Was it wrong of me to refuse to help my fiance cook dinner after he worked all day?

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There is a lingering tension in my household currently. My fiance works outside the home, 5 days a week- a normal 9 to 5. I work a bucket load of side gigs every single day from the comfort of home. Making my own schedule and going at my own pace. I bring in around the same amount as he does.

The thing that has been affecting me lately is that we have 3 kids and a dog. His dog. A dog he wanted when no one else did. So I'm working, taking care of 3 kids and a dog I didn't want. I'm cooking, I'm cleaning, I'm bathing and bringing the dog out. I'm constantly on the move. And when he gets home, he goes in to the bedroom and relaxes, while I cook and clean up after cooking/dinner. I prepare his dishes for him and bring them to him in his office, where he is either watching YouTube or playing video games and then throughout the night I'm usually up and down getting him things. I usually do not mind catering to my husband, as I truly have a sense of pride being able to do these things for him. But I've burnt myself out. I'm exhausted and resentful, especially having the added chore of a dog.

So for the past week I have been pretty much begging for help. I keep saying how burnt out I am and keep saying how I feel like a mother and maid and nothing else and he just completely pushed me off and said "Well how do you think I feel? I work every single day". To be fair, my jobs combined are easier than his but it doesn't warrant a free pass on responsibilities in the house in my opinion.

So last night I finally broke. I cried, at a complete loss and he finally understood how far I was pushed. He said he would make dinner tonight. Well he gets home from work and IMMEDIATELY asks me to help him make dinner. Claiming it would be a team effort. And I told him no. He never helps me and it's never a team effort on those days. Now he is claiming that I'm pushing off his efforts at spending time with me and seems genuinely upset so I'm curious if I'm wrong here.

Was it wrong of me to refuse to help my fiance cook dinner after he worked all day?
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