My experience is that one woman one man is not boring at all as society wants to paint it.
But would it be allowed by it self if a man would want many woman?
All I know that man say that woman are jealous and they do not accept the opinion of woman and man will choose therefor only sudden woman.
So this subject is not as innocent as it looks.
In a way one evil man is not good for a woman no matter how many woman a man wants since an evil man will seek evil woman.
But what if a good man has many good woman. Then probably the evil man would be jealous since they mirror themselves.
So man will make commercials about how woman must be.
This mean there will be many woman rejected and hated. And I do not like that thought that man are cruel to woman at all.
There will be anyway end up woman being alone without protection. And actually we allready live in such world.
People to live alone is not good.
But woman to live alone is even worser then man to live alone.
Woman by nature need protection and many get no protection because we live in a evil manipulating world and woman are attacked who are alone without no doubt since people know they are vulnarable in our society. So I would like to see some changes when it comes to this that it stops that woman live in a vulnarble situation so they are easy to be manipulated. If woman reject man they are not save in our society. Our society is good to show how man are not they have freedom. But it has proven man do not mind to see woman suffering.
So eventually we can talk about the live of a woman alone as a non is mostly the best in a monastry where are no man so she is save and taken care of anyway without being manipulated and threathened.
Ok, so the entire range of ethical non-monogamy is generally referred to as polyamory. It includes many relationship styles that are as nuanced as the people who engage in them. Polygamy is but one type of polyamory. Not all polyamorous people marry. Not all polyamorous people marry all their partners. Not all polyamorous people are heterosexual. Many polyamorous relationships include the possible of both more than one man AND more than one woman.
I have a husband, and I have two long term lovers, who all choose not to have other lovers besides me. I have, in the time I have been with my husband, now 18 years, had several long term relationships with men and women, some of whom also had other relationships at the time.
What I insist upon is that everyone be ethically non-monogamous, not cheaters, and we are fastidious about safe sex. Nor do I engage in casual encounters.
This works for my life. It has its ups and downs. I can't imagine ever being monogamous again, or what that would even look like if I did choose it.
I believe that this is not for everyone. Probably not for many people. Monogamy is neither worse nor better a choice or way of being - just different. I encourage people to keep an open mind to people who do not live as they do, but to conduct themselves in keeping with their own values.
How you want your adult relationships to be is something you should choose for yourself - you do not have to simply accept what everyone else is doing.
Nope. I think when I was younger I was curious about what polygamy might be like, but I'm all grown up now and all curiosity has left my mind. Having multiples husbands sounds interesting but I can barely jungle having multiples crushes. Either way you go about it, it's all too much work in my opinion. Maintaining friendships and a relationship at the same time is a challenge for most, why would have multiples spouses be any easier? I prefer to stick with one or none personally.
Of course men are all for having a go with multiple wives. Very few could handle the situation if the roles were reversed. Big shocker.
I'm a woman and I would possibly MAYBE be able to consider polyandry, with the condition of everyone being treated with equal love and respect and no one being favorized. However, although I can't be sure since I've never tried polyandry, I think a monogamous relationship is still my preference.
When it comes to the jealousy factor, I know it could er difficult for me to be in a polygynous relationship for that reason and because (since I consider myself to be heterosexual) I could never simultaneously date the other women so they would risk becoming rivals if we didn't befriend each other.
Definitely there are girls as well as guys that aren't satisfied by only one partner. And I'm NOT referring to SEX here. I had an almost nutty girlfriend that definitely needed at least two people to tell her to stop bitching, lol.
Other than that, there is also the added bonus of 3 people working together for the same goal. Think of it like this: when you're alone, it's somehow difficult to achieve something, being it material or not. When you have a partner, it's easier: splitting the rent, steady sex, help at daily chores... And generalising, adding a third person would increase the comfort level with 50%, lol.
Now add up sexual benefits as well and it could probably mean it's the relationship of the future, lol!
I also have a job that usually requires me to spend too much time away from home and having a "certified lover" to care after my partner/wife would actually benefit me as well.
So in my oppinion, a male-female-male or female-male-female relationship can be fully functional. Also I'd be more relaxed as I would know who she's having sex with.
I can see this happening.
I've also been in FMF threesomes and wow! That was great! But I can also share, I don't have to be the star of the relationship, it's ok either way. ;)
I wouldn't want to touch other guys in a MFM threesome, though... 😒 sex would be more difficult for me if she would want both of us in the same time... But we can both work her out 2-3 feet away from each other, so yeah, it can be done!
I would opt for monogamy for multiple reasons, one of them is I treasure my companionship and the exclusivity of her intimacy towards me and signifiesy
My importance and encourages me to reciprocate at all costs. I can consider polygyny only if I fully comprehend the sincerity of the 3rd party and if my own partner finds it acceptable. But even then I am not fully welcoming of the idea because I know that if she wanted polyandry I would not accept it under any circumstance
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u The results show that, of those who would consider a polygamous relationship, women favor relationships between one woman and multiple men while men favor relationships between one man and multiple women. This suggests that most people of each gender have the same motivation; they do not want to be competing with other members of the same gender for the attention of their partner. Obviously, in polygamous relationships, one gender is not getting what they truly want, because they are competing with same gender partners. The ideal way to resolve that conflict for both partners is to agree to a monogamous relationship.
No, because it's hard enough pleasing one woman.
"I find it interesting that a majority of men would consider polygyny but not polyandry. Why? Would you be jealous if a woman divided her love between you and another man? Is it selfishness?"
I was gonna go into my answer anyways, so I may as well answer your follow up question with it.
If the opportunity arose (and I don't expect it ever will, and I expect monogamy, and I'm OK with that), my idea poly relationship would be me and two women.
But it isn't a mini harem type setup I imagine. I imagine a relationship that is like a perfect triangle.
I have two women, I am in love with both. Both women have me and each other, and are in love with both. It wouldn't be poly in that I would have two girlfriends I was in love with, separate from each other. The idea is they are as in love with each other as they are with me, and as I am to both.
And that is why polyandry is out. The only poly relationship I would want is one where all the people involved all love each other, and... I'm straight. I would not... could not, fall in love with another guy. It is inconceivable to imagine her loving the two of us, and me and him loving each other as much as her.
It isn't that I oppose such a relationship for those who want to do it that way, it is that such a relationship would never work for me.
I do not think it is selfish because in the polygyny version I would want (and only one I would settle for. It must all be mutual), everyone is in love. In Polyandry, he and I would merely be sharing her.
I was always a man for 1 woman, but I wouldn't mind if my woman want to sleep with others, just because I am aware of humans' sexual urges, and I dont think i own any kind of body, regardless of the fact she's either my "wife" or "g/f".
As long as she won't put our kids aside, and will do the house/financial commitments she's obligated to, Im all good.
Got no ego to wave with.
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Eventually all women come back to the one they love, and experience says that the more freedon you give them, and the more tolerance and understanding there is between us, the more they would want to come back.
Sex with a man that you've just met, will never be as satisfying from a man that truly loves you and your body (both physically and emotionally).
Although some women might enjoy the "thrill" of having sex with a stranger, or someone they have a crush on, but that will never last, thus causing them to come back to you every single time, and appreciate you more.
This is "Sexual Wisdom" in my opinion.
I feel like the best part of a monogamous relationship is knowing that there is one single person that shines above all others and you can put everything you have into that person. I feel like when you start adding more people, there's less of that going around. It's like if you dropped a droplet of food coloring into a glass of water. It'll be a pretty shade of blue until you start adding more and more cups of water, and then the color fades. I'm sure there are people out there that feel they can give to everyone equally but I'm not one of them
I am Poly, I don't like the terms used. It's Polyamorous... But whatever. Poly isn't like an open relationship, and it's not about "sharring", it's more then that! For example: This girlfriend is great at sex and bringing out your confident side!
But this girl makes you feel special and like a good person!
While the 3rd girl is clingy and romantic, making you feel lucky.
Being poly is simply accepting people for their strengths and embracing them! If your having a bad day... Go out with the girl that counters that mood. Someone who is poly is ALWAYS happy! That is a fact
No. Women are like wolves. It would only be a matter of time before they are literally at each other throats. A polygamous relationship is love disaster waiting to happen. No man can love a woman without hurting or making the other jealous. Not only that, I don't think a woman would want to share the same man twice with another woman. It's also impossible. For example, let's say a man was in a polygamous relationship with 4 girls in a big house. He all got girls pregnant in a orgy, and he got to take responsibilities for it. Since the superpower of multiplying isn't real, that man is going to have hell to pay with those women. No body is should be in a polygamous relationship unless a man meet a conjoined woman. That is only way a polygamous relationship could every happen.
I've been in polygamy relationships before. Both with another guy and a girl and with two girls.
I don't know about the other comments here but I had no problem pleasing both my partners sex wise.
As long as everybody is upfront about what's going on in their lives it makes for very fantastic lifestyle.
Sharing a girl with another man was interesting but the other man became my best friend. She loved us both but we all went our own way eventually.
With two girls sharing me was interesting. They didn't want to have sex together but they didn't mind sharing me. Sometimes it was like walking on eggshells when jealousy will kick in. But we all had so much fun together again we were all best friends. I had no problems keeping up with both of them. Still it felt like a lot of responsibility though but we made it work.
I don't consider it particularly likely, but I wouldn't point blank rule out a group of either composition.
Relationships are hard enough with just two people to keep track of, but who know? I find it credible that a group could just click and work out. I'm not particularly possessive, I appreciate a certain degree of mutual independence, so that part wouldn't be a problem at least.
That said, I'd want all parties to be involved with each other, not just sharing one member of the group. No sister-wives situation for me, if I'm involved in a polygamous relationship I expect to be in love and in bed with all contributing parties.
I recently started talking to a girl who we decided to try an open relationship where we both can have sex with who we want as long as we tell the other person.
Now I wouldn't be into something like this with most girls. I think being able to do it really depends on both people's views on sex. And if their not a very specific type of person, then it's not gonna work out. We're both very horny freaks and don't really get attached to someone because of sex. We just don't feel the correlation so it makes sense for us.
To have it go one way just doesn't feel right for me. It's been offered to me but I wouldn't do it.
The Mormons in America couple hundred years ago practiced polygamy. I saw a documentary on some that still practice it though it is illegal as far as law goes. The woman's reasoning what's that having a few women around made it easier for taking care of the necessary chores, child care, support, and companionship. They had said that their husband was not allowed to marry someone if they all didn't approve, and they all had their particular days of the week that they would spend with the husband. It allowed for widows to remarry and become part of a family where as first time men were usually pretty young.
Relationships of the heart are so complicated and individual relationships are so unique. It's impossible to expect everything from one person.
I'm naturally polyamorous. I can't just quieten my heart for one person. There are times in every relationship when the desire to run to another pair of arms is overwhelming and what's wrong with finding sanctuary with someone else when your hurting with someone else?
Right now I get a lot of my emotional needs met by a friend who lives far away, but he's always there to talk to. Maybe one day we'll be together, who knows. But not for many years. Do I sit around loving him and wait or do I take those feelings along for a ride while I meet other people?
Some people are great for a cuddle and not much else, but that cuddle is everything in the moment. What's wrong with that?
The problem is, we're not honest with ourselves and our partners. We don't admit to what we have or what we're doing. And that is ultimately what causes pain.
Nope. I give my all in relationships. Having to split my attention equally and always ensure that I am loving each partner equally siuch that neither gets jealous is too much juggling for me. I'm the one partner type girl, that I can give all of my unconditional love too and focus on being the best partner I can to them. Having two partners sounds way too tiring regardless of which type it is. Sure we can have a threesome every now and again but that would be both of us temporarily allowing a third person in and then getting back to the two of us. That's the way I like it.
"I find it interesting that a majority of men would consider polygyny but not polyandry. Why? Would you be jealous if a woman divided her love between you and another man? Is it selfishness?"
Because that's how biology works. You have only half as much male as you have female ancestors in your bloodline. That essentially means that half the men failed to procreate. The lower half. On the other hand it also means that every man who did procreate did on average impregnate TWO women.
Secondly it's simply difficult to figure out who is the dad in case she gets pregnant. Like what the heck. Shit is gonna be a huge pain in the ass.
Personally I think sharing isn't always caring. While biologically and on a purely physical drive I can understand having multiple women, but on an emotional basis of having a deep connection I really have no interest in that.
Really hate, can’t stand, and is driven into a rage with the idea of sharing the one I love with anyone. But when those days come around that she’s just exhausted and just tired of me sucking her pussy dry and screwing her brains out and I’m still so horny it feels like I’m dying and I’m on site like these to atlest ease my hurt and try to get some kind of arousal or maybe something to just make me feel good sexually and stumble on questions like these the thought comes to mind. All I can say is conflicted, that’s how I feel about that thing that you call it it’s not fair it’s only supposed to be a man to a woman but like I stated above, is really frustrating.
One woman and multiple men? Yes, I would do that, providing the extra men were bisexual. I wouldn't want straight men who were only interested in her or gay men who were only interested in me. All parties would have to be sexually compatible with all other parties. Since, with men, I am sexually submissive, the guy or guys would have to be sexually dominant.
I think the perfect situation would be two sexually dominant men, one sexually submissive man, and one woman. Even numbers are better than odd numbers. No one is left sitting on the sidelines, just watching.
These days most people aren't even monogomous in committed relationships. Cheating is glorified all over social media. Having a side piece is the new norm. So relationships with multiple partners actually makes sense due to the trends of today. And, it's most likely safer than flat out cheating. And to answer your question about why exactly more men are open to relationships with multiple women, it's for the same reason more women are open to the idea of multiple men in a relationship. Some say it's selfish, but at the end of the day men aren't any more selfish than women can be if that's what you are implying. Women cheat just as often as men, lie just as often, and play just as many games as the worst of us. So its fair to say that there are simply some selfish people, not solely selfish men. While u didn't say that specifically, I often find it necessary to explain this because men seem to get a bad rap for doing the same things women do just as often.
Never because my girlfriend is more than enough for me.
What happens if two people want to surprise you by taking you somewhere but both things are on the same day at the same time or will only be able to make one of them? What if both bought two concert tickets to the same concert just for you and them to go to? What if one of the guys gets the woman pregnant or the woman gets pregnant by one of the guys? Just a few things to think about.
Either you are into a polygamous relationship or you are not.
No. I prefer to be in a fully committed relationship with one guy. I'm a one-man-women. And I ain't sharing him lol
I believe polygamy relationships breed jealousy. It's not a healthy relationship if a person is sharing all their love, affection and attention between two or more than one partner. It's an unhealthy and weird arrangement in my opinion.
It would depend where I was in my life. Is their ever a future for three people in a relationship? I feel like jealousy often can ruin what started off as fun. I would be open to polygyny and polyandry, however I worry that both would cause extreme strain on relationships where communication is weak.
Short answer- it depends on the people
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