to have multiple girls as a guy I am pretty sure it would turn out the sisterhood would gang up on me, do sexy things to tease me and collectively refuse me sex. It would be like one girl on steroids... in a bad way. And girls synchronize their periods for some reason.

[nonratracereality]

No because most people cannot accept the likelihood that humans can be responsible but unfortunately integrity, maturity and responsibility come into play and if you are not real the thought of seeing more than one how would you handle that? If you are not selfish and share there's hope if not don't try it you'll suffer high consequences.

[IAteTwoFullHams]

I am, in fact, in a polyamorous relationship. My wife and partner and I own a house together, and my partner and I share a girlfriend.

It works. It's pretty good.

[Asker]

That's nice! I'm glad it's working out for you all. Sounds like everyone is happy and content.

[Roseboy]

it depends

I have seen some poly relationships where they genuinely seem nice - my issue is i never really love two people at the same time

but then there are some freakish ones where it's like one person is collecting people and i dont like those at all

[Roseboy]

but like, just in general it's not for me
i would only consider the first one is what i mean

[DJaQueef]

I'm not Mormon so no. It's against the law where I live. I don't want to do any time. Do you have any clue what they do to people who pull reverse kangas in jail where I live?

[Asker]

This solely a Mormon thing.

[DJaQueef]

I've read about Mormons in Utah and other places who have more than one wife. It's against the law in most states. Just dating someone? There are no laws against that. I just couldn't be in a relationship like that.

[Asker]

Oh okay! Sorry that was a typo. I meant that is *isn't* solely a Mormon thing. But it's definitely illegal most places.

[Asker]

I think polyamorous may be more popular

[Anonymous]

I've argued this before. No. The body can be shared but not the heart. People argue that you can love five kids. Yes, but that's not romantic love. You can have a soulmate and other lovers, but just one soulmate.

I watched a YouTube video. The woman had two live-in boyfriends. It was all open and groovy. But then one boyfriend wanted to go on a date with another woman. That dog didn't hunt. She was pissed off.

[AimeeKyle]

I have thought about it but don’t think it would be for me. I wouldn’t like my significant other having sex with other (especially if I am not there and involved in the action). I could potentially share her with another guy or girl from time to time MMF or MFF but would still always want to be involved (I wouldn’t be a good bystander).

[Sarahplus2]

No. I don't like those and I don't share very well.

[Asker]

I don't do well with sharing either lol

[Crafteroon]

I guess it could be possible, but finding myself in a situation where we all felt the same with no one ever feeling like a third wheel just seems so unlikely.

[Bklynbadboy12]

First off I love that show and second I don't play well with others I'm not good at sharing my alpha side won't let me I'll just end up hogging her all to myself

[Asker]

How cool! It's definitely interesting

[Massageman]

I've considered it - for about half-a-second.

[Asker]

Ahahaha 😂

[24jack]

I would, depending on how the girls get along. But a bit hypocrisy cause I don't want the girls to have a relationship with other guys

[Asker]

That's very common! Most guys wouldn't want another male in the picture.

[24jack]

True

[pastuser]

would i be in a polygamous relationship it all depends if i met two women who i loved & could not live without.

what got you into polygamous relationship

[Asker]

I never said I was in one.

[pastuser]

@Secret6620 my bad i meant what would get you into one

happy Friday

[pastuser]

@Secret6620 your man is very lucky to have you

[Straight2thepoint]

That's why infections and diseases are rampid. But do you booboo.

[Asker]

Polyamorous or Polygamous relationships are *not* the reason why STDs are spreading.

Unprotected intercourse with infected partners is how diseases spread. Your comment made me giggle

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Secret6620 is right. We should protect from the viruses by staying healthy, or eating healthy foods, like fruits.

[neoagent1]

Proooooooooooobably not because humans get jealous way too easily.

[Asker]

So true! And jealousy can make people do *really* bad things.

[ArtemisSilver]

Polyamorous yes, polygamous no, because that's illegal pretty much everywhere because? reasons.

If you want to marry a two 2D girl or a car though, apparently that's okay.

[DevinAM]

I have considered it but I'm not comfortable with any partner of mine having other male partners.

I'll likely be sticking to monogamy.

[Asker]

That's sweet! Completely understandable

[2Wheels]

I could never. Just the thought of sharing my man makes me feel so disturbed.