Is it mandatory to read her hints or pick up her signals to because successful on getting a girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

[slatyb]

It wasn’t hard for me after I started dating. I put a detailed profile on match. com, contacted some of the women, went on some dates. Had some conversation. The only thing that is mandatory is something you should have learned in kindergarten — listen when other people are talking. Mostly what people want in a relationship is someone else really paying attention to them. If you pay attention, a woman will teach you the rest.

[Asker]

I tried online datings. Didn’t work for me

[slatyb]

What happened? How many dates did you have?

[Asker]

Zero

[slatyb]

Is your life in order? What did your profile say?

[Asker]

Everything is fine it’s my rotten luck

[OlderAndWiser]

Do you have any idea about what to do with a girlfriend once you get one?

[Asker]

Im straight but I never had any girlfriends and it’s complicated

[OlderAndWiser]

When you get in a relationship, it doesn't matter if it's mandatory. You should want to understand all of your partner's communications!

[Asker]

It’s probably won’t happen with my rotten luck but thanks anyway

[OlderAndWiser]

As long as you think dating is a matter of bad LUCK, you will have bad luck.

[Asker]

Then I’m destined to be single then because I been looking for a partner for years. I’ve been trying to explain on here how bad my luck really is

[OlderAndWiser]

As I said, if you think this is controlled by luck. . . you'll keep doing the same thing, expecting to get a different result.

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[Middleman]

Yes. Unfortunately when it comes to girls and dating there's no real answer to this other than just keep trying. Other than learning to listen and respond to women and others better, converse and interact with others more, you really have to develop 'a sense' of what women like/need and just get out there - even if it means you know you will get turned down at some point. Do you dress well and feel confident about yourself? Do you have any personal interests like sports or music? Do you keep yourself healthy and fit? Do you go out and socialise? Do you take charge of situations? How do you present yourself? How do you act around other people? These are the kinds of things that women would be interested in. However in dating situations it's a lot tougher because she is and will be, sizing you up so to speak in the back of her mind (just as you will be with her) - and at times you may have limits as to what you can and should do (and when).

One of the things that guys sometimes tend to miss out on is what they'll do once they get a date. I've read a handful of horror stories where a guy who being a total stranger would think it a good idea to ask some girls sitting at a bar if they would like a drink; who then proceeds to buy them the drinks - and then scratches his head wondering what to do next. He has this problem because he didn't plan ahead. But more so because other than drinks he has done nothing with the girl during the meeting, to make any form of connection. As a guy it is your job to work out what to say; what to do next and where to take your date.

[kylee2437]

You should make it a point and set a boundary where you like direct communication because honestly I’ve been in a relationship where communication was hinting and everything and it got to be annoying. Set the boundary from the jump that direct communication is important.

[JoyGirl]

No…lol

Men are clueless when it comes to hints, anyway. Unless the woman make it very obvious. 😂

[Asker]

Feels like it and That’s true men are clueless

[JoyGirl]

Yea, but you will learn your girlfriend as the time goes on. So, dw.

[Asker]

Never had a girlfriend

[JoyGirl]

Chaiiii
I don't know what to tell ya, hun. 😅

[Asker]

It’s ok

[Guy13]

Yes and then address them... communicate and lead the conversation.

[Asker]

I can’t pick up their hints and I also can’t read their signals their sending off

[Guy13]

Then they probably feel a disconnect and move on. Women need that immediate vibe or emotional investment 🤷🏻‍♂️ It’s how they are

[Asker]

Those are also I can’t do either. On here I tried explaining to people on here that I am unable to have romantic relationships and I’m not making excuses on it

[Guy13]

Alright then... I hope you find a fit !!

[slatyb]

Have you considered counseling or a therapist/dating coach?

[Asker]

I’m already seeing a therapist. Online Datings, dating coaches didn’t work for me.

[slatyb]

"I'm already seeing a therapist..." Good. Do they have any suggestions for improving your dating success?

[Asker]

Not much. I guess it has to do with my luck

[krockysolid]

It's mandatory for us women to learn how to stop doing that and just be upfront in straightforward about what we want or what we're feeling

[ArtemisSilver]

Nope, asking often works too.

[Asker]

Asking often on what?

[FilmGuy93]

If not mandatory, damn close.

[TacosRAwesome]

Probably.