Would you ever consider a polygamous relationship? Why or why not?

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honesty321 · Accepted Answer

My experience is that one woman one man is not boring at all as society wants to paint it.
But would it be allowed by it self if a man would want many woman?

All I know that man say that woman are jealous and they do not accept the opinion of woman and man will choose therefor only sudden woman.

So this subject is not as innocent as it looks.

In a way one evil man is not good for a woman no matter how many woman a man wants since an evil man will seek evil woman.

But what if a good man has many good woman. Then probably the evil man would be jealous since they mirror themselves.

So man will make commercials about how woman must be.

This mean there will be many woman rejected and hated. And I do not like that thought that man are cruel to woman at all.

There will be anyway end up woman being alone without protection. And actually we allready live in such world.

People to live alone is not good.

But woman to live alone is even worser then man to live alone.

Woman by nature need protection and many get no protection because we live in a evil manipulating world and woman are attacked who are alone without no doubt since people know they are vulnarable in our society. So I would like to see some changes when it comes to this that it stops that woman live in a vulnarble situation so they are easy to be manipulated. If woman reject man they are not save in our society. Our society is good to show how man are not they have freedom. But it has proven man do not mind to see woman suffering.
So eventually we can talk about the live of a woman alone as a non is mostly the best in a monastry where are no man so she is save and taken care of anyway without being manipulated and threathened.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Ok, so the entire range of ethical non-monogamy is generally referred to as polyamory. It includes many relationship styles that are as nuanced as the people who engage in them. Polygamy is but one type of polyamory. Not all polyamorous people marry. Not all polyamorous people marry all their partners. Not all polyamorous people are heterosexual. Many polyamorous relationships include the possible of both more than one man AND more than one woman.

I have a husband, and I have two long term lovers, who all choose not to have other lovers besides me. I have, in the time I have been with my husband, now 18 years, had several long term relationships with men and women, some of whom also had other relationships at the time.

What I insist upon is that everyone be ethically non-monogamous, not cheaters, and we are fastidious about safe sex. Nor do I engage in casual encounters.

This works for my life. It has its ups and downs. I can't imagine ever being monogamous again, or what that would even look like if I did choose it.

I believe that this is not for everyone. Probably not for many people. Monogamy is neither worse nor better a choice or way of being - just different. I encourage people to keep an open mind to people who do not live as they do, but to conduct themselves in keeping with their own values.

How you want your adult relationships to be is something you should choose for yourself - you do not have to simply accept what everyone else is doing.

ghostqueen · Accepted Answer

Nope. I think when I was younger I was curious about what polygamy might be like, but I'm all grown up now and all curiosity has left my mind. Having multiples husbands sounds interesting but I can barely jungle having multiples crushes. Either way you go about it, it's all too much work in my opinion. Maintaining friendships and a relationship at the same time is a challenge for most, why would have multiples spouses be any easier? I prefer to stick with one or none personally.

Of course men are all for having a go with multiple wives. Very few could handle the situation if the roles were reversed. Big shocker.

YepItsMeAgain · Accepted Answer

I'm a woman and I would possibly MAYBE be able to consider polyandry, with the condition of everyone being treated with equal love and respect and no one being favorized. However, although I can't be sure since I've never tried polyandry, I think a monogamous relationship is still my preference.

When it comes to the jealousy factor, I know it could er difficult for me to be in a polygynous relationship for that reason and because (since I consider myself to be heterosexual) I could never simultaneously date the other women so they would risk becoming rivals if we didn't befriend each other.

784456 · Accepted Answer

Definitely there are girls as well as guys that aren't satisfied by only one partner. And I'm NOT referring to SEX here. I had an almost nutty girlfriend that definitely needed at least two people to tell her to stop bitching, lol.

Other than that, there is also the added bonus of 3 people working together for the same goal. Think of it like this: when you're alone, it's somehow difficult to achieve something, being it material or not. When you have a partner, it's easier: splitting the rent, steady sex, help at daily chores... And generalising, adding a third person would increase the comfort level with 50%, lol.

Now add up sexual benefits as well and it could probably mean it's the relationship of the future, lol!

I also have a job that usually requires me to spend too much time away from home and having a "certified lover" to care after my partner/wife would actually benefit me as well.

So in my oppinion, a male-female-male or female-male-female relationship can be fully functional. Also I'd be more relaxed as I would know who she's having sex with.

I can see this happening.

I've also been in FMF threesomes and wow! That was great! But I can also share, I don't have to be the star of the relationship, it's ok either way. ;)

I wouldn't want to touch other guys in a MFM threesome, though... 😒 sex would be more difficult for me if she would want both of us in the same time... But we can both work her out 2-3 feet away from each other, so yeah, it can be done!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I would opt for monogamy for multiple reasons, one of them is I treasure my companionship and the exclusivity of her intimacy towards me and signifiesy
My importance and encourages me to reciprocate at all costs. I can consider polygyny only if I fully comprehend the sincerity of the 3rd party and if my own partner finds it acceptable. But even then I am not fully welcoming of the idea because I know that if she wanted polyandry I would not accept it under any circumstance

OlderAndWiser · Answer

The results show that, of those who would consider a polygamous relationship, women favor relationships between one woman and multiple men while men favor relationships between one man and multiple women. This suggests that most people of each gender have the same motivation; they do not want to be competing with other members of the same gender for the attention of their partner. Obviously, in polygamous relationships, one gender is not getting what they truly want, because they are competing with same gender partners. The ideal way to resolve that conflict for both partners is to agree to a monogamous relationship.

pervertedjester · Answer

No, because it's hard enough pleasing one woman.

ksoma · Answer

"I find it interesting that a majority of men would consider polygyny but not polyandry. Why? Would you be jealous if a woman divided her love between you and another man? Is it selfishness?"

I was gonna go into my answer anyways, so I may as well answer your follow up question with it.
If the opportunity arose (and I don't expect it ever will, and I expect monogamy, and I'm OK with that), my idea poly relationship would be me and two women.
But it isn't a mini harem type setup I imagine. I imagine a relationship that is like a perfect triangle.

I have two women, I am in love with both. Both women have me and each other, and are in love with both. It wouldn't be poly in that I would have two girlfriends I was in love with, separate from each other. The idea is they are as in love with each other as they are with me, and as I am to both.
And that is why polyandry is out. The only poly relationship I would want is one where all the people involved all love each other, and... I'm straight. I would not... could not, fall in love with another guy. It is inconceivable to imagine her loving the two of us, and me and him loving each other as much as her.
It isn't that I oppose such a relationship for those who want to do it that way, it is that such a relationship would never work for me.

I do not think it is selfish because in the polygyny version I would want (and only one I would settle for. It must all be mutual), everyone is in love. In Polyandry, he and I would merely be sharing her.

r4ngeF · Answer

I was always a man for 1 woman, but I wouldn't mind if my woman want to sleep with others, just because I am aware of humans' sexual urges, and I dont think i own any kind of body, regardless of the fact she's either my "wife" or "g/f".
As long as she won't put our kids aside, and will do the house/financial commitments she's obligated to, Im all good.
Got no ego to wave with.

P. S
Eventually all women come back to the one they love, and experience says that the more freedon you give them, and the more tolerance and understanding there is between us, the more they would want to come back.
Sex with a man that you've just met, will never be as satisfying from a man that truly loves you and your body (both physically and emotionally).
Although some women might enjoy the "thrill" of having sex with a stranger, or someone they have a crush on, but that will never last, thus causing them to come back to you every single time, and appreciate you more.
This is "Sexual Wisdom" in my opinion.

TheOneAndOnlySimon · Answer

I feel like the best part of a monogamous relationship is knowing that there is one single person that shines above all others and you can put everything you have into that person. I feel like when you start adding more people, there's less of that going around. It's like if you dropped a droplet of food coloring into a glass of water. It'll be a pretty shade of blue until you start adding more and more cups of water, and then the color fades. I'm sure there are people out there that feel they can give to everyone equally but I'm not one of them

Mocktinman · Answer

I am Poly, I don't like the terms used. It's Polyamorous... But whatever. Poly isn't like an open relationship, and it's not about "sharring", it's more then that! For example: This girlfriend is great at sex and bringing out your confident side!
But this girl makes you feel special and like a good person!
While the 3rd girl is clingy and romantic, making you feel lucky.

Being poly is simply accepting people for their strengths and embracing them! If your having a bad day... Go out with the girl that counters that mood. Someone who is poly is ALWAYS happy! That is a fact

Fatboy98 · Answer

No. Women are like wolves. It would only be a matter of time before they are literally at each other throats. A polygamous relationship is love disaster waiting to happen. No man can love a woman without hurting or making the other jealous. Not only that, I don't think a woman would want to share the same man twice with another woman. It's also impossible. For example, let's say a man was in a polygamous relationship with 4 girls in a big house. He all got girls pregnant in a orgy, and he got to take responsibilities for it. Since the superpower of multiplying isn't real, that man is going to have hell to pay with those women. No body is should be in a polygamous relationship unless a man meet a conjoined woman. That is only way a polygamous relationship could every happen.

rpgkira · Answer

I've been in polygamy relationships before. Both with another guy and a girl and with two girls.

I don't know about the other comments here but I had no problem pleasing both my partners sex wise.

As long as everybody is upfront about what's going on in their lives it makes for very fantastic lifestyle.

Sharing a girl with another man was interesting but the other man became my best friend. She loved us both but we all went our own way eventually.

With two girls sharing me was interesting. They didn't want to have sex together but they didn't mind sharing me. Sometimes it was like walking on eggshells when jealousy will kick in. But we all had so much fun together again we were all best friends. I had no problems keeping up with both of them. Still it felt like a lot of responsibility though but we made it work.

MissMurphy · Answer

I don't consider it particularly likely, but I wouldn't point blank rule out a group of either composition.

Relationships are hard enough with just two people to keep track of, but who know? I find it credible that a group could just click and work out. I'm not particularly possessive, I appreciate a certain degree of mutual independence, so that part wouldn't be a problem at least.

That said, I'd want all parties to be involved with each other, not just sharing one member of the group. No sister-wives situation for me, if I'm involved in a polygamous relationship I expect to be in love and in bed with all contributing parties.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

I recently started talking to a girl who we decided to try an open relationship where we both can have sex with who we want as long as we tell the other person.

Now I wouldn't be into something like this with most girls. I think being able to do it really depends on both people's views on sex. And if their not a very specific type of person, then it's not gonna work out. We're both very horny freaks and don't really get attached to someone because of sex. We just don't feel the correlation so it makes sense for us.

To have it go one way just doesn't feel right for me. It's been offered to me but I wouldn't do it.

5x9BOB · Answer

The Mormons in America couple hundred years ago practiced polygamy. I saw a documentary on some that still practice it though it is illegal as far as law goes. The woman's reasoning what's that having a few women around made it easier for taking care of the necessary chores, child care, support, and companionship. They had said that their husband was not allowed to marry someone if they all didn't approve, and they all had their particular days of the week that they would spend with the husband. It allowed for widows to remarry and become part of a family where as first time men were usually pretty young.

BeeryNice · Answer

Relationships of the heart are so complicated and individual relationships are so unique. It's impossible to expect everything from one person.

I'm naturally polyamorous. I can't just quieten my heart for one person. There are times in every relationship when the desire to run to another pair of arms is overwhelming and what's wrong with finding sanctuary with someone else when your hurting with someone else?

Right now I get a lot of my emotional needs met by a friend who lives far away, but he's always there to talk to. Maybe one day we'll be together, who knows. But not for many years. Do I sit around loving him and wait or do I take those feelings along for a ride while I meet other people?

Some people are great for a cuddle and not much else, but that cuddle is everything in the moment. What's wrong with that?

The problem is, we're not honest with ourselves and our partners. We don't admit to what we have or what we're doing. And that is ultimately what causes pain.

SweedyPie · Answer

Nope. I give my all in relationships. Having to split my attention equally and always ensure that I am loving each partner equally siuch that neither gets jealous is too much juggling for me. I'm the one partner type girl, that I can give all of my unconditional love too and focus on being the best partner I can to them. Having two partners sounds way too tiring regardless of which type it is. Sure we can have a threesome every now and again but that would be both of us temporarily allowing a third person in and then getting back to the two of us. That's the way I like it.

FakeName123 · Answer

"I find it interesting that a majority of men would consider polygyny but not polyandry. Why? Would you be jealous if a woman divided her love between you and another man? Is it selfishness?"

Because that's how biology works. You have only half as much male as you have female ancestors in your bloodline. That essentially means that half the men failed to procreate. The lower half. On the other hand it also means that every man who did procreate did on average impregnate TWO women.

Secondly it's simply difficult to figure out who is the dad in case she gets pregnant. Like what the heck. Shit is gonna be a huge pain in the ass.

Personally I think sharing isn't always caring. While biologically and on a purely physical drive I can understand having multiple women, but on an emotional basis of having a deep connection I really have no interest in that.

Heclingybad · Answer

Really hate, can’t stand, and is driven into a rage with the idea of sharing the one I love with anyone. But when those days come around that she’s just exhausted and just tired of me sucking her pussy dry and screwing her brains out and I’m still so horny it feels like I’m dying and I’m on site like these to atlest ease my hurt and try to get some kind of arousal or maybe something to just make me feel good sexually and stumble on questions like these the thought comes to mind. All I can say is conflicted, that’s how I feel about that thing that you call it it’s not fair it’s only supposed to be a man to a woman but like I stated above, is really frustrating.

Anonymous · Answer

One woman and multiple men? Yes, I would do that, providing the extra men were bisexual. I wouldn't want straight men who were only interested in her or gay men who were only interested in me. All parties would have to be sexually compatible with all other parties. Since, with men, I am sexually submissive, the guy or guys would have to be sexually dominant.

I think the perfect situation would be two sexually dominant men, one sexually submissive man, and one woman. Even numbers are better than odd numbers. No one is left sitting on the sidelines, just watching.

Anonymous · Answer

These days most people aren't even monogomous in committed relationships. Cheating is glorified all over social media. Having a side piece is the new norm. So relationships with multiple partners actually makes sense due to the trends of today. And, it's most likely safer than flat out cheating. And to answer your question about why exactly more men are open to relationships with multiple women, it's for the same reason more women are open to the idea of multiple men in a relationship. Some say it's selfish, but at the end of the day men aren't any more selfish than women can be if that's what you are implying. Women cheat just as often as men, lie just as often, and play just as many games as the worst of us. So its fair to say that there are simply some selfish people, not solely selfish men. While u didn't say that specifically, I often find it necessary to explain this because men seem to get a bad rap for doing the same things women do just as often.

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

Never because my girlfriend is more than enough for me.
What happens if two people want to surprise you by taking you somewhere but both things are on the same day at the same time or will only be able to make one of them? What if both bought two concert tickets to the same concert just for you and them to go to? What if one of the guys gets the woman pregnant or the woman gets pregnant by one of the guys? Just a few things to think about.
Either you are into a polygamous relationship or you are not.

Fitness-Fanatic · Answer

No. I prefer to be in a fully committed relationship with one guy. I'm a one-man-women. And I ain't sharing him lol

I believe polygamy relationships breed jealousy. It's not a healthy relationship if a person is sharing all their love, affection and attention between two or more than one partner. It's an unhealthy and weird arrangement in my opinion.

RussianGal17 · Answer

It would depend where I was in my life. Is their ever a future for three people in a relationship? I feel like jealousy often can ruin what started off as fun. I would be open to polygyny and polyandry, however I worry that both would cause extreme strain on relationships where communication is weak.
Short answer- it depends on the people

Shaorie · Answer

Would never enter one. I am with people for a long term mongomous relationship and would never date someone who was not looking for the same.

As for the why, I wouldn't want to share myself or my partner with other people. For me intimacy is a sacred bond that I can't have multiple instances.

PinkMichae · Answer

I'd have to say no. My man and I are open but I have to be the number one woman in his life. Having occasional couples is fine because at the end of the day we love only each other. I couldn't have multiple husbands either. I just don't have anything left to give to another man emotionally or physically. Now sexually with my mans permission is a different question.😉

Quintessence · Answer

Hah! I can barely find ONE person whom I can tolerate for extended periods of time, let alone SEVERAL people at that level of intimacy.
I need my alone time. I think I'd start struggling with social anxiety if I had to manage more than one relationship.
What's more is that I have a very low sex drive, so neither I nor my hypothetical partners would benefit from this kind of arrangement.

Onlythisone · Answer

Too much drama and I mean even if you are only counting sex and not love, women can orgasm much more than men and he only has one unit so what would even be the point of multiple women... However I would be open to a cook/housekeeper that wants free rent because I do not have enough time for life. But seriously what is the point of being in a relationship at all if they aren't there for you.

Markasaurous · Answer

Its not selfishness it is just common sense, that is just wrong bro, we all know that dude who wants two girls or that girl who wants two guys isn't there for the "Personality" aspect I should say. They are there for that McDouble Meat Special if you ask me

dandiecandie · Answer

No because i dont think i can love someone who loves someone else. It will only hurt me and i could never ever come close to them anymore. I consider it like cheating or women competing for one guy. Its like the bachelor or bachelorrette but for a while life time.

sawno · Answer

I wouldn't ever want to be in a polygamous relationship, that said i don't mind including a second girl as a regular sex partner if my girlfriend was a bisexual and we are both attracted to her. But in the end i want it to be something between me and her since i don't think ill be very good nor happy when i have to devide my love between the two.

mattLB1993 · Answer

The three of you will never be equal partners as each people will feel differently about each other. I also don't like the idea of having to deal with two people at the same time. Relationships are hard enough 1 to 1. You'll only make your life harder by adding another person

Tomic · Answer

I don't know. Polyandry i wouldn't consider, because I know there is a lot of better man than me, so... If I'm not enough, she should at least try to find someone better.
Polygamy I wouldn't like as well, but is kinda different, because it's not about how you are, is about your gender.
Only if it's really necessary to her to have it, but still...
I would consider, don't know if I would accept it, though.

ohshee · Answer

How about you.. would you.. if I did do it all the women would have to get along very very well I would probably never have a threesome just for the fact that I only want to please one woman at a time and having two women at the same time it seems like one of them is always trying to get it at the same time and the moment you start pleasing one woman the other one wants to jump in and it kind of ruins everything but if all circumstances her perfect I might.

trinityrenee17 · Answer

I would consider it if I really cared about the person and thought they were capable of giving me enough love and affection without me being jealous. However, I need a lot of attention in a relationship, as do most girls, and I wouldn’t like having to share time with other women.

XanderX · Answer

I woundn't mind. I mean some girls that don't want commitments would let you know straight up whay they want

They place the rules and you decide, is her way or the alone way. So you would end up in a circle of two guys and a girl in which everyone knows what is going on but you have to be ok or get out.

pickyourcliche · Answer

It seems a natural sort of thing to me, different people bring different things to a relationships. I have almost zero sex drive, but if you want someone to put the chill in netflix and chill, I'm your guy. I had an ex cheat on me over that. I might pursue such a thing but I'm not secure enough for it (for various reasons) but I do think it's perfectly fine for people to do such a thing.

theharlequin · Answer

I would consider polygyny in various circumstances that are not likely to occur where I live. I'd be more inclined to concubinage.

As far as why I prefer polygyny in favor of polyandry, polygyny is the natural order in the world of polygamy. Everything from apes to livestock like horses, chickens, and cattle follow that order - one 'alpha' male who aggressively protects his herd of females.

Schiønning · Answer

Well since i'ved been in a 12 year relationship and after that a 4 year relationship. Being faithfull and loyal in both. I felt lonely and constricted/leashed/strangled in both relationship. Which made me consider a polygamous relationship is the way for me to go. But I got zero clue to in how to actually start doing that.

Kreneman · Answer

I Love women and having multiple women is pretty much most men fantasy but at the same time that is purely a sexual lust relationship which can hurt women (even though the women agree) as well as men. I am 100% monogamous because that is where positive balance exist.

Nik1hil · Answer

This picture is like a dream i would like to live in  2 girl  they both has physical structure perfection that i absolutely like,  and their appearance and the way they have arms on him and his arms on their thighs.  i am already so Much wet and turned on..

Torex · Answer

I only want one woman to love and show my affections, I don't want to split my affections with another woman.
And I don't want to share her romantic love with anyone else. But I regardless of that I don't want to be that over bearing boyfriend/husband.

It might be possible to sway my opinion on the matter so I said other. But I am leaning towards no.

Synttacks · Answer

Im not sure how I feel about the fact that more men voted polygyny and more women voted polyandry than their respective genders voted for both. Either way I would consider it if the person I was with was on board and very much so wanted it but I'm not sure what the answer would be as of right now.

SnapTsch · Answer

I wouldn't want to share my partner ever with anyone, nor would I want her to see her having her partner being shared.

Juxtapose · Answer

Well I am bisexual for the most part and if I like everyone involved in the relationship and we all share equally then I don't see the harm in trying it.

Having a trap (convincing crossdresser that still identifies as male) and a woman would be a dream.

But NO FAVORITES. I still want to be number one but I can fit room in that spot so long as the other person is reasonable.

Trumpster666 · Answer

Yes. But I imagine it's difficult finding a woman willing to be a 2nd or 3rd wife as it is to find a 1st wife willing to accept me marrying other women.

soleil2666 · Answer

They sound interesting as concept, though I'm not sure it would be that interesting in practice.
What I do believe in is a sort of liberal view on this like French used to have (maybe they still do). Where I am now though, in Sydney, both women and men seem thoroughly incapable of an ordinary relationship, let alone something more complex, they'd go completely nuts from that (very aggressive people with no empathy).

10dsw · Answer

Polygamous as in marrying them? Nope. But the more I age and the more options I have, the more I realize I don't want to settle for just one person. I'd rather have multiple not-so-serious partners

PrinceNeo · Answer

I've done both and neither one is really my cup of tea it's fine for fucking cuz to be honest who doesn't love threesomes but when it comes to having personal closeness it's hard with two people I got some other people are better at it than me but hey I only need one person

Galian84 · Answer

I don't know, I can be a jealous partner. I also have a hard time splitting my love between more than one guy. I had a friend who was openly polyamorous though. Seems like you need a certain kind of personality to be able to pull it off

vishna · Answer

At this point, no.
I think relationships with 1 person are hard enough.
For me, at this point I could only have a relationship with multiples if I didn't see either as super long term (bc I want a family and 1 partner in the end)

Bluemax · Answer

No, I absolutely positively under no circumstances whatsoever would even consider loving/having sex with/being affectionate with more than one woman.

DinaM · Answer

Welll... one should never say never, though I don't see any situation in which I would end up in a polygamous relationship... I haven't even been in a threesome.

lovelyhoneybones · Answer

I would not. I firmly believe that love works the best when it's between two people and two people only.

CubsterShura · Answer

I would never 'consider' a polygyny, but yes, if my future husband wants another wife, he can have it as long as the woman isn't a bitch lol.

tickitytaco · Answer

I think I would only attempt a poly physical relationship. I think someone is gonna get jealous at some point in time. Claiming they aren't getting as much attention as the other. If it was only physical and were able to keep the emotions out of it would be the only way I see it working for me.

ThisDudeHere · Answer

Absolutely not for either. I don't ever intend to share or be shared. I would consider a threesome with my woman and another woman, but nothing longterm.

Mexicoman101 · Answer

Fuck no. A. I. D. S. exists! Not to mention, what if the libidos don't link up? What if you get voted off of the islans. Fr though, I'd never do it, that seems like the move a desperate man would make.

BlueNomad · Answer

I feel like I'd rather have an mutually open relationship than a one sided harem, provided the other person was committed to safe sex and willing to get regular tests.

Cammy137 · Answer

Sure, I could get behind a relationship where multiple men love multiple women and vice versa. Im in a monogamous relationship now though and i couldn't be happier

babygloss · Answer

I couldn’t I’m too much of a jealous person to have to share my man, but I don't know actually if I fell inlove with the women as well maybe I would. For the most part though I don’t think I will.

ladsin · Answer

No, I wouldn't. I'm too jealous/ want my partner to be just with me. I have quite a few friends in poly-relationships though, and I've only seen one that has worked well thus far.

cth96190 · Answer

Hell no!
The women would compete and fight to determine who was the alpha female. They would become super bitches.
Also, their menstrual cycles would synchronise and they would all get PMT on the same day.
Worse, with every woman comes her mother. 😱

Curiousbynature31 · Answer

These results aren’t surprising. It’s a rare find to find a guy who wouldn’t use any excuse possible to sleep with multiple women at a time with no consequences.

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